Leave you family for nursing??

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Hypothetical question....If you've tried for 3+ to get into nursing school (grades are great but it's so competitive in your area) would you apply for a program out of state? You are married with 3 kids. Hubby's not interested in moving because of his job (no you're not having marital issue). The kids would go with you. You'd be able to move in with family and live rent free. Would you do it???

I say no also. Family first.

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Now here's another question to throw into the mix. What about those who go to med school? They do this all the time and no one really says anything. Is it a double standard for nurses?? Just playing devil's advocate....

Medical School leads to many divorces, even when the couple still lives together. They may do it all the time, but very often no good comes of it as far as their relationship is concerned.

It might be better if both halves of the couple are in med school, so they both know what the deal is, and neither will (hopefully) be very demanding of the other. Still, with so much time spend not focusing on the relationship, it's difficult.

Nursing school may be hard, but it ain't med school.

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I'm sort of it the same situation studentnurse50 was in. I live in Vegas, and hubby got a job in Ky. It's a much better job, and one he couldn't say no to. we talked about it and decided he'd move there and I'd stay in Vegas and finish nursing school. I have 2 semesters left. This semester I have my kids with me. I have my niece here to help me. The kids will be moving back with him after Christmas. It wasn't an easy decision for us to come to, but our 4th semester is brutal and I am not sure I could pass it with my kids here and my hubby gone, even with the help I have. We have survived military deployments, and I'm positive we can survive this. That being said, I don't think I'd move away for 3 years for school. I'd wait until a spot opened up at wherever I lived with my hubby and kids.

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Med school, residency etc. is WAY different than nursing school. At least in my world it is. Can't comprehend comparing the two.

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Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

It depends on the relationship. Would I do it? Yes, without a care in the world. But others would not. Military families spend significant amounts of time apart all the time. It is hard and one will have to be very aware of how hard it will be and have a plan in place. But breaks between semesters should result in the ability to return home for a while and regroup. Three years is not that long. Just my .02.

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Hypothetical question....If you've tried for 3+ to get into nursing school (grades are great but it's so competitive in your area) would you apply for a program out of state? You are married with 3 kids. Hubby's not interested in moving because of his job (no you're not having marital issue). The kids would go with you. You'd be able to move in with family and live rent free. Would you do it???

NOPE FAMILY comes first in my opinion/ my husband's aunt took ... get this 10years to become a Teacher ( she didn't want a single school loan) and she had 3 kids and a husband... but like she said ... I'm not willing to lose my husband or a full time father to my children for my dreams.. there is always a way to do both as long as you have the motivation and you want something real bad.. it would work out .

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1 there was a comment made on here how this is a job and not a identity. True for some.. probably for most. It depends on how much it means and how important it is.

If the family is strong and good go for it. Just because it doesn't work for some doesn't mean it wouldn't work for her. Having some time apart might actually give her chance for studies and when hes there he can take the kids off her hands for bit. When she does have time the can do things together.

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Specializes in Cardiology, Cardiothoracic Surgical.

Can't say I'd do it, even under my own circumstances (no kids, but no family around to help). School has been

hugely stressful, even with a supportive partner, classmates and friends. I'm sure if we weren't as mentally strong

(and I feel like I carry a lot of the emotional burden as well in the relationship), this all would have folded a long time ago.

I would go back and look at the package you present as a nursing school applicant- is there any way you can

strengthen that? Re-taking pre-requisites for a better grade, improving your essay, better test scores,

improving interview skills, working as a CNA/tech- whatever it is that the schools want.

Perhaps a meeting with an admissions counselor is in order.

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dont leave your husband

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Specializes in ICU/PACU.

I don't think nursing is really worth it to be honest.

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Seriously? Not in a million years.

To be frank, I can't imagine anyone thinking working as a nurse trumps having one's family to go home to every day.

Then again, I suppose there are those who don't mind ruining their marriages, getting a divorce, hurting their children. Seems intensely selfish to me....and I'm just not one of them.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, Oncology, Neurology, Rehab.
Hypothetical question....If you've tried for 3+ to get into nursing school (grades are great but it's so competitive in your area) would you apply for a program out of state? You are married with 3 kids. Hubby's not interested in moving because of his job (no you're not having marital issue). The kids would go with you. You'd be able to move in with family and live rent free. Would you do it???

Ask yourself are you getting into nursing because you think that it can be a secure job, and is all the "rage"? Are there other positions that you could think about doing other than nursing. Nursing can be very difficult and is going to change in the coming years (not for the better). How long will relatives be able to support you and your family? Times are still very difficult and this can be a burden on your relatives, even though they say it is ok now. I personally would not leave my family to persue this. Trust me it is not worth. It can be very stressful, trying to take care of your family and yourself with all of the problems that go along with staying up late and studying, clinicals etc. What happens when no one can be there for your children but you and not the relatives? Nursing can be very rewarding, but it can also be "hell". If I had a husband and he is supportive and caring I would just try and find another field of study where you can be with your family, and not move. It seems just about everyone I meet is trying to get into nursing because "they heard" of the demand and think "well there will always be sick people so I will have a job always". The only thing that is certain is death and taxes. Have a heart to heart talk with your husband and pray! Best wishes:cautious:

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