My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES

klone, MSN, RN · Apr 1, 2016

EXCEPTIONAL! A piece of family history!
If more People journalized, there wouldn't be so much of a need to pour out their every boring random thought or opinion verbally or on public websites!
Journalizing is a type of cathartic expression by the inner surfing of the soul.
Good for you, Kitiger!

Is 'journalizing' a word?

klone, MSN, RN · Apr 1, 2016

Kitiger, controlling husband aside (I, too, am one who raised an eyebrow at "doesn't want me posting" and "overprotective" because it's hard for me to fathom, in an adult relationship, why that would even come up as an issue) - can your husband verbalize what exactly are his concerns about posting on an anonymous message board? What is he afraid could happen?

Farawyn · Apr 1, 2016

Exactly. He isn't comfortable with it, but I do intend to continue to use ALLNURSES.
I have kept a journal off and on for years. I never write that which should not be read, because whatever is written will be read. I keep them out on the bookshelves, and I've found my nephews reading my journals. It's a piece of family history.
When they were little, they used to sit with me, and tell me what to write!

This kinda makes me sad. You need a safe place where you can be who you want and express yourself. We all do.

I hope writing is not your only outlet, and you have good support.

I enjoy your posts, as well as your avatar.

Farawyn · Apr 1, 2016

Is 'journalizing' a word?

If Davey says it is, it is. Artistic license, blah de bla.

BuckyBadgerRN, ASN, RN · Apr 1, 2016

Are you a grown adult? Why in the world would you let another human, much less your husband, have this much control over what you do? I have little respect for the 50's housewife model :unsure:

My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES. He thinks it is dangerous to post anonymously.
I told him that I don't write that which should not be read. And anything written can be read. Am I the only one with an overprotective husband?

vanilla bean · Apr 1, 2016

OP, I just erased a lengthy reply to this because I realized it sounded like I was being judgmental of your relationship with your husband. I think you may be inadvertently proving your husband's point by opening yourself up to comments and criticisms from anonymous strangers on a message board about your marriage and your husband.

Libby1987 · Apr 1, 2016

I question it myself so I think it's a valid concern. I know of a nurse who had an *anonymous* username but she was figured out eventually by someone motivated and then copied who submitted the thread in question to an employer.

Trauma Columnist · Apr 1, 2016

We always caution our posters to be mindful of what you post - as it can be googled so we encourage anonymous names, not posting email addresses, phone numbers, etc..

Being cautious on the internet on like being cautious in real life....just being mindful of what you post....if anyone ever has concerns that maybe they posted a little too much info, please feel free to contact a staff member.

Kitiger, RN · Apr 1, 2016

My husband is concerned that I could say too much; he is definitely the more cautious of the two of us. We are close, we discuss issues easily, and we look out for each other. I never meant to imply that he ordered me around.

My agencies are fairly strict. I can't even have my husband drive me to work unless I have the client's permission. He's not supposed to know where they live. I'm vague in my descriptions. "I'm going north of (this city)", or, "It's in town." I don't do HIPPA violations.

It's good to know that others have also had to work out a balance between spouses and the ALLNURSES crowd.

Thanks for the responses. :)

AlphaM · Apr 1, 2016

My spouse is afraid I'll get hit on by all the hot nurses here

Farawyn · Apr 1, 2016

My spouse is afraid I'll get hit on by all the hot nurses here

Dude. No.

Chisca, RN · Apr 1, 2016

I have had my fellow felines tell me that everyone on the internet is a dog but I don't believe it.