I lost my twins....can anyone help me? - page 2

Hi, I'm a 36 yr old mother to two teen boys. I found out I was pregnant with twins in late April....I thought I was around 8 wks when ultrasound was done, doc said 10 wks. Anyway, I was terrified,... Read More

  1. by   Spidey's mom
    Kim - I'm very sorry about your babies but please take to heart (and mind) what everyone here is saying. There was nothing you could have done to make the outcome different. We don't always have answers to why but rest assured you did not do anything wrong.

    People don't always know what to say and so either say nothing or say something that they haven't thought out very well. It is probably hard right now but don't take it personally and think "grace".

    I believe that your children are in heaven and you will see them again.

    Hugs to you.

  2. by   kids
    I am so sorry for your loss, I can imagine how you are feeling. I lost several babies in midpregnancy.
    I wish I had some great words of wisdom to help ease the pain you are feeling.
    You are in my thoughts & prayers.
    PM me if you want to talk.
  3. by   Chaya
    So sorry, Kim. Keeping you in my thoughts-
  4. by   leslie :-D
    oh God, i am so, so sorry. you need to believe 2 important things...1. it was not your fault at all!! and 2. as long as i live, i will never understand the ignorance and insensitivity of so many people. take this time to mourn but know you and your family are in so many people's prayers. again, my heartfelt sorrow for your loss.

  5. by   Chad_KY_SRNA
    You are on my mind and in my prayers. This was not your fault. God Bless You.

  6. by   suzy253
    I am so very sorry for your loss. You have my sympathy and prayers.
  7. by   dianah
    Everyone else has said it so well, just add me to the group hug.
  8. by   Mithrah
    I learned in my pathophysiology class that most spontaneous abortions (miscarriages) occur because of a chromosomal aberration. Obviously this is not anyone's fault, but it may have been so bad that it just wasn't compatible with life. One example of a chromosomal aberration would be Down Syndrome, which of course is compatible with life.
  9. by   Tweety
    I'm sorry for your loss and what you're going through.
  10. by   NewEnglandRN

    I am so sorry to hear about your tremendous loss. Please take care of yourself.


  11. by   P_RN
    I'm sorry for your loss. Please take care.

    As for the nosy inquirers forgive them for they are insensitive. The best answer is no answer at all.
  12. by   Love-A-Nurse
    i, too, am sorry to hear of your lost. (((((kim)))))
  13. by   rdhdnrs
    I'm so sorry....please know you are in many thoughts and prayers.