I did the stupidest thing ever

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I am so freakin stupid, I have been at my med-surg job for like a year and a half. I decided to go for this OR position to get off of nights.All the while my husband has been doing a job search. He did find a job:yeah:However now I need to work at night so I can pick our son up. We were initially going to get a sitter but it did not work out. So now I look like a fool going back to the person I approached about a position and tell her I changed my mind.She will never consider me for a job again probably and will be pissed. I am so freakin pissed. just needed to vent I guess.

No, dear. The poster asked why we're ALWAYS doing it, even before the jobs crunch.

And it's true. We did. So, why?

Perhaps it's due to the fact that nursing schedules CAN be more flexible than just about any other profession. :twocents: :smokin:

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Specializes in OB/GYN, Peds, School Nurse, DD.
so tell me again why we are always working around our husbands schedules?

Perhaps it's due to the fact that nursing schedules CAN be more flexible than just about any other profession. :twocents: :smokin:

In my case, I have worked mostly prn or part-time since my kids were born. They're 23, 16, & 14 now and if anything, the younger two need us more NOW than they did when they were toddlers. We find that our household runs more smoothly and with less chaos when one of us is home more. Since I always worked less than part-time my husband carried our benefits. He was an executive; his hours would much less flexible than mine. It has always been easier for me to work around his and the kids' schedules, and I haven't minded doing it. The only time it was a problem was when he had an inflexible boss with an inflexible schedule that she changed on a whim. We were unwilling to put our kids in daycare, so that left only one option--change my status. It was a choice that I willingly made because it was more important to me that the children had a parent at home than for me to further my career. YMMV :nurse:

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That's certainly not the stupidest thing ever! Heck, I do stupider things than that every day before breakfast....

Seriously though, I don't think there's any problem with you explaining that your personal circumstances have changed since you inquired about the new position.

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Specializes in LTC, Acute Care.
No, dear. The poster asked why we're ALWAYS doing it, even before the jobs crunch.

And it's true. We did. So, why?

I'm not your dear, and I'm prepared to change around my schedule here again when my husband finds a job. The OP's situation hits so very close to home right now. My husband ALWAYS does certain things for me as well. It's a reciprocal thing. It's no fun, but we do things we don't always want to do to make things work.

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I think everyone understands this job market so I wouldn't worry. The only thing I will add is just be matter of fact and not pissy about the situation when you tell this person you no longer can consider days.

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Specializes in Corrections, Cardiac, Hospice.
so tell me again why we are always working around our husbands schedules?

I work around my husband's schedule because he is a mailman and there is only one shift. When I work around his schedule not only do my children NOT have to go to daycare (saving us THOUSANDS) they also get the benefit of having TWO parents they can go to in times of need. My husband is just as likely as I am to make dinner, get the kids up for school, get groceries, and clean the house. It is a two way street.

Getting back to OP's thread. No problem, just explain what happened.

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Specializes in ED.

Oh yes, same me.....

if you are a good nurse anyone will take you back!

from someone with a 2yr old trying to work around a shiftworker partner and daycare...not easy!

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