If people make me feel bad, I've been bullied

WookieeRN, BSN, MSN, RN · Feb 4, 2015

On one hand I do feel like people overuse the term bullying to the point that's starting to lose its power. Nowadays, everything is bullying, especially if the person on the receiving end doesn't like what you've said/done.

I think it really devalues what people who are going through real bullying are going through.

I think a lot of people have started to become unable to take constructive criticism, but then you have something like the Internet that blows everything out of proportion. The anonymity of the Internet can be a scary, scary thing and I think a lot of people show their true colors because they can "get away with it" in this platform.

Ruby Vee, BSN · Feb 4, 2015

There's so much wrong with my title. Yes, we have every right to our feelings. I feel sad, I feel bad, I am happy, I feel great!
But, to blame others for our emotional state is a cop out.
Yes, bullying does exist and can be devastating. But just because our feelings are hurt does not make us victims.

Thank you! Overusing the "b" word devalues the experiences of those who have truly been bullied. But what really frosts me is comparing hurt feelings to domestic violence. GRRRRRR!

Fruit Sucker · Feb 4, 2015

Yes! We had a student at my school who tried to get a couple of other students kicked out of the program because someone else overheard them saying she was annoying. That's it, she found out someone said she was annoying. She broke down in class as we were preparing to take an exam and told the professor that she was being bullied and that the emotional strain was too much for her to be able to take the test. She went to the dean and lied about the other two students stealing and was caught in her lie and failed for the semester. The whole thing was absurd, and all over being called annoying. She probably tells everyone she has PTSD now from the horrible bullying.

Anna S, RN · Feb 4, 2015

Good topic.

Bullying is a real, and serious issue, and there is a lot of it about- but there is also a lot of people who think that anytime someone disagrees with them, or corrects them in any way, that they are being bullied.

BSNbeauty, BSN, RN · Feb 4, 2015

Beating a dead horse aren't we? We get it, the term bullying is over used.

WookieeRN, BSN, MSN, RN · Feb 4, 2015

Yes! We had a student at my school who tried to get a couple of other students kicked out of the program because someone else overheard them saying she was annoying. That's it, she found out someone said she was annoying. She broke down in class as we were preparing to take an exam and told the professor that she was being bullied and that the emotional strain was too much for her to be able to take the test. She went to the dean and lied about the other two students stealing and was caught in her lie and failed for the semester. The whole thing was absurd, and all over being called annoying. She probably tells everyone she has PTSD now from the horrible bullying.

Wow, that is ridiculous. That student truly lived up to her characterization as annoying. Jeez Louise.

imintrouble, BSN, RN · Feb 4, 2015

I'd rather be bullied and bear it, than have someone suggest I'm a victim of anything.

Does that even make sense?

Be honest, but no bullying alowed:)

mariebailey, MSN, RN · Feb 5, 2015

I think this whole campaign to convince people people are crying bully prematurely was started by a bunch of bullies. And people who use sarcasm, eye-rolling, gossiping, information hoarding, disregarding your needs/concerns are just doing the socially acceptable form of bullying...but it's still bullying. There are many, many ways to make a person feel intimidated or threatened. People should be civil in the workplace, whether they like their co-workers or not.

Nibbles1 · Feb 5, 2015

Yes! We had a student at my school who tried to get a couple of other students kicked out of the program because someone else overheard them saying she was annoying. That's it, she found out someone said she was annoying. She broke down in class as we were preparing to take an exam and told the professor that she was being bullied and that the emotional strain was too much for her to be able to take the test. She went to the dean and lied about the other two students stealing and was caught in her lie and failed for the semester. The whole thing was absurd, and all over being called annoying. She probably tells everyone she has PTSD now from the horrible bullying.

I think you and I went to nursing school together. We had a "victim" as well. A 44 y/o preachers wife who was always being "bullied." She was constantly running to the director of the nursing program. I think we all had to repent after being locked up in a classroom with her for 11 months. I heard that she is now on some serious medications for mental health issues. Several of us thought that she would be the one to bring a gun to school and go postal.

roser13, ASN, RN · Feb 5, 2015

I think this whole campaign to convince people people are crying bully prematurely was started by a bunch of bullies. And people who use sarcasm, eye-rolling, gossiping, information hoarding, disregarding your needs/concerns are just doing the socially acceptable form of bullying...but it's still bullying. There are many, many ways to make a person feel intimidated or threatened. People should be civil in the workplace, whether they like their co-workers or not.

:roflmao:

mariebailey, MSN, RN · Feb 5, 2015

Elaborate for me. :woot:

Emoticons are a great form of communication.