Not wanting to take care of male resident

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I have take nursing assistant for my prerequisites. I wanted to take the class during spring,so can a request to only take care of female residents. By the way I am a female and freshman in college.I feel uncomfortable seeing anything(grooming,bathing,changing) below a male residents belt. Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Can I makeup a reason like religion(I will be any religion or sexually orientation for that class...

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Likely no. Have you ever seen a member? Serious question because if it's just a matter of having not seen one before and you are nervous, maybe google image "member" and have a field day getting comfortable looking at them. I'm sure google with have a plethora of healthy as well as "*** is wrong with it" type pics to see that can help get you more accustomed to a member. Remember that as a nurse you will see ALL of many of your patients and they will need help. You don't get to choose to only aid for females. And what is it about the member. What about if a female has trauma to her breasts and you have to assess them every day. What about a female who needs to be cathed? Just because you are a female yourself does not make it any less awkward then cathing a man. At least a man doesn't have to spread eagle for you. If its just not being comfortable, I like the mall idea of saying "member, lady parts" as people walk by.

Imagine my shock when I went to cath a female in nursing school and discovered that she was a hermaphrodite. Hmmm...would have been nice to know.

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Try again. That's about as much of a turn on having someone else wipe your rearend.

​I have no idea what you mean. I'm just relating what the policy was ~ 30 years ago at my nursing school. Why are you snarking at me?

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membermembermembermembermember....

Feeling better yet?

Grntea, if I dream of a member tonight, I'm blaming you!:lol2:

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Specializes in ortho, hospice volunteer, psych,.

I'm sorry. It has been one of those days, I guess.:bag: I wasn't thinking while I was typing.

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Nursing student/nursing assistant here. I've got a semi-related question. How do you deal with patients who make lecherous comments, look at you with creepy eyes during cares, or seem to enjoy peri-care a little too much?

This was what I meant to answer. I'm an idiot!

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Or maybe you give him the washcloth and say "Do it your **** self." Again don't touch unless they are incapable of doing it themselves. I have done peri-care only a few times because my experience at clinical rotations, a lot of people are up and moving and able to do it themselves. My first full bed bath was on a very very confused lady. She was very weak and could not walk or stand very well and had no idea where she was. When I washed her "peri-area" she asked me if she stank down there. I was like...uhhhhh i'm really holding my breath so I couldn't tell ya!! lol (no i didn't really say that :) )

I really am dying to know what the bleeped out word is.

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It's damn. I made a commitment to not cuss several years ago and unless I'm angry I don't...lol.

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Just reading the OP, no other responses yet. I call an incredibly naïve and unrealistic nursing student to be....

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Oh honey, no you can't....((HUGS)) what does the spring have to do with requesting females?

member....It is a body part...like an arm, a leg, a toe, a breast. Just a body part. While some never get "comfortable" with certain body parts...you do get used to it. It is, after all, just another appendage. Even nuns who cared for the sick year ago care for the parts below the waist. Sexual preference is not a consideration for you are not looking at your patient in a sexual manner.

As a nurse you will have to take care of make patients as well...you will have to look at and insert tubes(foley caths) into the member to drain urine.

((HUGS)) it does get easier.

Everyone knows spring is member season!

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Just reading the OP, no other responses yet. I call an incredibly naïve and unrealistic nursing student to be....

Or they're embarrassed.

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According to the dictionary, it's penes or memberes. Penii would only work if it were penus, and even then only sometimes.

member - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary

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Nursing student/nursing assistant here. I've got a semi-related question. How do you deal with patients who make lecherous comments, look at you with creepy eyes during cares, or seem to enjoy peri-care a little too much?
If possible hand them the cloth and have them wash themselves. Ignore the looks they act out to get a response if you could care less they stop. I ahve had adult young males in the ED be provocative and say "hay baby lookie here"....to which I laugh and respond..."I've seen bigger and better" and walk away. Like the school bully they are looking or a reaction...don't give them one.
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