My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES

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My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES. He thinks it is dangerous to post anonymously.

I told him that I don't write that which should not be read. And anything written can be read. Am I the only one with an overprotective husband?

Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
An former poster had a theory that he was the only real person here and everyone else was actually 1 person trying to mess with him. :roflmao:

:laugh: talk about conspiracy!

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Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).
This thread has really gotten weird.

"I don't think I'm weird. I think I just require a little more understanding."

-Tom Robbins

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:laugh: talk about conspiracy!

I know. I've felt that way as well on Narcissism Wednesdays.

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Does your husband prefer you wear a Burka when out of the home?

And here comes the ignorant comments. Interesting how all the statues of the Virgin Mary was of a woman covered from head to toe, yet revered by all. If you see a woman covering up these days, it is automatically a controlling husband that forced her.

I hate to say this, but women can be hypocrites sometimes. The OP's husband's request is the equivalent of an insecure wife telling her husband to stop eating at a restaurant, because there's a waitress that keeps hitting on him.

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So how is it controlling for the man she loves and is married to, who also apparently cares for her, to show concern for her safety? Online stalking is real. We don't know exactly what was said, but from the OP and follow up posts, it sounds to me like he just voiced his opinion of him not liking her posting anonymously online. Does not sound like he forbids her from doing it. Did not say she cannot do it.

If I felt my wife was doing something that made me uncomfortable or felt she was possibly putting herself in a bad spot, should I keep my mouth shut and just let whatever happen because she is a "grown adult"?

And just to be the sexist male in the room, how many women tell their husband/boyfriend that they don't want their husband/boyfriend doing something that they don't like?

If I posted a thread as a male saying similar that my wife did not want me to do something, how many females here would be as vocal as they are now?

As for remaining anonymous, I don't post personal stuff here, but if you read my posts and are familiar with the area (or even not real familiar, Katy is a small area), you could figure out what hospital I work at, and what area within the hospital. If you work at that hospital, you could figure out pretty easily who I am. But I have posting nothing here that is not either common knowledge or things I already say to people.

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Specializes in Medsurg/ICU, Mental Health, Home Health.
Maybe I am that person, and not your whacko friend from the internet!

Nah. He has absolutely no personality. I once gave a presentation at 3 AM to the night nursing staff on how he fit all the criteria for a sociopath. He's a manager himself now. And I'm certain he's here. But I'm also certain he isn't you. But if he is...well, he has absolutely no power over me anymore.

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WOW!!! fascinating, I can't laugh too loud because i'm sitting bedside w/my home care patient. Before anybody gets judgmental mom and dad prefer we use the internet because it stimulates our minds and keeps us awake to closely monitor their child. I think it's possible that along w/being concerned about his wife, his lack of computer knowledge and the internet and all we hear about identity theft and such could be part of his concern. My husband is 6 months older than me, 54, and just figured out how to fax, can't scan and send, thought blue-ray meant the DVD player was blue. And sometimes he says stupid stuff like, "Can't you fold the laundry the right way" and "I put that chicken in the fridge for you to cook and I see it's still there" and "just because you're a nurse doesn't mean you know everything". Then he folds the laundry the way he likes, he cooks the chicken the way he likes, and he pays the doctor a $25 copay to tell him his wife was right. Its a great system that has worked well for 25 years. But on the NETY issue, I needed that clarified because I don't know all those cool expressions. So, back to NETY, I thought we were supposed to eat our young. I mean, don't we have to eat them to feed our egos so we can grow into super nurses who know everything. Anyway, FYI this is a great site, tell your husband you could be buying shoes online instead. But seriously for all these people who post regularly, Are some of you just typing to see who runs w/the crazy?

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Do you feel he is seeking mutuality? Or not? You can tell by a person's tone. If that's what you both seek, agreement will come in a predictable manner. If one gets angrier in proportion to the other seeking mutuality, control is what the angrier party seeks. With this line of reasoning, there are no pink flags. Getting wrapped up with the hue of any flag other than red here might be questioning your own trust of reality more than reality itself. Crisis centers would go out of business if everyone knew it was merely confusion -just being confused itself- in a relationship need not a 1-800#, but an immutable realization.

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This has been an interesting topic and created a lot of offshoot conversations. I, for one, would like to think your husband is like mine and let you go on and enjoy the way you do your relationship. But on the scary chance he's like my ex-husband, I would advise you to think about his behaviors, has he distanced you from family and friends, does he control the money/the friendships/ the vacations/etc? Do you feel you are walking on eggshells when you do something he doesn't like such as posting on this site? Has he made you feel stupid, inadequate, demeaned you in front of others? Has he hit you, threatened you, intimidated you? And if so, has he apologized, given you flowers, and something like, I just love you so much I can't help it will never happen again. If so, reach out, but cover your tracks, make a plan. Again, I'm not assuming this is your relationship at all. Please know that but having been in the other kind of relationship I think it's necessary to say. After reading the posts there's probably someone out there who is reading and thinking that kind of sounds like my husband/wife/significant other and following this discussion may make them reach in and change their situation.

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Your husband does not want you to learn or discover anything that may be related to his present health condition, or personal relationships.

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Specializes in Gerontology, Med surg, Home Health.

I thought the same thing, and I'm not quite sure poetic license can be used for making up words willy nilly:geek:

I've been on this site for years. I'm very careful when I post to generalize as much as possible so my co- workers won't know it's me. So many of us have had similar experiences so unless I were to post the name of another nurse or name the place where I work, my identity is safe.

As an aside but mostly on topic-I posted a Skilled Charting Guide on here years ago. Imagine my surprise when on my first day at a facility as an interim DNS, I opened a chart and there was MY form.

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Your husband does not want you to learn or discover anything that may be related to his present health condition, or personal relationships.

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