Nurse dates doctor openly at work.

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What do you think about a nurse who dates the doctors she works with. We have a nurse in our unit that is doing that. It is quite embarrasing when relatives of the patients are asking how long they have married. When doctor is actualy married to someone else. Our unit has brought this to the attention of the unit manager, but she does not share our concerns. Is this right.

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I become part of the problem.

You got that 100% right Tweety. And that is the issue in our just "turning the other way, minding our own business". We can become part of the problem and get caught up in some ugly proceedings later on. That is something none of us wants.

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Frogive me for asking but I am wondering if you might be just a bit jealous of the couple and their happiness.

They are sinning and God WILL punish them if they do not cease and desist. God will not be mocked. The key, though, is that GOD will deal with them.

The best thing you can do is keep out of it. If patients ask you about them, just refer them to the COUPLE. How are you supposed to know their business?

As I said, keep out of it if you want to avoid trouble. It's really not your business, unless you want to pray for them silently.

IMO, this is the best reply yet. I, too, wonder about the jealousy factor.

They will reap what they sow as far as the doc being married. Plus, the nurse will soon find out that if he will cheat on his wife, he will cheat on her too.

As far as pt's questioning if they're married, the OP didn't elaborate on the reasoning they were questioning that. As far as we know, they may just share the same last name. Again, unless they are sucking face in front of the pt's, as long as care isn't compromised, it is none of anyone's business.

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It's not about jealousy, sorry you see it that way. If this happens to you, you might see it differently, esp if your whole workplace environment is changed by it.

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It's not about jealousy, sorry you see it that way. If this happens to you, you might see it differently, esp if your whole workplace environment is changed by it.

Actually, we cannot say for sure if it is or isn't about jealousy since we don't have more info from the OP. I don't necessarily think that it is just jealousy, hence the reason I said in my previous post that I "WONDER" about the jealousy factor.

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Iwannabern: Well we can speculate the true situation all day; you are 100% right there. And perhaps many of us have taken liberties that are rather extensive here. But I do think outside romantic relationships have no place bleeding over into the workplace, where they are patently obvious to our patients. That to me, is the large issue.

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You got that 100% right Tweety. And that is the issue in our just "turning the other way, minding our own business". We can become part of the problem and get caught up in some ugly proceedings later on. That is something none of us wants.

I think then on one level we are in agreement. MYOB is dysfunctional in a lot of situations and a cop out in others. You can't just sit and mind your business if it's unprofessional and disruptive. But gossiping, running to the manager doesn't cut it either. Direct confrontation on what they are doing and how it is affecting you and the unit works best in many situations.

I still like the live and let live approach if it is not disrupting the unit or effecting patient care, which is what I've seen. But in some of the cases I've heard here, direct confrontation was too late in coming, if at all.

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That is HORRIBLE!!! They are both ethically immature and I would judge their perfomance as health professionals based on this.....

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I think then on one level we are in agreement. MYOB is dysfunctional in a lot of situations and a cop out in others. You can't just sit and mind your business if it's unprofessional and disruptive. But gossiping, running to the manager doesn't cut it either. Direct confrontation on what they are doing and how it is affecting you and the unit works best in many situations.

I still like the live and let live approach if it is not disrupting the unit or effecting patient care, which is what I've seen. But in some of the cases I've heard here, direct confrontation was too late in coming, if at all.

agree with you here Tweety!:kiss

Except direct confrontation can truly backfire in already dysfunctional workplaces.

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agree with you here Tweety!:kiss

Except direct confrontation can truly backfire in already dysfunctional workplaces.

Yes it can, as can silence. It also depends on how you "confront". By confront, I don't mean "in your face", I mean a mature face-to-face conversation. But without a doubt, it doesn't always end well by no means.

The trick is to stop dysfunction in it's tracks. Not easy at all. That's why I'm glad I work in a big hospital where I have been able to change positions when I tire of the toxicity. But I'm also older and wiser, and more able to confront. It's amazing what a mature, non-threatening one-on-one conversation gets you.

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As long as it isn't affecting patient care or the way the nurse or doc performs their jobs, what business is it of anyone else?

:yeahthat:

Too many people seem to have nothing better to do than stick their noses into stuff that is nunyabidness.

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It doesn't until it was presented or even indicated in the OP, which it wasn't.

Marie, surely you don't believe that people always tell everything.

Or that people always tell the truth and always say exactly what they mean.

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Marie, surely you don't believe that people always tell everything.

Or that people always tell the truth and always say exactly what they mean.

Did i say that? No.

What i remark on is what the OP is presenting, and i'm aware there is more than one side of a situation.

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