My Father passed away yesterday!!!!!

ear · May 27, 2006

Nony,

Hugs to you, I am so sorry to hear of your loss....

Try not to think of nursing school right now, you still have a few months before it starts....concentrate on yourself right now, and your family. Be kind to yourself and keep yourself well.

I am sure your Dad was proud of you for getting into the program, and he will be watching over you while you go through. He will be your guardian angel while you get through school....

Again, I am sooooo sorry for your loss.... be well,

you and your family are in my prayers

~ear

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · May 27, 2006

My father passed away yesterday, I am still in shock and I cannot wrap my mind around the idea that I will never see him or talk to him again. He was a good father and I already miss him so much. I am scheduled to start nursing school on the 28th of August, I donot know if I am going to be able to make it. Has anyone been throught such a difficult time and if so how did you cope???? I feel such emptiness, like the bottom just dropped out of my world. I can still remember when I told him I made it into nursing school and I was sure he was going to be so proud of me when I graduated. But now almost three months to the begining of the programme, he passes away?? I am just confused.

Very sorry for your loss, i can't imagine how you feel right now:scrying:

He probably knew that it meant a lot to you to get into nursing school, and was probably very happy for you and proud that you got in. I think he would want you to keep going to school, and wouldn't want you to stop for him.

You can still make him proud.:)

rntoben2008 · May 27, 2006

My father passed away yesterday, I am still in shock and I cannot wrap my mind around the idea that I will never see him or talk to him again. He was a good father and I already miss him so much. I am scheduled to start nursing school on the 28th of August, I donot know if I am going to be able to make it. Has anyone been throught such a difficult time and if so how did you cope???? I feel such emptiness, like the bottom just dropped out of my world. I can still remember when I told him I made it into nursing school and I was sure he was going to be so proud of me when I graduated. But now almost three months to the begining of the programme, he passes away?? I am just confused.

First let me say I am very deeply sorry for your loss. I will pray for you and the family to get through such a sad and emotional time. I lost my father back in 1981. He died at the age of 42 years old from cancer. It was the most painful event in my life. I was 15 years old, and an only child. I still miss him so much all these years later, and wish he could have seen his grandchildren and his daughter go in to nursing school. I know his spirit is around us though and that is a nice feeling. You will grieve, and you will miss him always. Whatever you do, do not stop your nursing education. That will keep you going. You will hurt and miss him dearly, but do not give up that chance to become a nurse. It will help keep your mind busy and make the days go by faster. In time you will learn to cope with the sadness and pain, it never goes away, but it does get easier to cope with. He would want to see you graduate from school, so do it in his honor. I know it is the most difficult time in your life right now. Allow yourself to grieve and heal. I will wish you the best of success with school. Take care.

Andrea

Daytonite, BSN, RN · May 27, 2006

I am very sorry for your loss. As sad as the passing of your father is, you need to focus on the wonderful memories he left you with. Those can never be taken away. He will always be in your heart and you can talk to him there.

As a nurse it is possible that you will be involved with patients and families who will be experiencing what you are going through now. What you have to share with them may make an important impact on how they deal with it. The sad fact is that people come and go out of our lives. One day it will be you and I who will be the ones leaving behind those who will be grieving. I don't think your father would have wanted you to give up your nursing school, do you? What better way to honor him but to continue on with your plans. You can still make him proud of you.

kayel · May 27, 2006

I am so so sorry!!! Please accept my deepest sympathies. I will keep you in my prayers!

WDWpixieRN, RN · May 27, 2006

i got a call on march 27 that my mom had passed away in her sleep. she had just turned 69, and other than a touch of arthritis, hadn't been sick a day in her life. i was devastated. i left missouri for southern ca and stayed over 4 weeks to take care of things.

i will tell you that it is only now, 2 months later, that i am truly getting my bearings again. all the thoughts you expressed and more i have been through. my heart is broken and some days i don't know if it will ever be whole again. i was hardly able to put two words together and my kids didn't know who this stranger was who was so seemingly out of control of a situation and myself. i had to return to work at the beginning of this month and i didn't know how i would. turned out it helped a lot to be "distracted" in my little cubicle with the seemingly nonsensical world of work.

i, too, will start an rn program in the fall and at first when this happened, i couldn't imagine how my life could go on. with the passing of a short amount of time, i see now that it has to and will. my mom would've wanted it that way and so would your father.

in the mauseleum (sp?) where my mom is with my grandmother, there is a stained glass window which had a saying that my mom had written in her bible and which was read at her services:

"in three words, i can sum up everything i have learned about life: it goes on" - robert frost

a friend gave me several books to read that were about grieving and loss, and they have helped a lot in sorting out my emotions about a lot of things as i truly hadn't had to deal with such a devastating loss in my life prior to this.

it will just take time....you have that time before the fall, so be good to yourself, grieve when you have to, and lean on friends and family who will want to help you during this very, very difficult time........my sympathy to you and yours....

best wishes--

MrsMommaRN · May 27, 2006

:saint: i am so sorry for your loss.

try your best to make it do what you need to to grieve and work hard through nursing school. make your dad proud. i know you will. big hugs and prayers to you and your family.:icon_hug:

indigo girl · May 27, 2006

I'm deeply sorry for your loss. Give yourself time to grieve, and then go through your routines. Your loving father would never expect you to stop doing anything that is good for you. You worked hard to get into school, and you can still do this. I think school itself will help you, and provide you with more support. You must take care of yourself even if you don't think that you are able to. The very structure of nursing school will enable you to move on with your life in the way that you must. I lost my own father while I was in my first year of nursing school. I can only say that it was my first real experience of true loss. The momentum of being in school helped me tremendously. I hope the same for you. Please, don't quit.

chaosRN, ASN, RN · May 27, 2006

:icon_hug: I'm so sorry for your loss!! I can't even imagine what you're going through. I agree with mom2bears, make you dad proud by graduating nursing school!!

But remember, take care of yourself and your family, nursing school will always be there.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

NaomieRN · May 27, 2006

Nony, I believe strongly in my spirit that your father would want you to start in August. The faster you can get back to your normal activities, the better it would be mentally for you. Just remember, your father would want you to be happy. Go ahead and start the nursing program in August.

Good luck to you............I will be praying for you. God bless you

WDWpixieRN, RN · May 27, 2006

I am scheduled to start nursing school on the 28th of August, I donot know if I am going to be able to make it. Has anyone been throught such a difficult time and if so how did you cope????

An additional thought on this subject....I have a 22-year-old daughter who was having trouble coping with my mom's loss....and it dawned on me she probably hadn't thought, read, or heard much on the subject of dealing with a loss as we just hadn't been touched by it much in our family...my neighbor who had lost his 70-something year old mom a few years ago and I were talking in my yard to her about how you cope, and he said the best words of advice he heard were: "there are just some days you put on your shoes, grit your teeth, and put one foot in front of the other"....because that's all you can muster.....know that the coming weeks and months will be difficult, but you will endure....and probably be a very successful and a very empathetic and caring nurse for your loss & experiences during this time...

Sleep when you need to sleep, take time for yourself, and don't let others tell you how you should be dealing with this....but do keep going because it is what our loved ones would have wanted and expected....