Not wanting to take care of male resident

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I have take nursing assistant for my prerequisites. I wanted to take the class during spring,so can a request to only take care of female residents. By the way I am a female and freshman in college.I feel uncomfortable seeing anything(grooming,bathing,changing) below a male residents belt. Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Can I makeup a reason like religion(I will be any religion or sexually orientation for that class...

Specializes in Med Surg, PCU, Travel.
membermembermembermembermember....

Feeling better yet?

:roflmao: lol please dont run around yelling "vaa..j j's" lol:roflmao:

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Nursing may not be for you dear lol

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Nursing student/nursing assistant here. I've got a semi-related question. How do you deal with patients who make lecherous comments, look at you with creepy eyes during cares, or seem to enjoy peri-care a little too much?

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Nursing student/nursing assistant here. I've got a semi-related question. How do you deal with patients who make lecherous comments, look at you with creepy eyes during cares, or seem to enjoy peri-care a little too much?

My classmates had that experience they just laughed it of...I think its especially older men like to make nasty comments...but you know what that's all about? He's just insecure and trying to be manly. Just don't be timid and super gentle when doing pericare on a man. As much as they seem to like that its easy to make things hurt down there....ooch! If I was a woman that what I'd probably do. Surely will stop any comments. lol He'll probably never want you as his nurse again.

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Or maybe you give him the washcloth and say "Do it your **** self." Again don't touch unless they are incapable of doing it themselves. I have done peri-care only a few times because my experience at clinical rotations, a lot of people are up and moving and able to do it themselves. My first full bed bath was on a very very confused lady. She was very weak and could not walk or stand very well and had no idea where she was. When I washed her "peri-area" she asked me if she stank down there. I was like...uhhhhh i'm really holding my breath so I couldn't tell ya!! lol (no i didn't really say that :) )

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I had a patient, a creepy old guy, who would rub his leg on the CNA when she was trying to help him. I simply went in and confronted him. Oh, was he livid... threatening to hit me, threatening to sue me, etc. After telling him that I would have him arrested if he committed battery, I simply refused to engage him.

His behavior ceased, however.

We had another patient that was making inappropriate remarks to the ladies. In that case, I encouraged them to write a letter to management addressing the sexual harassment that they were facing. The guy was transferred out the next day and tagged with an "emergency care only" label.

At my current job, we have a couple of... males (I refuse to call them men because real men don't do that crap)... who make lewd comments to the ladies. They simply become a shared patient among the guys. They also get a stern talking to by the charge nurse and the docs. Most of our gals are pretty tough cookies and hard to rattle, though. Still, no reason a gal should have to take care of a pervy-dude when we are fortunate enough to have guys who can take the assignment.

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I took my CNA class when I was about your age. I had seen a member before , but never cleaned one lol. Honestly I think I was more "embarrassed" about doing peri care on a female. But eventually, I got used to it. Now, almost five years later I can look back on the whole thing and laugh about it. It's nothing to be afraid of, I promise ! ;)

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It's not like a tentacle that's going to wrap around your throat!

Not sure how everyone overlooked this comment but it's hilarious!!!!

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I went to a nursing school at a Catholic hospital. Back then, they had orderlies who did transports, lifts and male caths. The nurses were not allowed to do any male caths. The first time I did one was my senior year when we had a rotation at a rehab hospital for children up to age 21y.

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Nursing student/nursing assistant here. I've got a semi-related question. How do you deal with patients who make lecherous comments, look at you with creepy eyes during cares, or seem to enjoy peri-care a little too much?

"Oh, please. Is that the best you've got?"

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One exercise to try to get over this fear is designed to make you realize there's absolutely nothing special about a member. Half the human race has penes (plural). Every man or boy you know or ever knew had or has a member. (Yep, the technique involves saying, "member," though not out loud. You will do that much later in your career.) This is also designed to make you laugh, so get ready to have a little fun with it.

This is actually a great time of year to do this exercise, because there are big crowds in the stores, malls, and sidewalks. What you do is find yourself a comfortable place to sit and watch the world go by. Briefly glance at every person that passes your station, just long enough to determine whether the person is male or female. You do not have to stare at their pants, just identify their biological sex, male or female. (If you see someone who's ambiguous, impossible to guess, no penalty-- let 'em go.)

For every male, of any age, from toddlers to ancients, say silently to yourself, "member." For every female, say, "lady parts." Now, faster. You want to see as many people in as short a period as you can, so your mind is clicking away, "member. member. lady parts. member. lady parts. lady parts. ?? lady parts. member. member. member. ?? member. lady parts. ..." Faster! Faster! You're not taking time to stare at anyone, just collecting fast data points! Faster! Don't forget the Mall Santa and Mrs. Claus. Even though they are imaginary... "member. lady parts." ....

Believe me, in a greater or lesser period of time your brain will start chuckling, and then you will start smiling to yourself, and eventually you will feel silly and want to laugh out loud, and that's when you get up and go home. And you will never worry about penes and lady partss again.

I beg to differ, GT. In nursing school, my group of friends, which included a couple guys, had some loud, long debates about the plural of "member." We decided with absolute certainty that the plural is "penii."

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I went to a nursing school at a Catholic hospital. Back then, they had orderlies who did transports, lifts and male caths. The nurses were not allowed to do any male caths. The first time I did one was my senior year when we had a rotation at a rehab hospital for children up to age 21y.

Try again. That's about as much of a turn on having someone else wipe your rearend.

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