My Father Died Today

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Dad took a turn for the worse over the weekend and Mom didn't tell me, although I was becoming concerned because she was weepier than usual. When I got there this afternoon she and my sister had left to go home and my nephew and I spent some time with him. He was not at all responsive. He was on a mask, oxygen as high as it goes on a concentrator, and fighting for every breath. He was a handsome man, 6 feet tall, and was 150 pounds when he died. Apparently they never completely knocked the pneumonia out and he went into septic shock.

We had just finished dinner when the call came. He died at 5:50 pm. He fought hard but lost, although it's a blessing. He is no longer suffering and lonely.

He was a good man, with a sharp intellect, dry wit, and love of knowledge. He was as honest as the day is long, with morals that were clear and unwavering. He is the man who explained to me that it is harder to be an atheist than religious, because we have to do the right thing just because it's right.

My brother and his wif and a daughter are flying in from Ghana on Friday and we will have a small, private viewing Saturday night. No minister. He will be laid to rest as he lived, with dignity and love.

Here is the poem we will read:

A Man's a Man for A' That

By Robert Burns, 1795

Is there for honest poverty

That hings his head, an a' that?

The coward slave, we pass him by -

We dare be poor for a' that!

For a' that, an a' that!

Our toils obscure, an a' that,

The rank is but the guinea's stamp,

The man's the gowd for a' that.

What though on hamely fare we dine,

Wear hodding grey, an a' that?

Gie fools their skills, and knaves their wine -

A man's a man for a' that.

For a' that, an a' that,

Their tinsel show, an a' that,

The honest man, tho e'er sae poor,

Is king o men for a' that.

Ye see yon birkie ca'd 'a lord,'

Wha struts, an stares, an a' that?

Tho hundreds worship at his word,

He's but a cuif for a' that.

For a' that, an a' that,

His ribband, star, an a' that,

The man o independent mind,

He looks an laughs at a' that.

A prince can mak a belted knight,

A marquis, duke, an a' that!

But an honest man's aboon his might -

Guid faith, he mauna fa' that!

For a' that, an a' that,

Their dignities, an a' that,

The pith o sense an pride o worth,

Are higher rank than a' that.

Then let us pray that come it may

(As come it will for a' that),

That Sense and Worth o'er a' the earth,

Shall bear the gree an a' that.

For a' that, an a' that,

It's coming yet for a' that,

That man to man, the world, o'er

Shall brithers be for a' that.

I will miss him. I adored him.

My deepest sympathy to you and your family. The loss of parent is one of the hardest events in human life.

Specializes in ob/gyn med /surg.

sue i am sorry for your loss.. sending you lots of prayers and hugs ..

My condolences :redpinkhe I too have lost a father I adored, I know how you feel.

I am very sorry for you and your families lose. I too lost my father not so long ago. But you should feel blessed for the time you have gotten to share with him not everyone gets that. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm very sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies to you and yours. Wonderful poem.

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very sorry for your loss. cannot imagine losing one of my parents. may you feel all the good thoughts and energy going your way from all of us. beautiful poem, my deepest sympathies for you and your family♥ ((((hugs))))

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Sue, I'm sorry. Not much anyone can say is going to make anything 'easy' for you, but I do hope you take comfort in knowing that he's not suffering anymore. You did right by him, and I know that wherever he is, he is proud of you.

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My heart goes to you my AN Friend. :)

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Tait

Specializes in Med-Surg.

My sincere condolences.

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(((hugs))) :icon_hug:

I have no words to describe the loss you must be feeling. I extend my true condolences to you and your family. You have the strength and fortitude to make it through this time of loss and grief.

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Sue,

I've never lost a parent, but I understand that the healing process takes time and no ones words can heal you right away. I hope that you and the rest of your family can find peace and tranquility during this difficult period:heartbeat

Sorry to hear of your loss. Will be sending prayers your way.

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