I lost my twins....can anyone help me? - page 2
Hi, I'm a 36 yr old mother to two teen boys. I found out I was pregnant with twins in late April....I thought I was around 8 wks when ultrasound was done, doc said 10 wks. Anyway, I was terrified,... Read More
Jun 12, '04Joined: Dec '02; Posts: 41,761; Likes: 48,078Kim - I'm very sorry about your babies but please take to heart (and mind) what everyone here is saying. There was nothing you could have done to make the outcome different. We don't always have answers to why but rest assured you did not do anything wrong.
People don't always know what to say and so either say nothing or say something that they haven't thought out very well. It is probably hard right now but don't take it personally and think "grace".
I believe that your children are in heaven and you will see them again.
Hugs to you.
Jun 12, '04From: US ; Joined: Oct '01; Posts: 6,238; Likes: 1,829I am so sorry for your loss, I can imagine how you are feeling. I lost several babies in midpregnancy.
I wish I had some great words of wisdom to help ease the pain you are feeling.
You are in my thoughts & prayers.
PM me if you want to talk.
Jun 12, '04Specialty: 15 year(s) of experience in Rehab, Med Surg, Home Care ; Joined: Mar '03; Posts: 1,129; Likes: 510So sorry, Kim. Keeping you in my thoughts-
Jun 12, '04Joined: Apr '00; Posts: 24,611; Likes: 35,448oh God, i am so, so sorry. you need to believe 2 important things...1. it was not your fault at all!! and 2. as long as i live, i will never understand the ignorance and insensitivity of so many people. take this time to mourn but know you and your family are in so many people's prayers. again, my heartfelt sorrow for your loss.
Jun 12, '04Occupation: LTC CNA Joined: May '04; Posts: 484; Likes: 226You are on my mind and in my prayers. This was not your fault. God Bless You.
Jun 12, '04Occupation: Med Surg/Telemetry Specialty: Telemetry/Med Surg ; Joined: Jan '03; Posts: 8,773; Likes: 1,503I am so very sorry for your loss. You have my sympathy and prayers.
Jun 12, '04Joined: Apr '02; Posts: 31,898; Likes: 20,743Everyone else has said it so well, just add me to the group hug.
Jun 12, '04Occupation: NICU nurse Joined: Mar '03; Posts: 292; Likes: 5I learned in my pathophysiology class that most spontaneous abortions (miscarriages) occur because of a chromosomal aberration. Obviously this is not anyone's fault, but it may have been so bad that it just wasn't compatible with life. One example of a chromosomal aberration would be Down Syndrome, which of course is compatible with life.
Jun 12, '04Joined: Oct '02; Posts: 60,386; Likes: 16,568I'm sorry for your loss and what you're going through.
Jun 12, '04Occupation: RN Specialty: 4 year(s) of experience in Med-Surg, Psych ; From: US ; Joined: Mar '04; Posts: 611; Likes: 24Kim,
I am so sorry to hear about your tremendous loss. Please take care of yourself.
Jun 12, '04Occupation: RN-i (RETIRED) Specialty: ORTHOPAEDICS-CERTIFIED SINCE 89 ; From: US ; Joined: May '00; Posts: 14,479; Likes: 2,298I'm sorry for your loss. Please take care.
As for the nosy inquirers forgive them for they are insensitive. The best answer is no answer at all.
Jun 12, '04Occupation: ADON-LTC Specialty: 19 year(s) of experience in LTC, ER, ICU, ; Joined: Feb '01; Posts: 5,856; Likes: 36i, too, am sorry to hear of your lost. (((((kim)))))
Jun 12, '04Occupation: ob staff nurse high-risk referral center Joined: Apr '01; Posts: 320; Likes: 32I'm so sorry....please know you are in many thoughts and prayers.