I don't love nursing anymore.

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People complained and that's what set my feelings of uncertainty towards nursing. I'm a student who asks a lot of questions, yet people complained to the head of my department for asking questions. Another complaint was I am too casual, which I am casual in stressful situations. Then people complained I walk too fast? Which confuses me, lastly, people complained I was speaking rudely to families(which is definitely not true!). I'm just bothered by the amount of complaining people do, will it ever be enough? How do I get back on the saddle and find the love for nursing again?

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Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.

The first thing to remember is that you can't control the words and actions of other people; however, you can control how you react to them. As with all areas of life, you will come across people in nursing school and in a nursing career that are miserable and seek to elevate themselves by putting others down. What do your instructors say to you or write in your evaluations? That and your grades are the most important measures of success at this point. It may be best to take a step back and reevaluate the situation.

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Specializes in M/S, pedi.

I agree with Rose_Queen, you cannot control other people, only how you react to them. I had an instructor in school who didn't like me and we had disagreed on several things. I was told in my ICU rotation that the questions I was asking were too advanced for my schooling. She felt that I lacked the basics, well I passed with no issues and I now know how to deal with those people. I nod my head, listen and go on about my day.

As long as your evaluations are fine, just ignore the naysayers and think about what brought you to nursing. Mine was interacting with patients and being able to help them get better.

Good luck!

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Thanks I'm just bothered by the whole reporting thing, if there's something I did wrong id prefer to be told of it by them so I can change the mistakes.

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Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

There is such a thing as "too much feedback."

I find that the current generation of students and new grads wants a lot of feedback. Well ... sometimes it's best not to know what everyone thinks of everything we do. It seems to me that current and recent students often say they want more feedback so that they can improve. Then they get upset/depressed/discouraged/whatever every time the feedback says they are not perfect. Sometimes, it's just too much to take in all those suggestions for improvement.

Sometimes, it's best just to know you are "not flunking out" and let it go at that. No need for more information.

I'm sure some of my colleagues would say negative things about me (as I would about them) if we were all asked to give feedback to each other. But then, we wouldn't be such good friends anymore. I'd rather just learn to tolerate everyone's little imperfections and stay friends.

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I love feedback, however, the complaining that I walk too fast or asking too many questions is kind of weird.

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Well... How ironic. Now you are on here complaining about them. Deal with it. If that's the biggest problem you have is that people are complaining because you walk too fast, then you're doing great. And if people's complains make you uncertain about your career then maybe you've forgotten why you are in nursing in the first place. Remember why you started, and what the real reason is for you going through nursing school in the first place.

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Not necessarily complaining as I am asking for tips, and I see your point. Thank you!

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Specializes in Prior military RN/current ICU RN..

It is no ones responsibiity but your own to find a "love for nursing". Quit if you want or don't quit.

Maybe those "complaints" are valid and maybe you need to be aware of your actions. When you get chewed out by a doc or your head nurse are you going to quit?

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Alright I think I found my love for it. Thanks to you all, I'm in. I am not ever. Going to give up. You guys are the reason I am not giving up. Thank you

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In cna clinical we were told do not ask the medication nurses ANY question for anything. Maybe you asked the wrong people? Your question is a little vague to me. I find my love for nursing on these kind of forums though.

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Yeah maybe it's just preference? All of the nurses I've worked with have been okay, maybe I asked someone else at one point. How do I close a post?

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