My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES

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My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES. He thinks it is dangerous to post anonymously.

I told him that I don't write that which should not be read. And anything written can be read. Am I the only one with an overprotective husband?

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Your husband does not want you to learn or discover anything that may be related to his present health condition, or personal relationships.

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Specializes in Psychiatric nursing; Medical-Surgrical.

Hmmm hope he will let you continue to work. [emoji19]

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OP has stated she told her husband about this very thread. He's still concerned, but she's still here, posting. I'm sure she's not in shackles.

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It's almost like the OP shares a little too much with her hubby, sometimes less is more ;)

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It's almost like the OP shares a little too much with her hubby, sometimes less is more ;)

Okay, Bratty Boy, whatever works for you! :D

He can, as her husband who loves her, voice his concerns, right? As long as he doesn't tell her what to do or not do, he can tell her how he feels.

I think it is sort of nice if it is happening the way OP describes. Remember, she did show him this thread, and she is still all over AN, actively posting. So...

:blink:

That being said, if someone TELLS me not to do something, I usually do it more. Because I am a Brat, too.

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Okay, Bratty Boy, whatever works for you! :D

He can, as her husband who loves her, voice his concerns, right? As long as he doesn't tell her what to do or not do, he can tell her how he feels.

I think it is sort of nice if it is happening the way OP describes. Remember, she did show him this thread, and she is still all over AN, actively posting. So...

:blink:

That being said, if someone TELLS me not to do something, I usually do it more. Because I am a Brat, too.

I agree 100% :) He should definitely share his thoughts, all I'm saying is that the OP may be fueling his anxiety by keeping him posted about every little letter and word she posts. I wonder if he tells her about every little thing that he does and how she feels about it? In my case I have a gorgeous wife and I'm sure she gets hit on quite a bit at work, sometimes she tells me and we laugh it off but I'm positive she doesn't tell me every little thing that people tell her, and I'm good with that! I trust her!

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My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES. He thinks it is dangerous to post anonymously.

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My dear, your husbands opinions, wants and needs, should infinitely and universally trump, those of ALLNURSES.com commentors. So never ever forget that, that's first and formost.

#2- What you ave to do, is actually (and fuly) commicate with him, to discover if he has an actual, valid reasons(s) for feeling this way. And if he does, you need to either take heed to it, or, further comminicate and ask him if there is any way some compromise can be made, that allows both of you to get at least some percentage of what each of you want and need, while the other is comfortable.

Something tells me he had a real, valid reason for this, so it's very important that you too communicate about this.

#3- another thing that can be done is, if he does in fact have a real valid reason for this, maybe its still a misunderstanding on his part, which is leading to his discomfort, in which case maybe you can communicate to him how and why he doesn't have to worry or be concerned. This could very well solve it. And furthermore, maybe you could also come up with some things, with his help, as to how you can adopt certain approaches to how you use this site, that will in turn make him feel more comfortable and less concerned. This may very well solve it.

#4- worst come to worst, gonna have to refer back to number 1, your husbands wants, needs, and comfort, is (or should be) infinitely more important than the Allnurses commentors, and more important than this site as a whole (as great, and useful as it is, i know lol). Because remember, these people, and this website, will not be there for you when you're upset, down, depressed, in pain, need help, need support (real support), a real shoulder to cry on, need financial help, need help around the house, help with the kids, need to be protected (from the crazy crazy, treacherous, dangerous world), need to cuddle, need love and affection, need "grown up things", and this list goes on and on lol. Remember, these people and this website can't give you any of this, and never will. So do't forget. But I highly doubt it will come to this. Simply begin with asking him "why". I'm not sure that question and answer has been explored between you to yet lol.

#5- don't let people trick you into believing that it's a bad thing to have a husband/ spouse whos "protective", who actually cares about you and your well being. The ones who should be worried, are the ones who do not have this. That is actually a red flag, and a huge 1 at that lol. And also don't fall into labling this as "over-protective", or "controlling". This is absolutely none of those. But I digress.

#6- don't forget, a relationship/ marriage is a team, with equal partnership. You become 1, or at the very least, 1 team. You need to make decisions considering the others opinions, wants and needs. The same way you want them to do the same for/ with you. Do not let outside people trick you out of this. Especially because, when your relationship ends because of it, none of them will be there to pick you up lol. Seriously.

Anyway, i wish and the hubster a lot of luck, i think you 2 will be fine :-)

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I agree 100% :) He should definitely share his thoughts, all I'm saying is that the OP may be fueling his anxiety by keeping him posted about every little letter and word she posts. I wonder if he tells her about every little thing that he does and how she feels about it? In my case I have a gorgeous wife and I'm sure she gets hit on quite a bit at work, sometimes she tells me and we laugh it off but I'm positive she doesn't tell me every little thing that people tell her, and I'm good with that! I trust her!

I gotchu.

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"he's not even allowed to drive me to my job..."

Pretty sure she meant her company disallows friends or family driving one to client appointments. That is a standard policy in Home Health/Hospice organizations.

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My spouse is afraid I'll get hit on by all the hot nurses here :D

bwahaha! :facepalm: I love it! We are all predators looking for new flesh!

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Specializes in UR/PA, Hematology/Oncology, Med Surg, Psych.

My spouse, no he's definitely not overprotective. But he can be a bit loony at times, which works well for the two of us as I'm sure he can say the same about me :)

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bwahaha! :facepalm: I love it! We are all predators looking for new flesh!

*looks around*

THIS is flesh?!

Ur doing it wrong. Words on a page, baby. None of us are real. We are Internets.

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