nurse & dr affair, what should I do?

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Just found out that one of our nurses (divorced w/ kids) is having an affair w/ a married doc. it is disguishing! what would you do if you were me?

I think it is totally unethical to have a work place affair, it just makes me sick to even have to work with these people.

Please help and explain to me why people are doing unprofessional things like that?:uhoh21:

Keep out of it. Pray for them. Are you sure there isn't maybe, and please pardon me for even thinking the thought, just a little jealousy?

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Specializes in Emergency.
"Who gossips to you will gossip of you".:barf01:

I've never heard that before, but is so true.

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but dammit I AM A CHRISTIAN and at least I have the decency to hide it!!!!!!":lol2: :lol2: :lol2:

Were you kidding or for real about advocating hypocrisy? Mind you, I know we all have many sins and that most of us hide most of them.

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Sandee, just wondering - how did you find out? You probably don't have all the facts. Stay out of it is my best advice, unless you can sit down with your colleague quietly and privately and be straightforward with her. Even then, it's probably better to listen and keep mum.

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Sounds to me as if you have some unresolved issues of your own? :idea: I'm no psych Dr, but I did sleep at a holiday-inn express last night!

Actually, I was thinking the same thing! :D

I'm with the NOYB crowd. If it's not affecting the delivery of quality patient care or affecting the general work area without getting into personal issues, just let them be.

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I have to agree with stevielynn and destiny 5 - you CAN choose who you fall in love with. This kind of thinking reminds me of the battered, abused woman who stays with her "man" saying "But I can't help it, I have to stay with him, I love him." You CAN walk away from an inappropriate relationship -I know, I moved 6,000 miles away from home to get away from one.

I do agree, you can say no, and sometimes it can be difficult but you can do it. All I was trying to point out was that affairs usually start the same way normal relationships do. Some conversation, you find you have a lot in common, you click, more conversation, you become good friends, and then BAM! There you have it, there you are.

Or, what do I know. Maybe he just walked up to her one day (or vice versa) and said, hey, you wanna hop in the sac?

Anyway, yes, a strong person can walk away, obviously she doesn't want to be that strong!

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Specializes in Community Health, Med-Surg, Home Health.

I know it is hard, but this is the real world. Unless it is personally affecting you, it is essentially not your business. It may be because you are aware of the behavior...think about it...there may have been many affairs going on around you and they just happened to be more discreet about it.

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Hey, Sandee. Just remember that it would be unprofessional on your part if you go around the hospital telling everyone what you suspect.

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Professionals are humans too! Just because you work in the medical field does not mean that you don't feel the same emotions as people in other fields. Putting on that uniform everyday does not turn me into a robot and it shouldn't. Who a coworker is sleeping w/ is not your business, it is their life, not yours. Ok you don't approve. I'm sure you do some things other people may not understand or approve of. I do not agree and cannot ever imagine sleeping w/ a married man but those are my personal ethics and values. I don't have the right to hurt or upset other people because I don't approve of their choices. If the pt's are being harmed that's a different matter but they are hurting only themselves (and they may not even see the harm that will eventually come to many b/c of their affair) then no one should interfere. They are grown'ups and can/do make their own choices in life.

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I forget who it was that said if she loved him ...she would leave him.....and THAT would prove she really truly cared..........what if the situation at home was unbearable for him...and she was his reason he could still stay in the house and keep sane ? Hes a selfish cowardly you-know-what for not telling is wife hes not happy but maybe they will "when the kids are older, right? " :uhoh3:

I'm putting my head on the chopping block.....but i'm just telling you what we hear as excuses here in the Great Rainy North...

Z :balloons:

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Just remember - the messenger always gets shot.

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I don't know. I am just shocked. I know I can stay out of their business but it is so hard to do so. Our place is so small. It is not in a hugh hospital settings, so basically I see these two disguishing faces everyday.

I know that this nurse is taking advantages of the situation. She is bragging about how her sugar daddy spoiled her with gifts and trips. It is just sad that these people have kids. I am now thinking to myself, "what's wrong with this world?"

You sound jealous. Why do you care about what there doing. You dont know there situations. Mind your buisness and let it go. And what makes them so disgusting. And how do you know the nurse is taking advantage of the situation?

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