My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES

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My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES. He thinks it is dangerous to post anonymously.

I told him that I don't write that which should not be read. And anything written can be read. Am I the only one with an overprotective husband?

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I don't have an overprotective husband, but I'm curious about yours. Is he worried about what you're going to write, or what you're going to read? And, as a follow up... why? According to your profile you have 36 years of experience as a nurse. You sure as heck aren't going to see anything more odd or disturbing here than what you've no doubt seen at work.

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Your husband won't "let you". ??!

seriously??!!

i'm sorry, but I really don't understand this.

You are a grown adult and should be able to participate anywhere anyplace you want.

controlling much???

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I am so reading between the lines of your post, however, it is not always ideal to have a spouse who is dictating your activity.

Be safe.

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Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).

Anonymity is a sticky wicket on this site and a rightly cause for concern. Fear of possibilities may be the cause for your husband's concern, Kitiger.

We come here to express, question, glean or discuss information which is protected by stringent guidelines and laws. Therefore, we cannot use any identifying information which may result in negative ramifications.

If a loved one is vulnerable to these ramifications, avoidance is a method to deal with the possible negative results. Reassurance that you have a handle on confidentiality, as you relayed, is a good response.

Priorities come in play here. We need to determine which is more important: Our need to be on AN.com or our Spouse's comfort?

Belinda and I have had discussions on possible ramifications of my posting on AN.com. I assured her that I take just about every prudent precaution and follow strict guidelines as not to have to deal with any possible negative results, and she is okay with that.

My posting on AN.com has been called into question by Coworkers, Peers, and Supervisors. I've answered all their challenges by assuring them that confidentiality is never breached and my posts, for the most part, are appropriate, factual and objective.

The unexamined life is not worth living and we all have to take risks in order to truly experience life.

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Your husband won't "let you". ??!

seriously??!!

i'm sorry, but I really don't understand this.

You are a grown adult and should be able to participate anywhere anyplace you want.

controlling much???

Kitiger didn't say that her husband wouldn't let her. She said her husband didn't want her on AN. A spouse can certainly express an opinion without being controlling.

You won't always agree with your life partner, but you are wise to at least listen to their concerns and consider if what they say has merit. Your spouse should show you the same courtesy.

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Kitiger didn't say that her husband wouldn't let her. She said her husband didn't want her on AN. A spouse can certainly express an opinion without being controlling.

You won't always agree with your life partner, but you are wise to at least listen to their concerns and consider if what they say has merit. Your spouse should show you the same courtesy.

Exactly. He isn't comfortable with it, but I do intend to continue to use ALLNURSES.

I have kept a journal off and on for years. I never write that which should not be read, because whatever is written will be read. I keep them out on the bookshelves, and I've found my nephews reading my journals. It's a piece of family history.

When they were little, they used to sit with me, and tell me what to write!

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I have kept a journal off and on for years. I never write that which should not be read, because whatever is written will be read. I keep them out on the bookshelves, and I've found my nephews reading my journals. It's a piece of family history.

When they were little, they used to sit with me, and tell me what to write!

EXCEPTIONAL! A piece of family history!

If more People journalized, there wouldn't be so much of a need to pour out their every boring random thought or opinion verbally or on public websites!

Journalizing is a type of cathartic expression by the inner surfing of the soul.

Good for you, Kitiger!

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EXCEPTIONAL! A piece of family history!

If more People journalized, there wouldn't be so much of a need to pour out their every boring random thought or opinion verbally or on public websites!

Journalizing is a type of cathartic expression by the inner surfing of the soul.

Good for you, Kitiger!

True; I attended a seminar run by a man who works with vets returning from war with PTSD. One thing he has them do is to journal--with paper and pen/pencil as physically writing activates a portion of the brain that typing on a keyboard doesn't.

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physically writing activates a portion of the brain that typing on a keyboard doesn't.

I've not heard of that, mtjoanna, but that's very interesting!

It sets me to thinking: I've noticed that writing and drawing with a pen and paper is very relaxing, whereas using a computer to do my Art is stimulating.

Thanks for sharing that tidbit of information, mtjoanna!

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My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES. He thinks it is dangerous to post anonymously.

I told him that I don't write that which should not be read. And anything written can be read. Am I the only one with an overprotective husband?

I wouldn't exactly call it overprotective. ​Domineering? Controlling?

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Mine probably doesn't want me here, either.

So, I post more.

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