*When they stare at me for over 3 seconds for no apparent reason! Especially, when I'm trying to eat a subway sandwich or something and they just feel the need to watch me eat. Or when I'm trying to fix my hair in a portable mirror and they just feel the need to glance at me more then twice. Once should be enough because it's rude!
*When they walk so slowww in front of me to the point where I just want to push them. Because I am a very impatient person to the point where the littlest things tick me off if it's not fast enough.
*I hate when people tries to start a conversation with me! So I just smile and nod my head and hope that they get the jist that I don't want to talk. And it's not even people in general, it's actually because I'm a bad conversationalist!
Why I dislike kids:
* I don't necessarily hate them but I do force myself to be nice as possible to them. However, I really don't like interacting with children unless it's to hold a baby.
*I don't want kids until my late 30s. Go figure. And I especially don't want to get married because every relationship I get into it only lasts for about 3 months because I love being a loner. If I'm going to work seeing people then I would like to come home and see no people.
But I love animals (I have 4 dogs)! However, I just don't see myself working with animals in the future because I would love to keep my hands in tact.
And no guys I am not trolling. This is really an everything for me and it's the reasons why it is so hard for me to commit to nursing. And I actually have an appointment set up with a therapist July 18 before I go off to nursing school and it's to find out why I really act this way.
So I just wanted to make this thread because after scrolling Allnurses for the last two days I find that threads like these are not common but their are people out there who is just like me and wants to go into nursing. I want to be a nurse because I find that I really like helping people and kids at their weakest points but other than that I hate people.
Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.
I don't feel good about the way I think or my actions and that is why I'm going to see a psychiatrist because maybe I have a personality disorder and I don't even know it. And the worst thing is I have a little sister and she's showing the same symptoms and dispositions I always try to hide from people. So I feel it's better to stop the problem in it's tracks now before it becomes too great. I know my kindness can be the fakest thing ever and I don't feel bad about pretending to like people.
And I don't know if it's a thing on here or not to troll on Allnurses but I didn't make this thread to provide entertainment to you all.
OP, I think you have great insight into your behavior. That is the first step. I am curious why you decided on nursing, but that's neither here nor there. I used to be a lot like you, I think. Becoming a nurse has actually gone a long way towards teaching me compassion and empathy for others.
And I'll let you in on a secret....I have 3 children, but I do not like children, in general. Really, the only kids I like are my own, and sometimes they annoy the bejeepers out of me as well.
Okay, then I stand corrected. Must just be in my area. I live in a small community where its frowned upon if you don't say the pledge. But, seeing people from different areas and backgrounds, I see that is not the case for everyone.
Specializes in Med/surg tele, home health, travel.
Well, just take a moment and think about everything you just said in your "rant." Would you want that same kind of person caring for your family at the bedside? Does that sound fair enough to you? If that's truly how you picture things then nursing will eat you alive. You have to at least have to have some sense of compassion to be able to take on a career in healthcare, especially being on the front line. You may need to reconsider your career goal.
Could you please type out actual words instead of using text speak, which is clearly spelled out in the TOS?
Alya:
As a RN, we take an oath before we graduate school and it reads:
"I solemnly pledge myself before God and in the presence of this assembly to pass my life in purity and to practise my profession faithfully.
I will abstain from whatever is deleterious and mischievous, and will not take or knowingly administer any harmful drug.
I will do all in my power to maintain and elevate the standard of my profession and will hold in confidence all personal matters committed to my keeping and all family affairs coming to my knowledge in the practice of my calling.
With loyalty will I aid the physician in his work, and as a missioner of health, I will dedicate myself to devoted service for human welfare."
If you can't agree with what's written above, please don't waste ur money on a degree U won't succeed in.
If you choose to continue, is it ur heart or ur pocketbook wanting to be a nurse?
If it's ur heart, then maybe something like forensic nursing, or research would be a good fit.
Can we not try to equate or confuse introvert with misanthrope. Thanks.
Thank you.
Introversion - feeling overly-stimulated or awkward in social situations - is not at all the same thing as what OP has described, which seems to be an annoyance that other people exist.
It's tempting to say that it's inexplicable why OP would choose nursing, but she gives a strong clue, in the post about "helping" others only when they are in need. In other words -- when she can be on top.
Lots of anger apparent from the OP. Rage, even. I'm glad to hear you're going to speak to a health professional about this. It has nothing to do with nursing -- it's about functioning as a healthy adult and working on maladaptive behaviors and thought patterns.
Oh, and strongly suggest that nursing is not for you. You will not like it. Modern healthcare is no longer like "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" -- you will not get to play out the power games with patients that you apparently believe you will. Explore medical technology as a major -- the 4-year degree is required for many lab positions.
If you don't like people then you really won't like sick people and their families who are confined to a hospital room. If you don't like talking to people it will be really hard for you to take a billion calls on your phone in your pocket while you are also dealing with everything else you need to do. You also might not like the personalities of the physicians and the fact that you will have to stop whatever it is you are doing when they come in and want to talk to you or the many times you need to call/page them because you need something for your patients. Nursing school as well has many hurdles and professors can be interesting personalities in nursing school. If you need to see a therapist now? Before you even start school... It's prob not for you.
Complete BS. There are MANY atheist nurses who I'd rather have care for my loved ones than a bible-thumping nurse that believes that God is using her as a vessel to heal people by his will (or whatever other psycho-babble that nurses like this use). It's fine for you to believe in what you do, but to say that only believers of God can be great nurses is highly offensive.
And again, could you refrain from the juvenile text speaking? It's offensive to the educated masses who actually know how to read and follow the TOS here.
So let's pretend you actually care for a moment.
Florence nightingale is the founder of modern nursing basically.
We quote that we "solemnly pledge myself before God and in the presence of this assembly to pass my life in purity and to practise my profession faithfully." BECAUSE nursing is a healing practice. We don't just shove pills down people's throats, start IVs and have sex with doctors like in the soap operas. We let love guide our practice. We let our hearts and guts react when needed, we understand that God is above all, and ultimately it is up to Him to determine if our patients live or die. Even the most appropriate medical care can be foiled but some unknown reason.
You must accept this, or you will most likely fail as a nurse.
It's true some may use the introverted personality to become the best nurse, ever. But this is hardly ever the case. If you are perceived as the callus nurse, U won't be a friend to management.
I've seen other nurses run people like u off the job, using your bad social skills against U to seem incompetent.
Trust me when I tell u, to search your heart and soul and make sure nursing is what God is leading you to. You will most likely have to fight for the right to be respected, if u don't have good social skills.
Plus there's schools sn clinical a to get through, and trust me, professors pick the runt of the litter and will attempt to fail them, if ur the runt, good luck.
If your trolling, shame on you. I (and most everyone here) understand that we must practice faithfully.
Yes I work at a catholic hospital, but even with my rant; guess what? I don't go to church. My faith lies in My HEART so don't tell me ur not Christian. You are HUMAN and I think u missed the most fundamental gene: empathy.
klone, MSN, RN
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OP, I think you have great insight into your behavior. That is the first step. I am curious why you decided on nursing, but that's neither here nor there. I used to be a lot like you, I think. Becoming a nurse has actually gone a long way towards teaching me compassion and empathy for others.
And I'll let you in on a secret....I have 3 children, but I do not like children, in general. Really, the only kids I like are my own, and sometimes they annoy the bejeepers out of me as well.