I did the stupidest thing ever

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I am so freakin stupid, I have been at my med-surg job for like a year and a half. I decided to go for this OR position to get off of nights.All the while my husband has been doing a job search. He did find a job:yeah:However now I need to work at night so I can pick our son up. We were initially going to get a sitter but it did not work out. So now I look like a fool going back to the person I approached about a position and tell her I changed my mind.She will never consider me for a job again probably and will be pissed. I am so freakin pissed. just needed to vent I guess.

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Specializes in psych, addictions, hospice, education.

Just tell her what happened. It's all very reasonable, and people understand that life does things when we don't expect it.

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that's not stupid at all! no need to put yourself down... just explain the situation to her. If you left on a good note, she'll prob be glad to have you back. :)

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I agree..just explain. You are not stupid. We have all had to make a u turn when life hands us a new change. You are a great mom and wife.

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Yes, explain what happened. It's certainly not the stupidest thing ever. Don't beat yerself up. :)

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shanika, please don't even bit yourself up at all, you did what you thought would be good for your family, it wasn't a mistake at all. At least you are taking care of your child and husband, some mothers that I have seen wouldn't even give a crap about their child. Like it's been said already, if you left on a good note, that person will be glad to have you back. (If you have worked for an employer like my last employer, you probably won't leave on a good note, "stupid ass employer"). But anyway you will be just fine, just go back and talk to him or her.

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Specializes in home health, dialysis, others.

Are you saying that you merely approached someone about a position, or was one actually offered and you accepted it? If no offer has been tendered, then there is no problem - just explain that your circumstances have suddenly changed, and you'll need to stay on nights for a while.

If you haven't quit your present job, there really should not be a problem, and you are feeling bad about the missed opportunity, as well as the change you wanted that now won't happen.

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Specializes in Mostly geri :).

Don't beat yourself up. Circumstances change, so we adapt.

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Specializes in OB/GYN, Peds, School Nurse, DD.

Meh. Stuff happens. I had just returned to work after my 2nd child was born and I had a set schedule based on my husbands schedule. My children did not have other caregivers at that time. About 2 weeks after I returned to work, my husbands psychotic boss changed his schedule to a 3-days working 8-5, then 2 days working 2-10pm. And this flipped every week or so. It was insane! I finally just had to quit altogether because my supervisor couldn't work with the new schedule. I didn't blame her at all. She had to meet the needs of the unit. I was so glad when DH's boss was promoted and that schedule nonsense stopped. I went back to my former supervisor and she happily rehired me.

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so tell me again why we are always working around our husbands schedules?

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so tell me again why we are always working around our husbands schedules?

Ooh, I know, I know! It's because jobs are really damned hard to land lately, and we do what we have to do to make it work out, including working around our husband's schedule.

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Ooh, I know, I know! It's because jobs are really damned hard to land lately, and we do what we have to do to make it work out, including working around our husband's schedule.

No, dear. The poster asked why we're ALWAYS doing it, even before the jobs crunch.

And it's true. We did. So, why?

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