A "dating female students in your class" post

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Well, having just completed my 1st semester of the nursing program, I have found that as a single guy, you are really in (at times) a very weird catch-22 being in a female-dominated student body.

Although I definitely do not complain about the female-to-male ratio, I have learned - the hard way, really - that trying to date one (or, god forbid, even more than one) of your classmates can in many ways be a disastrous decision. Because even though you will likely interact with your female of interest every single day at school, that still doesn't change the fact that you still have to stay focused and on the ball if you want to succeed in nursing school. At one point, I thought that because we were both in the same program, at the same school, etc. it could still work - but man, that just hasn't necessarily shown itself to be the case, in my experience. You simply cannot have your head in the clouds and still do well academically. I would love to be proven wrong on this, but I'm hedging my bets carefully from here on out. It's hard sometimes, trying to find that balance - because even though I'm relatively young (29), I'm not going to pretend that I want to stay single forever - but I definitely don't want to risk losing my "edge" with my studies.

Any other guys experienced anything like this?

Oh man, my first semester chem class was that way big time. All nursing students in a class of 160+ and about 5 guys. I'm 24, and a former us marine. Ya, it was funny at 1st. But it got old. I didn't want anything to do with the 18 year old girls in those classes. They just aren't on my level at all. Funny thing is the guys in that class formed a study group and we did the best in the class with the exception of about 3 or 4 really bright girls. A couple guys wanted to get all over the girls in class, but I did my best to keep that in check. I refused to date those girls. Didn't even want to have to deal with them later on down the road if things ended badly. There are tons of girls, go find other ones.

Specializes in Mursing.

Yep, sure is a catch-22. Although I must admit, summer's coming and it's definitely the best time of the year in terms of fashion. :)

I have similar experience in my class. I am 1 of 4 male student in my class and the attention is so overwhelming that I am now dropping in my grades. It is difficult for men.:cry:

Specializes in RN-BC, CCRN, TCRN, CEN.
Ahhh...it sucks being in nursing school and wanting a relationship at the same time. Theres a girl in my program that i've fallen for, but as a previous poster said, I don't have to courage to ask her out due to awkwardness of rejection or the potential breakup. I almost feel like I'm missing out on life. Oh well, I guess i'll play it cool and if she approaches me on the subject then maybe i'll consider doing the unthinkable...a relationship in nursing school:nono:

I'm in the same boat- my class of 36 is comprised of 30 girls and 6 guys- 4 of which are either above 30, engaged or married. In fact, the majority of our class are older folks coming back for a second degree, and are married or engaged. There are only 2 girls that are single and my age. Both are really nice- I really connected with one girl since we are both part of the same Church and have a lot in common. I don't want to ask her out (though most of the girls have made it known that they know I like her) because: A) I don't want her to feel pressured to say yes since she can't really avoid me if she isn't interested, and B) as mentioned, I don't want to ruin anything before our graduation in May 2013 (AAS) and December 2013 (BSN).

Sigh.....

i just started my program 2 weeks ago. out of 60+ I think there are 15-20 guys and most are vets. so may cute single girls!!!! too bad I can't do anything about it.... I'm married.

Sigh.......

I am one of the girls in the class. it is kinda weird because the guys get so much attention from the teachers and the students.

needless to say I began a completely physical relationships with one of the 2 guys in our class. We have no intentions on dating just getting our school stress out! maybe you could try that . I have to admit its pretty fun, just you both have to agree mums the word and itt won't be more than that.:redpinkhe

lucky guy :cool:

Specializes in ICU + Infection Prevention.

All the guys in my class are occupied. Everyone gets along. There's great camaraderie amongst all 70 of us, male and female.

When NS is done, I'll sure miss all the eye candy!!!

most of the women in our class are midage, and the guys in the class are in their 20s. i think its better to start dating once you got your career going.

Specializes in RN-BC, CCRN, TCRN, CEN.

Dunno how much longer I can deal with this!! (see post above). I find myself staring at her constantly and always talking to her during lecture breaks. We've all seen what can happen with dating a classmate from the previous stories in this thread, but I really don't know what to do! We both work and go to school so its not like we'd even have time to see each other outside of class (this is all assuming she's interested which she kind of seems to be).

Should I just go for it and see what happens?

Dunno how much longer I can deal with this!! (see post above). I find myself staring at her constantly and always talking to her during lecture breaks. We've all seen what can happen with dating a classmate from the previous stories in this thread, but I really don't know what to do! We both work and go to school so its not like we'd even have time to see each other outside of class (this is all assuming she's interested which she kind of seems to be).

Should I just go for it and see what happens?

Do it...

DO IT!!! :yeah: and keep us posted!:)

Specializes in Med Surg - Renal.
Anyway to make a long story short he went from a high B to a low C and barely managed to graduate once he woke up and pulled his head out of his butt.

There were a couple girls in my class I would have given up a one 1.5 drop in GPA for. Fortunately (or unfortunately) it never came to that.

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