#nursesforgive

[Nerd eNurse]

I am a registered nurse and like the fact that nurses stood together, but the power of social media to crush or destroy somebody scares me. We need to try and adhere to the Golden Rule especially when using social media! So I posted the following on twitter hoping to advance the Golden Rule. The world now knows that nurses have limits on being belittled and disrespected. Now let us reinforce the public's faith that we are loving and nonjudgmental group!

#nursesunite rarely but #nursesforgive ALWAYS! @TheView @JoyVBehar

[Been there,done that, ASN, RN]

Except when politicians text member pics. member pic texting gets you bad publicity.

Totally depends on the size.

[ixchel]

Male RN's go through this alot. It is getting much better as time goes by.

Texting member pics?

True story - I was a landlord of apartments ages ago, and we'd get a lot of traveling nurses. This one guy we got was distractingly hot, and we had definite, immediate chemistry. At the end of his contract, he wandered off but we briefly stayed in touch. That is, until one day he sent me a member pic. It was lovely, don't get me wrong, but quite honestly, a member all by itself standing tall and proud is quite dumb looking. We stopped talking after that.

[Farawyn]

To: Farawyn

"What does being a male have to do with anything?"

Male RN's go through this alot. It is getting much better as time goes by.

Go through what?

[Nerd eNurse, ADN]

Go through what?

Intentionally negative comments and movie portrayals.

[SmilingBluEyes]

Join the human race. Women have put up with this for generations. I did when I was military and one of only 4 women in a shop of 97 men.

ALL of us could easily choose to be offended by stereotypes and other words. I pick my battles carefully.

Now about that "cut off circular member"???? I wonder HOW???

[Farawyn]

Intentionally negative comments and movie portrayals.

Okay, I'm really not following your train of thought here. "Forgive" me?

[Nerd eNurse, ADN]

Okay, I'm really not following your train of thought here. "Forgive" me?

It seems that the majority of the comments disagree with me. I am just rationalizing the possible reason for my different opinion with some validation. My perspective comes from a narrow point of view. Why would I need to forgive you? Are you poking fun at me?

[BonnieSc]

Oh, please. I get that male nurses get more teasing in nursing than they would as doctors or welders or whatever. Do you think female nurses do NOT get crap constantly? When was the last time you felt physically threatened because a patient said he would love to rape you? Are you frequently reluctant to bend down and pick something up because your patient has been staring at your butt all shift? Do patients ever ask you why you don't wear a little cap and a short skirt like nurses do in the "movies"? Are you ever in the middle of a bed bath when the patient tells you "You know, I haven't been with a woman in a long time..."

I have asked my male co-workers about sexual harassment and they get some, but it's generally things like "well, aren't you handsome!", nothing like what I've described.

When male nurses are kind and compassionate, they get praised to the hills by patients and management. When female nurses are kind and compassionate, it's part of their job. (This is a generalization but something I've observed, as have others.)

I recognize that there are sometimes inappropriate workplace comments toward men, and that as a female nurse no one ever suggests that I must be gay (oh, the horror). I'm not saying it's all gravy for men. But if you think for a moment that you are somehow MORE disadvantaged because of your gender than female nurses, and especially if you really think, as you stated, that men have more negative movie portrayals, you need to open your eyes and ask a few questions of your female co-workers.

By the way, when was the last time someone implied that you became a nurse because you were hoping to marry a rich doctor?

Off topic, I guess. Perhaps you do have a different perspective on this issue than many female nurses do, but if so, I don't think it's manifested in the way you describe (you're always taking crap as a nurse so you're used to it). Maybe it's more like, women are always taking crap and it's more hurtful when it comes from other women.

[Nerd eNurse, ADN]

I'm thinking angry wife, or stupid drunk night truth or dare match gone wrong. Maybe? He had to have done it when he was somewhat younger, like, pre-belly age. It was deformed sort of vertically, so, one would imagine he was flaccid at the time.

I thought this was a serious site where nurses could talk shop and express ourselves. This line of discussion should be om a different discussion. I don't like talking about patients current or former. I feel that is very disrespectful. Just my opinion.

[Jensmom7, BSN, RN]

I thought this was a serious site where nurses could talk shop and express ourselves. This line of discussion should be om a different discussion. I don't like talking about patients current or former. I feel that is very disrespectful. Just my opinion.

I do believe we've gotten all the serious we're going to get out of this thread. Now we're into silly.

Bonus points if you know what movie this is from:

"Lighten up, Francis."

[SmilingBluEyes]

I see someone who sees people not agreeing with his opinions and getting ready to take his marbles and leave the game. Seriously (or not) you need to lighten up a bit.

We disagree. Ok. Next.

[Nerd eNurse, ADN]

Oh, please. I get that male nurses get more teasing in nursing than they would as doctors or welders or whatever.

Maybe it's more like, women are always taking crap and it's more hurtful when it comes from other women.

I never said male nurses had it worse than female nurses. And I agree with you that women have it worse than men do. I was just trying to defend my viewpoint. I think your last statement is spot on