My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES

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My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES. He thinks it is dangerous to post anonymously.

I told him that I don't write that which should not be read. And anything written can be read. Am I the only one with an overprotective husband?

Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho, ASC.

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Specializes in Private Duty Pediatrics.
OMG. My wife exactly. "Why do you go on that site if it upsets you so much?" Of course I mostly crab about the extrordinary stupid questions or opinions. The funny stuff I just "like" and keep reading.

Actually I have backed off quite a bit. I frequent a website on fitness and it's got even more stupid comments, so I can only handle so much.

And I talk to the TV, too.

Exactly!! Yes! I'm sure that is part of why he doesn't like it.

I talk to the TV, too. And anything else that will listen.;)

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Specializes in Private Duty Pediatrics.
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Thank you

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Specializes in Med Surg, PCU, Travel.
My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES. He thinks it is dangerous to post anonymously.

I told him that I don't write that which should not be read. And anything written can be read. Am I the only one with an overprotective husband?

While your hubby is way overprotective and frankly you are an adult, he really shouldn't have no say in what you do unless it involves him he really got no say.

But are his fears ligit? YES they are. There is no such thing as "post anonymously". Anything you put out on the internet, you need to consider it as open to the public and open to prosecution. People could figure out who you are. You are just an IP address away from someone at least identifying your location, at least your city. You have to be diligent in what you post if you really want to have any sort of privacy and that's not just with allnurses.com its basic internet security.

I see some people on signing their post with their real names sometimes, like if they writing a letter to their mom or something. Hey people a quick search of your name on the board of nursing will easily reveal your address or place of employment.

Anyways you never know who is online, someone might figure out who you are. Your boss or anyone you work with could be on here. I could be your boss for all you know. It's just a matter of being diligent and even with that, just remember ABSOLUTELY NOTHING posted online is totally anonymous.

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My husband doesn't like me on Allnurses, but really hates Ebay. I cannot stand all of the damn sports he watches, so we live and let live. You are an adult responsible for other peoples' lives. Your hubby needs to get over it. I am sure he does things that irritate you. I have been on allnurses for 14 years. No one has come knocking at my door yet.

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Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.
Kitiger's husband has a legitimate concern about the anonymity of the internet.

A poster on here in one comment gave the state they work in which seems safe. I thought "I know that state well. I wonder where she works."

In another post they said something that made me think I knew what city they worked in. They never said the name - just something about it that made a light bulb go off.

A few months later they said something about working in a teaching hospital. I thought - hmm only one teaching hospital in that city.

Months later they commented that their hospital was a top 100 hospital. Again only 1 top 100 hospital in that city and only 3 in the state.

Another time they said what floor (as in 5th floor or 10th floor) they work on. That hospital has 600 beds in a lot of different buildings, but it was a high enough floor that it could only have been in "the tower." There is only 1 unit per floor in the tower.

Then later they posted complaining about the patient they had had "last night" and how difficult and whiny he and his wife had been and that he had only had xyz surgery and he shouldn't have been so needy after it. Xyz surgery is a rare surgery even for a teaching hospital.

With the combination of those posts I knew

- the city and state the poster lived in

- the hospital where she worked

- the floor she worked on

- the date and shift she cared for a patient who had just had a rare procedure

If someone wanted to cause trouble for the OP, they could have printed the posts and given them to mgmt and asked if facility policy approved of nurses trashing patients on the internet. Mgmt would have had all the info they needed to identify the nurse.

I'm sure other readers have guessed at the identity of someone based on their posts.

Are you a stalker?

No, just kidding. A coworker figured out who I was. I didn't know she posted here. Now I'm a lot more reticent about posting work stuff.

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I work with/have worked with people who post here. They just shake their heads at me.

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I work with/have worked with people who post here. They just shake their heads at me.

Oooh, there are soooo many ways I could run with this statement... Do I dare?

(Kidding! Love ya, Far!)

And yeah, I change up a lot of details when posting just to make it a little less easier to ID me. But, I wouldn't post most of the stuff here without thinking that I could say it to my boss's face. The only stuff that I wouldn't? Some of the stuff over on the blue side. Because we don't talk about those topics at work.

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Specializes in POST PARTUM/NURSERY/L&D/WOMENS SERVICES.

Me thinks you have problems that are much greater that allnurses~~ I am not currently married, but if my other half so much as tried to have an opinion he knew nothing about....well there would be food flying!!!

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Oooh, there are soooo many ways I could run with this statement... Do I dare?

(Kidding! Love ya, Far!)

S'okay. Sadly, I'm the same in RL as I am here. Maybe a bit more Krabby. In RL.

My hubs doesn't get the whole online thing. He's LEO, and suspicious by nature. I think that's NOT a bad thing.

I've been close with people online, like I've said, for 15 years. I pick who I allow in on a closer level. I find most people are who they say they are.

I've made amazing friends here, as well, including this chop buster named Rosie. :cheeky:

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This is the appropriate word journaling. Journaling - is a term coined for the practice of keeping a diary or journal that explores thoughts and feelings surrounding the events of one's life.

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This is the appropriate word journaling. Journaling - is a term coined for the practice of keeping a diary or journal that explores thoughts and feelings surrounding the events of one's life.

I like "journalizing". Because I like the letter z.

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