My question is: Why are nurses so mean to each other?

[LadyJRN1]

Hello everyone!

I am not here to complain; however, I would like to vent just a little. I was recently let go from a job because my boss believed someone who was not an RN take a comment totally out of text and she believed them instead of me. I am surviving - however, my point is this: why do nurses have to sabatauge other nurses and make their lives miserable? I do have to say the meanest people I have ever met are in the field of nursing and it makes me wonder what good I actually do in this field. I have yet to find my nitch and have been an RN for 5 years now. Please write and tell me I am not the only nurse in the world who feels that she cannot trust anyone and that other nurses are so mean and nasty it makes what I do not seem worth it. Thanks for listening!

[Spidey's mom, ADN, BSN, RN]

[color=#00bfff]no i didn't have time to read the entire thread it was way too long but i tried to go back and edit my post after reading more but it was way too late. sorry.

i just want you to realize that there are great places to work with people who believe in being patient advocates and work well together as a team.

steph

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

who's looking for "lovey-dovey"?

whether it would be dog eat dog individually or collectively, i still don't think that men would tolerate the abuse, the staffing, the manipulative behaviors.

addressing those issues alone, would take a tremendous burden off our current state of affairs.

i'm trying to understand your analogy of female medical students to nsg students.

i'm not sure we're comparing apples to apples since the issues aren't the same...

leslie

It was just an expression, not exactly what I'm looking for in nusring.

I'm saying that people are saying nursing is so bad because it's a female dominated profession. Another female dominated profession is the medical profession, or it's soon to be in the next decade. Is the medical profession becoming more catty because females are beginning to dominate. I wasn't comparing medical students to nursing students, but females to females.

And I was agreeing with the concept, that if females are tired of it being a catty profession, then we need to look in the mirror.

[Spidey's mom, ADN, BSN, RN]

And I was agreeing with the concept, that if females are tired of it being a catty profession, then we need to look in the mirror.

Having a bad attitude about those around us is a CHOICE. We alone are responsible for our behaviors and moods. Whining is useless and futile if you want to problem solve and find resolution.

If the place you work unfortunately has more than its fair share of "mean girls" you can leave. Or before that, give a try to changing things, without doing it with a bad attitude.

"The people and the circumstances around me do not make me what I am, they reveal who I am".

Staying in negative circumstances says something about us.

steph

[frankiebaby]

I am proud to say that I have never looked for trouble to got anyone else in trouble in my place of employment; however, I have been on the receiving end of the hatefulness and didn't deserve any of it.

I'm sorry to have to point out that if you behave at your place of work as you do here on allnurses.com, then you have been deserving of ill-will and negativity. You have to offer respect in order to receive it.

Whether or not you have been the victim of unfair treatment by LVNs and CNAs, I hope you will take away from this thread that you have offended many with your attitude and lack of professionalism. Job title does not equal experience or skill; and such blatant condescension will never earn you the loyalty or friendship of any CNA, LVN, or for that matter, any RN, that you work with.

[txspadequeenRN, BSN, RN]

after reading some of your other post on here would you like for me to chime in and give you a good possible reason for your problems!!!!

[medsurgrnco, BSN, RN]

To the OP, if you have worked with only 10 other healthcare staff (RN, LPN, CNA) then you don't have much of a sample. (Or did I read your post wrong, and you meant 80% are difficult coworkers?) I've worked with many more, and IMHO a shocking number of those who work in healthcare are mean-spirited and nasty to their fellow coworkers. But in my experience I wouldn't say the majority are that way. Unfortunately it only takes a few to make a work environment miserable.

[agldragonRN]

after reading some of your other post on here would you like for me to chime in and give you a good possible reason for your problems!!!!

:yeah: maybe she goes around her place of employment with a banner in her forehead that says "i am an rn and i am beyond all of you. kneel down before me. bwahaha"

okay a little fyi for other posters about the op, she has been making all these ridiculous/demeaning comments towards the cna and lpn/lvn in her previous posts/threads.

you need to give respect in order to receive one. it is a two-way bridge ladyrn and no no one is beneath you inspite of you having the rn title. rn does not equal god.

cheers,

angel

[bekindtokittens]

I've spent many years in the workforce and now I'm in nursing school. I've endured harassment by male coworkers, passive-aggressive backstabbing by female coworkers, and the crap you always hear about in nursing school about less-than-friendly classmates and nurses. (I've had positive experiences too, but that's not what this thread is about.) However, I don't attribute it to being a "man" thing, a "woman" thing, or a "nurse" thing. I think plenty of rotten apples pop up in all genders and backgrounds. I follow two rules when dealing with people--

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

(The Golden Rule was on the wall in my 1st grade classroom and it's stuck with me all these years.)

and--

Hope for the best but expect the worst.

(I consider myself an optimistic pessimist when it comes to human nature.)

[traumaRUs, MSN, APRN]

LadyJRN - perhaps losing your job will give you some time to reflect on things including what went wrong and how YOU can make things different. Its always important to remember to try some self-reflection before jumping into a new situation.

As an aside, as some others have pointed out, being an RN isn't really all that. The concept of team is one of the most important lessons to be learned in life.

[wonderbee, BSN, RN]

We're all so stressed. Sometimes it appears that the other RN has it better. Short staffing frazzles nerves. This can lead to everyone looking out for themselves instead of pulling together as a team. We go into survival mode. Who is picking up the slack? Who isn't? Who is the martyr? Who keeps their cool and angers the martyr?

Some days it feels like a war zone. Who is going to be the hero? You're either hero or coward, soldier or slacker. No in betweens. That's how I perceive it. That's what it feels like to me. Anyway, it's not a good foundation for a cohesive group. Peace be with you.

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

my experiences have been in the nursing profession that nurses and i mean all nurses rn's and lpn's and i may add cna's alike and are mean, vindictive, deceitful, and hateful to each other. i am proud to say that i have never looked for trouble to got anyone else in trouble in my place of employment; however, i have been on the receiving end of the hatefulness and didn't deserve any of it. i don't know if it is in the areas i have worked, but i don't look for any trouble and stay out of interpersonal conflicts. i was an lpn before an rn and i think working with the people who i worked with as lpn's may have contributed to it. i still am in the frame of mind that rn's are held higher than lpn's and always will be. i have no regrets about becoming an rn, just regrets about the areas of nursing i have chosen to work in.

in my experience, people who claim they are constantly being picked on by others and didn't deserve any of it are contributing something to that interaction that they may be unaware of. (or they may just be lying or oblivious fools, but let's assume the best.) if you're constantly being picked on and don't deserve it, please stop and take a look at what you may doing to make others target you this way.

[NRSKarenRN, BSN, RN]

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