My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES

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My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES. He thinks it is dangerous to post anonymously.

I told him that I don't write that which should not be read. And anything written can be read. Am I the only one with an overprotective husband?

My husband doesn't like allnurses either, but for different reasons.

"Why are you on that site when it makes you mad?"

It never fails, he always comes home when I'm in the middle of a facepalm thread. It freaks him out when I'm yelling "You moron!" at the rabidly ignorant. He's always asleep by the time I get to the funnies!

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Why does your husband drive you to work appointments? You don't drive? I read your post and thought it was a little controlling on your husbands part but I didn't say anything because maybe it's too judgmental and not my business. But now you're saying he also drives you to jobs? Do you go anywhere by yourself?

I think she was saying that as an example. I had a job exactly like this and my car broke down and I had to have a ride for a few days until I could get it into the shop and I had to have the client's permission before I could do it. I had a supervisor tell me a story about how she accidentally locked her keys in her car at a client's house and had to have her husband bring her her spare set and she couldn't give out the client's address without permission and had to meet him a block down the road.

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Specializes in 15 years in ICU, 22 years in PACU.
My husband doesn't like allnurses either, but for different reasons.

"Why are you on that site when it makes you mad?"

It never fails, he always comes home when I'm in the middle of a facepalm thread. It freaks him out when I'm yelling "You moron!" at the rabidly ignorant. He's always asleep by the time I get to the funnies!

OMG. My wife exactly. "Why do you go on that site if it upsets you so much?" Of course I mostly crab about the extrordinary stupid questions or opinions. The funny stuff I just "like" and keep reading.

Actually I have backed off quite a bit. I frequent a website on fitness and it's got even more stupid comments, so I can only handle so much.

And I talk to the TV, too.

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OMG. My wife exactly. "Why do you go on that site if it upsets you so much?" Of course I mostly crab about the extrordinary stupid questions or opinions. The funny stuff I just "like" and keep reading.

Actually I have backed off quite a bit. I frequent a website on fitness and it's got even more stupid comments, so I can only handle so much.

And I talk to the TV, too.

MAV!!! :woot:

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I hear ya Alpha. I live with that on a daily basis.

I am glad I'm not the only piece of meat here. These nurses can be dangerous! Lol :D

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I am glad I'm not the only piece of meat here. These nurses can be dangerous! Lol :D

Hahahahaha!!!

I'm at a wake. And I suddenly started laughing.

Hush.

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
Kitiger, controlling husband aside (I, too, am one who raised an eyebrow at "doesn't want me posting" and "overprotective" because it's hard for me to fathom, in an adult relationship, why that would even come up as an issue) - can your husband verbalize what exactly are his concerns about posting on an anonymous message board? What is he afraid could happen?

My husband doesn't want me on here, either. Although in our case it's because we sold our house, cancelled our FiOS and are paying for internet by the gigabyte. Our basic bill paying, etc. takes up more than the GB we've contracted for, resulting in monthly overages. I can kinda see his point. Actually, I can really see his point. Right now, he's just "wasted" the price of a GB of data on two glasses of Guiness with lunch (while I drank water) so I get a gig of data to use for fun.

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Specializes in Geriatrics, Dialysis.

As long as you remain very careful about not posting anything identifiable you will be fine. Maybe get your spouse involved by reading some of the funnier threads with him? I do that with my husband and he is somewhat pleased to be right in his assumption that most if not all nurses are kind of nuts.

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Specializes in ED, ICU, PSYCH, PP, CEN.

My husband got really mad at me once too

him: "You've been on that damn website for 3 days and haven't taken a bath or changed your clothes. It's me or them"

me: Ok, I'll go bath

me after three days without AN: I've decided that I can't live without AN so bye

That was about 7 years ago. This April we will be celebrating 40 years of marriage.

It is really addicting

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Kitiger's husband has a legitimate concern about the anonymity of the internet.

A poster on here in one comment gave the state they work in which seems safe. I thought "I know that state well. I wonder where she works."

In another post they said something that made me think I knew what city they worked in. They never said the name - just something about it that made a light bulb go off.

A few months later they said something about working in a teaching hospital. I thought - hmm only one teaching hospital in that city.

Months later they commented that their hospital was a top 100 hospital. Again only 1 top 100 hospital in that city and only 3 in the state.

Another time they said what floor (as in 5th floor or 10th floor) they work on. That hospital has 600 beds in a lot of different buildings, but it was a high enough floor that it could only have been in "the tower." There is only 1 unit per floor in the tower.

Then later they posted complaining about the patient they had had "last night" and how difficult and whiny he and his wife had been and that he had only had xyz surgery and he shouldn't have been so needy after it. Xyz surgery is a rare surgery even for a teaching hospital.

With the combination of those posts I knew

- the city and state the poster lived in

- the hospital where she worked

- the floor she worked on

- the date and shift she cared for a patient who had just had a rare procedure

If someone wanted to cause trouble for the OP, they could have printed the posts and given them to mgmt and asked if facility policy approved of nurses trashing patients on the internet. Mgmt would have had all the info they needed to identify the nurse.

I'm sure other readers have guessed at the identity of someone based on their posts.

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^ I agree with the above, and it is hard to be careful, especially when you feel comfortable with those around you.

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Specializes in Private Duty Pediatrics.
Why does your husband drive you to work appointments? You don't drive? I read your post and thought it was a little controlling on your husbands part but I didn't say anything because maybe it's too judgmental and not my business. But now you're saying he also drives you to jobs? Do you go anywhere by yourself?

That was just an example. I normally drive myself, but - occasionally - we are down to one car and have to share rides. Even so, we are careful to keep within HIPPA. We don't share rides often, as I normally work nights and he works days.

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