nurse & dr affair, what should I do?

middleageNP · Nov 10, 2006

I don't know. I am just shocked. I know I can stay out of their business but it is so hard to do so. Our place is so small. It is not in a hugh hospital settings, so basically I see these two disguishing faces everyday.
I know that this nurse is taking advantages of the situation. She is bragging about how her sugar daddy spoiled her with gifts and trips. It is just sad that these people have kids. I am now thinking to myself, "what's wrong with this world?"

In this world, it is common to disapprove another for doing something we think is immoral. But we really don't have the right to do that. No one has a right to judge or tell how another should behave or act when it comes to personal business. It is out of ego that we want to tell someone what not to do in their private affairs. I don't think what they're doing is un professional if they both are competent with their work duties.

I think you should let it go and focus on your work. It's not your business.

angel337, MSN, RN · Nov 10, 2006

go to work as usual. there isn't anything you can do to stop two consenting adults from doing what they want.

Princess74 · Nov 10, 2006

It is true that this kind of behavior happens in just about all work places. It is going on now at mine and has several times in the past. I just act as if I do not know anything about it.

Country PICU · Nov 10, 2006

You need to mind your own business.

Unless it is you are jealous of her relationship, are you secretly upset that he is not having an affair with you?

Just kidding. :kiss

Daytonite, BSN, RN · Nov 10, 2006

Just found out that one of our nurses (divorced w/ kids) is having an affair w/ a married doc. it is disguishing! what would you do if you were me?
I think it is totally unethical to have a work place affair, it just makes me sick to even have to work with these people.
Please help and explain to me why people are doing unprofessional things like that?:uhoh21:

If I were as disguished as you, I would quit. It's too bad that people are insensitive and make a work situation difficult by pulling a stunt like this. :angryfire Hope you find a better job soon where everyone minds their own business and keeps their affairs to themself.

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · Nov 10, 2006

If it's happening in front of me (i.e. touching, the pt. notices, etc.), then it became my problem. Till then, it's not my business.

LeahJet, ASN, RN · Nov 10, 2006

I have said this before in simular threads...

Fate always has a way of biting these people in the butts.

EmerNurse, BSN, RN · Nov 10, 2006

Have to agree with most folks - stay OUT of it. Now if she's bragging your face, you might want to say "You know, this really isn't anything I want to know about, M'kay?" and go back to your work.

If patients are noticing and making comments about behavior, you can always say, (straight face) to her, "it's so funny, Patient XXX thought it was sweet that two *married* people get to work together - can you imagine?" and back to work. Ok so I have a sarcastic italian mouth, but if the patients are noticing, I'd give a gentle heads up to the nurse and then leave it alone.

kukukajoo, LPN · Nov 10, 2006

best advice I could give is stay AWAy from this! I would not even speak of it as that is just adding to the gossip.

This behavior goes on at many workplaces across the country so leaving is out.

Maybe someone closer can have a little conversation with the nurse or doc about discretion and that everyone knows? That has a way of putting a damper on these things!

txspadequeenRN, BSN, RN · Nov 10, 2006

It sounds like you have a little more than a personal problem with this. If I were you I would stay of of these peoples buisness. You dont know all the circumstances and if these people have any pull whatsoever , you could find yourself without a job if you metal....

DutchgirlRN, ASN, RN · Nov 10, 2006

M.Y.O.B......they think it's all fun and games now but in the end they will be the ones paying for their sins. What goes around...comes around.

If she's bragging to you tell her "I really don't want to hear this" and walk off. She'll get the message.

Chances are very good that administration is already aware of the situation. Gossip spreads fast.

medicrnohio, RN · Nov 10, 2006

I am now thinking to myself, "what's wrong with this world?"

Wow, if this minor incident (in my mind) is making you think this then how do you feel about all the other things such as war. It is none of your business what these people are doing. I say...stay out of it.