A patient made me cry today - page 4

my skin is really thick. i've seen alot of things between being a nurse and a paramedic. i've seen abuse, neglect and death before. today, i got a patient from the emergency room with a massive... Read More

  1. by   VivaLasViejas
    What an amazing story...........you are a magnificent nurse!

    What you did for this poor man may be all in a day's work for you, but for him, it meant the world. Your reward may not be great on earth, but I believe that someday you will see this man again in Heaven, whole and happy, and you will know then how much he appreciated your efforts on his behalf.

    If ever I am in need of compassionate nursing care, I hope and pray that someone just like you will be there for me.

    Bless you for your kindness. You are a credit to our profession.
  2. by   mama_d
    Flightnurse,

    In a recent thread reference was made to the fact that some of us believe that God (or Whoever) puts patients in our care when He does for a reason...

    To me, it sounds like you were put where you were when you were to help restore some of this man's trust and faith in humanity. Bless you for doing such a wonderful job.
  3. by   paganoid
    Quote from mama_d
    Flightnurse,

    In a recent thread reference was made to the fact that some of us believe that God (or Whoever) puts patients in our care when He does for a reason...

    To me, it sounds like you were put where you were when you were to help restore some of this man's trust and faith in humanity. Bless you for doing such a wonderful job.
    My only aspiration is to be the right person in the right place at the right time. Bless you all.

    paganoid
  4. by   JennRN65
    (((((((((Allison))))))))

    Tears flowed from my eyes as I read about your experience. Thank you for providing him with dignity and letting him know someone cared. I am sure he heard you.......

    As for his "caregiver," I hope social service is able to track them down and do something about the abuse that they inflicted on that poor man.
  5. by   southernbeegirl
    You really were his angel, allison. God put you in his path because God knew you would love him thru his time of need. You showed him more love in 12 hours than he'd obviously known in a while. I'm so glad you were there for him!!!

    i hope the caregiver and whoever hired her get charged for their abuse! it's hard to believe how someone can do that to another person!

    they will get their judgement...in this life or the next.
  6. by   sissiesmama
    Oh, Allison - Now you have me crying for this poor man. It just really stinks when patients are not treatedd as "patients" or "people", they are just thought of as "the decub", or the "...(inset your choice here)"For one small window of time, you were able to give that poor patient what every one of us desires for ourselves and for our family members.

    Whether that poor man was able comprehend what had happened in the past to him, and whether he had many family members to see about him, even if it wasn't someone deliberately harming him, neglect is abuse, that patient was in such a pitiful environment and it just makes me shudder to think what must be going through their minds, "What did I do to deserve this..."

    No matter how long he would be there with you and your staff, you gave him something we all desire - an 8 or a 12 hour shift filled with a caring and compassionate person - you. No one can take that away from him. Nobody. It's just a shame he wasn't able to get it earlier, before your paths crossed.

    From the bottom of my heart, I say thank you for him for being there to do what he couldn't and give him what he needed. You were one of this mans angels - even if you guys were only together for such a small amt of time.

    Anne, RNC
  7. by   bluesnurse
    You know, I was just over reading the "Real Nursing" thread.

    You, sister, are a Real Nurse.

    You also write beautifully. Just a thought -- you might try some journaling to sort out your emotions through what must be an incredibly difficult time for you.

    OK, I'm gonna go cry now.
  8. by   Tait
    Bumped for more to read.

    Tait
  9. by   SuesquatchRN
    I'm sitting here with tears rolling down my cheeks.

    Thank you.
  10. by   TheCommuter
    Allison: out of curiosity, did this elderly gentleman come from home? Or, was he sent to your hospital by a nursing home?

    God bless you for your compassion and caring.
  11. by   flightnurse2b
    Quote from TheCommuter
    Allison: out of curiosity, did this elderly gentleman come from home? Or, was he sent to your hospital by a nursing home?

    God bless you for your compassion and caring.
    apparently, according to his case manager, he was at a nursing home until his medicare SNF days ran out... but did not qualify for medicaid, so he kind of fell through the cracks... and thats where this "caregiver" came along.

    i saw his obit in the paper yesterday... and i actually had a big feeling of relief for him...i just know he is in such a better place now and is not alone and suffering anymore!!
  12. by   sissiesmama
    Well, Allison - that man was sure blessed to be cared for by you while he was still here with us. I just wish he could have found a sweet compassionate soul to help him before his situation became what it was.

    I would consider myself fortunate to have you care for my family member. Like I said in an earlier post, I shudder to think what had been going through that poor man's mind when all that had been happening. No one should have to go through that. No one.

    Anne, RNC
  13. by   Crux1024
    Flightnurse,


    I hope I can be as compassionate and caring as you one day.

    Thank you for doing what was right and human and decent.

    I also got misty eyed...

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