My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES

[Kitiger]

My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES. He thinks it is dangerous to post anonymously.

I told him that I don't write that which should not be read. And anything written can be read. Am I the only one with an overprotective husband?

[jcourtnay]

He may be just be insecure

[kathylorr]

Does your husband prefer you wear a Burka when out of the home?

[Dogen]

I see this thread has jumped the shark...

[Nurse Neddie]

I question it myself so I think it's a valid concern. I know of a nurse who had an *anonymous* username but she was figured out eventually by someone motivated and then copied who submitted the thread in question to an employer.

Who the hell does this!!!!!!!! I'm so busy, why not just private message the person and leave it alone!!! Why take it to the employer!!!!

[gonnella1205]

Here is my question for you...does your husband use computers? Your profile says you have been an RN for 36 years. I'm 35 so I will guess you are around the same age as my parents. I have one parent who is very computer savvy, the other not so much. Is he worried because he is a person who is not computer savvy and is concerned for your safety on the Internet? If this is the case, maybe taking computer classes would help put his mind at ease.

[GHGoonette, BSN, RN]

My husband doesn't like me posting on ANY social media, but only because I burn the food.

[PANYNP]

Your supervisors etc know about your posts only if you tell them - or if they guess, based on the very detailed background listed with your identifier.

[rhellner57]

this one was to another question I saw about nurses eating their young and maybe it was within some of the comments here too

[Alex_RN, BSN]

My husband is a conspiracy theorist/distrustful of technology/always on the look out for Big Brother/aging hippie and is also anxious about all forms of social media. I have explained that I have full-blown HIPAA on the brain and would never post anything that could be tracked to me or my facility.

I get so much emotional support and validation here on AllNurses that he sees that this is an important resource for my well being.

[ajoyz]

Maybe the husband knows how important is the work for both of them, maybe keeping the job alive is a matter of great concern, and like some may have said here-" you are 35 and youve seen all things in the nusring career that you think she shouldnt be over concerned about her rights while blogging, but simply your husband knows you more about you than you could imagine..etc...

Now whats the most important thing you could do is , have some fine discussions, maybe he is not over protective, maybe according to what he may have observed, and still holds about you is, perhaps a kind if fear to let you face any problems due to any regards.

We in India usually loves to hear when our other (significant) half, especially when they advice us, whether or not they look right or wrong, it is usually a moment to take a pause and remember that it comes from instant love.

This is Whatsap message

Mother to her 15year old,"son now stop playing in the dirt and start studying,

Son thinking in his mind, " my mom is not happy with my habits, maybe she don't know my classmates have a more freedom...

Another day this boy is told the same by his girlfriend,

Dear stop playing, I just feel you deserve better marks in the exam.

Same boy thinking in his mind, wow she loves me....

Pls note.... Maybe the girlfriend became his ex, but I am sure his mom didn't change

But she presented her concern in a straight, without polishing or sweetening words

If we fail to understand our dear ones gentle yet vulnerable paintings for us or there worries for us, at least take a silent moment, their tone maybe different, sure it doesn't looked like romantic as you wanted, but remember, my dear angel of mankind, you who calm and care for others also needed someone special, there it is,

Am sorry if my answer in any way did a bad thing to u, its little too over,

If you have fully read it thanks

Yes, typing in a mobile browser, couldn't edit much. And I am still a starter you can see that in my views.

[allyboba]

Your right to not post anything you wouldn't want to see in newsprint or poated that gives any personal secrets you'd rather not the world to see. I also understand your husbands point of view, in light of all the rip offs that have sprung up with the advent of internet. You might point out to your hubby that this is one of the few forums for nurses to express their frustrations and joy that comes with the profession. Good luck with hubby.

[Kitiger, RN]

I told my husband about this thread. He is still not comfortable with it, as "it would only take one time to say too much ... " but I plan to continue here. I have assured him that I will be careful. Apparently, I'm not the only one with this type of worrier.

I am on the computer more than he is; that may be part of why I'm more comfortable with this type of forum. Also, I have journaled so much, and he hasn't. I'm more likely to write out my thoughts; the writing helps me to understand myself. I have practice in not writing too much.

Sometimes, talking to another nurse is just what I need. One of the drawbacks of working private duty is that I don't normally see the other nurses face to face; I report off to the parent.

Hey! Spellchecker doesn't like my word, 'journaled'! I assure you it IS a word!