I saw this in the horrific write up thread, and it got me to thinking.
yes hospital politics is craaazzzzy, the patient is always right it seems, i sure would like for them to back the employee once in a while. my horrific write up was unbelievable. I was working on a medical floor with 3 nurses and a tech, one of the other nurses' patients expired. it was at 0600 and we were about to change shifts so we were all running and doing our morning stuff. i went home after my shift that morning. i found out a few days later by a meeting with my nuse manager that i was written up for showing no compassion to that family. someone from the family complained that the hospital staff showed no compassion that morning. this was not even my patient; i was taking care of my own as well as helping the nurse finalize things with the death then gave report and went home. i was written up for "detrimental patient care" and patient neglect. it beats all i've ever seen. the nurse who was responsible for the patient got fired. the other nurse on the floor didn't get written up, i just didn't understand it.
Here's my story. No write-up or any complaint about it, but the poster's story that I quoted reminded me of it.
I was doing my assessments, and I knew an admit was coming in. A wife of a patient was having a very hard time with her husband's diagnosis, so I spent a few minutes with her. My admit came in, and he was a very funny guy. I went back to the nurse's station to do some charting, and I whispered in my charge's ear something funny that the admit said. We both giggled. I turned around, and the wife of my first patient was standing there. She was going to leave for the night, and I said, "Thanks for letting me know you're leaving. Get some rest." She thanked me and left.
I felt weird about that incident. I was truly concerned about her and her husband, but not 45 minutes earlier, she had seen me with a completely different demeanor.
When you are dealing with patients of various acuties and families in various stages of grief, do you ever wonder if they look at you at the nurses station and think, "SHE DOESN'T CARE!" We can't let all our patients get to us--we would burn out so quickly--but do you ever feel as if you need to be an actor on a stage? I think we all went into this profession because we do care (although that's probably not the only reason), but do you ever wonder if your demeanor outside of direct interaction with a patient is misconstrued? Do you have a "work face" that is deliberately designed to project something to patient's and families to avoid any misperception?