the "mean girls" of nursing school

HeartsOpenWide, RN · Jan 12, 2012

How are they "mean" your post did not mention this, sounds like your jealous. Don't concern yourself with these girls and you will be much happier. I was too focused on school to let anyone else's actions bother me. We did not have "mean girls" in my program. There definitely were different groups that hung out together, but I got along with all my classmates.

Meriwhen, ASN, BSN, MSN, RN · Jan 12, 2012

With all due respect, it's you who sound like the mean one, not them. From what you write, their only crime appears to be talking during class...and if the instructor is letting them get away with doing that, then it's just as much the instructor's fault as theirs for not enforcing her class rules. I can't see how being pretty, smart, well-liked by their peers, or wanting to pursue advanced degrees equates to being "mean."

There's no law stating that you have to be BFFs or even like all of your classmates, just that you have to be able to work together when an assignment calls for it. It's clear you don't like these girls, so you don't need to cultivate any relationship with them. Don't pay any more attention to them--focus on yourself and I'm sure you'll be much happier.

If their mere existence is bothersome to you, then I don't know what else to tell you except to switch to a different nursing program.

However, this is not to excuse their talking in class...if their talking is bothersome to your learning, then tell the instructor about it, switch location in the classroom so you're not near them, or switch to another class section.

Pneumothorax, BSN, RN · Jan 12, 2012

yeah. & u know what. i dont give a crap about them. bc their priority is being snotty *##&* and not focusing on their work.

worry about you, so when u graduate and have a job and they are repeating classes, you can smile and giggle to yourself :)

MN-Nurse, ASN, RN · Jan 12, 2012

The prettiest and smartest in my class were not mean.

x_factor · Jan 13, 2012

There is a group of girls that were all together for the first clinical of nursing school and they have been BFF's ever since-- and they are all super smart and beautiful.

So they're best friends, smart, and pretty? Wow, that's... horrible?

I feel that they get away with talking during class because they are the prettiest and smartest in our class. Everybody else thinks they are super nice and sweet, but I am sooo sick of them.

You keep mentioning how "pretty" and "smart" they are. It sounds like you may be the one with an underlying issue here, not the other girls.

Oh ya, and about half of them are using their BSN to get into med school and the other half want to be NP's. I can't stand them.

Oh my, students who wish to further their education. They're the worst!

/sarcasm

I think you need to quit evaluating other students in your class, and re-evaluate yourself a little bit.

Skips, MSN, RN · Jan 13, 2012

I'm sure there are cliques in my class, but I don't really pay attention. I have a few people that I like to talk to, but they certainly aren't "mean girls", thank goodness! :)

Iridescent Orchid, CNA, LPN · Jan 13, 2012

[color=#2f4f4f]i will admit on the first day of class, i paid attention to who was around me and i do get the stereotype that you're referring to, but that's all it is, is a stereotype. there are three girls in my class that could be judged that way in an instant, they're pretty, they're smart, or have already been in other health-related programs, but are they really mean, snobby girls? no...they are there for the same reason we are. there is no time to be worrying about how pretty someone is or how more knowledgeable they seem than you, this is about you, your studies, your degree, your future...they're not going to be a part of your success, so please focus on you more and don't get caught up envying those around you! it's not worth it!

chiasmus100 · Jan 13, 2012

I notice when a student is passionate about a subject they try their best in every way and this can include extra studying and looking nice when going to class. Maybe its not that they are "prettier" and "smarter", but that they work harder (spend more time getting ready for class and more time studying). Maybe you should use them as inspiration to get your game up. They probably study a ton, work out and eat right, and do hair and make up before class.

Cathylady · Jan 13, 2012

I'd like to know what med schools accept a BSN as having fulfilled the requirements to enter? VCU specifically tells its nursing students that a BSN is not the road to med school. There's a boatload of classes required for med school that a BSN does not contain.

ThePrincessBride, MSN, RN, NP · Jan 13, 2012

Uh...OP, no offense, but you come off as mean and spiteful, not these girls. I have plenty of beautiful, smart girls in my class. I have never had problems with any of them. They have been polite towards me, and I have no qualms over their intelligence and beauty.

Quit being such a hater.

ChelseaLynn1623 · Jan 13, 2012

Does anybody have else have the "mean girl" clique in your class? There is a group of girls that were all together for the first clinical of nursing school and they have been BFF's ever since-- and they are all super smart and beautiful. I feel that they get away with talking during class because they are the prettiest and smartest in our class. Everybody else thinks they are super nice and sweet, but I am sooo sick of them.
Oh ya, and about half of them are using their BSN to get into med school and the other half want to be NP's. I can't stand them.
Share your stories about your "mean girls"

Honestly? This sounds like me and my group of friends in nursing school. I sought the girls I hang out with in school out, because being in an ADN program, we are the minority (20-somethings with no children). We hang out outside of class and we all have a desire to pursue masters degrees. I don't think we're mean because we are smart and motivated. I also don't think we get any special privilages for those qualities either.

Wrench Party · Jan 13, 2012

Wow, I must be oblivious to it in my class because I don't notice these things. I tend to do my own thing

at school because I've got a life and career outside of it, but I think everyone is mainly civil and friendly.

Most tend to act like the adults we are. Besides, we're all too busy juggling jobs, school, sleep, and families

to care about the petty B.S.

Most of the folks in my BSN program probably do want to go on and get their Masters, including me, which I think is an

admirable goal. Why not get more education if you have the ability to?

And not all MSNs go on to become NPs...a lot also become clinical specialists, educators, do admin/management,

or informatics. There are many different fields available.