*When they stare at me for over 3 seconds for no apparent reason! Especially, when I'm trying to eat a subway sandwich or something and they just feel the need to watch me eat. Or when I'm trying to fix my hair in a portable mirror and they just feel the need to glance at me more then twice. Once should be enough because it's rude!
*When they walk so slowww in front of me to the point where I just want to push them. Because I am a very impatient person to the point where the littlest things tick me off if it's not fast enough.
*I hate when people tries to start a conversation with me! So I just smile and nod my head and hope that they get the jist that I don't want to talk. And it's not even people in general, it's actually because I'm a bad conversationalist!
Why I dislike kids:
* I don't necessarily hate them but I do force myself to be nice as possible to them. However, I really don't like interacting with children unless it's to hold a baby.
*I don't want kids until my late 30s. Go figure. And I especially don't want to get married because every relationship I get into it only lasts for about 3 months because I love being a loner. If I'm going to work seeing people then I would like to come home and see no people.
But I love animals (I have 4 dogs)! However, I just don't see myself working with animals in the future because I would love to keep my hands in tact.
And no guys I am not trolling. This is really an everything for me and it's the reasons why it is so hard for me to commit to nursing. And I actually have an appointment set up with a therapist July 18 before I go off to nursing school and it's to find out why I really act this way.
So I just wanted to make this thread because after scrolling Allnurses for the last two days I find that threads like these are not common but their are people out there who is just like me and wants to go into nursing. I want to be a nurse because I find that I really like helping people and kids at their weakest points but other than that I hate people.
My whole heart as well as my dedication and integrity are put fully into my job, a job that I truly want to do warts and all, but I wouldn't say that pledge either.
Florence nightingale is the founder of modern nursing basically.
We quote that we "solemnly pledge myself before God and in the presence of this assembly to pass my life in purity and to practise my profession faithfully." BECAUSE nursing is a healing practice. We don't just shove pills down people's throats, start IVs and have sex with doctors like in the soap operas. We let love guide our practice. We let our hearts and guts react when needed, we understand that God is above all, and ultimately it is up to Him to determine if our patients live or die. Even the most appropriate medical care can be foiled but some unknown reason.
You must accept this, or you will most likely fail as a nurse.
It's true some may use the introverted personality to become the best nurse, ever. But this is hardly ever the case. If you are perceived as the callus nurse, U won't be a friend to management.
I've seen other nurses run people like u off the job, using your bad social skills against U to seem incompetent.
Trust me when I tell u, to search your heart and soul and make sure nursing is what God is leading you to. You will most likely have to fight for the right to be respected, if u don't have good social skills.
Plus there's schools sn clinical a to get through, and trust me, professors pick the runt of the litter and will attempt to fail them, if ur the runt, good luck.
If your trolling, shame on you. I (and most everyone here) understand that we must practice faithfully.
Yes I work at a catholic hospital, but even with my rant; guess what? I don't go to church. My faith lies in My HEART so don't tell me ur not Christian. You are HUMAN and I think u missed the most fundamental gene: empathy.
No, no, no. Just no. That's your philosophy, not everyone else's. Not everybody believes in God.
I don't feel good about the way I think or my actions and that is why I'm going to see a psychiatrist because maybe I have a personality disorder and I don't even know it. And the worst thing is I have a little sister and she's showing the same symptoms and dispositions I always try to hide from people. So I feel it's better to stop the problem in it's tracks now before it becomes too great. I know my kindness can be the fakest thing ever and I don't feel bad about pretending to like people.
And I don't know if it's a thing on here or not to troll on Allnurses but I didn't make this thread to provide entertainment to you all.
My whole heart as well as my dedication and integrity are put fully into my job, a job that I truly want to do warts and all, but I wouldn't say that pledge either.
I have previously been unaware of this feeling by people toward the pledge. I accept not all people believe in God, but just leave out the word God and say
"I solemnly pledge myself before (examples) "the sun god, the moon, my partner etc" and in the presence of this assembly to pass my life in purity and to practise my profession faithfully."
I break it down as meaning I will perform my job to the best of my ability, and care about my patients.
Yes I may be a southern girl, I'm not exposed to other beliefs much, nor cultures.
You basically have to do and say what you think is right, for you. My example is just that the nurses pledge represents a mindset that is the most beneficial to our culturally diverse ill patients.
Specializes in Float Pool-Med-Surg, Telemetry, IMCU.
Our school used the updated Nightingale Oath that doesn't have all the God stuff in it nor the sexist "serve the doctor in his profession" line. (barf.)
Rest assured, you can be a nurse without thinking it's some kind of "calling" from God. I'm an atheist and I'm pretty sure it doesn't hinder me in my career.
You might want to find something to like about people, though. You'll deal with a lot of them no matter which unit you end up on.
I don't feel good about the way I think or my actions and that is why I'm going to see a psychiatrist because maybe I have a personality disorder and I don't even know it. And the worst thing is I have a little sister and she's showing the same symptoms and dispositions I always try to hide from people. So I feel it's better to stop the problem in it's tracks now before it becomes too great. I know my kindness can be the fakest thing ever and I don't feel bad about pretending to like people.
And I don't know if it's a thing on here or not to troll on Allnurses but I didn't make this thread to provide entertainment to you all.
Then you are taking a step in the right direction, I commend you for that. Just remember that it takes time for change.
Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.
OP, I'm wondering if a surgical scrub tech program would be more up your alley than nursing school. I think they're generally a nine-month community college program and then you could assist with surgeries. Maximum inner organ exposure; minimal human interaction.
Just a thought. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Specializes in UR/PA, Hematology/Oncology, Med Surg, Psych.
Do you really hate people, or are you just an introvert? I like people just fine, but I need my alone time after a shift to rejuvenate sometimes. Although I do admit that I don't like everyone, I will have a real reason for it.
If you really do just generally hate people, therapy is a great step. I find that people that are immediately irritated at strangers for no reason tend to be projecting their dislike/anger away from someone or something else. They do it as a self protective measure.
Someone is trolling us. Maybe it's a slow night over at "Student Doctor."
Lol, believe what you want, but at least I know the truth. I see no specific reason to lie when I can be anonymous and just vent. And yes I would like to see as little as possible of family members that I can because I wouldn't know how to speak to them. And I see nothing wrong with that.
Ok, OP NOW we are getting somewhere.
First off, don't ever use the word "hate". It is just ignorant.
Secondly, to not be a people person, and not KNOW how to communicate with people are 2 entirely different things.
It is good that you are realizing you have an issue, and you are seeking help for the same.
Personal life is personal life, and if you engage in any sort of friendships, you are communicating with people.
In nursing life, there is a commitment to active and successful communication. However, with scripting and such you will have a guideline. You do not necessarily have to engage with other nurses beyond a team oriented approach--but being a team and working together is of essence to a successful unit.
Because you were homeschooled, you really don't have a basis on working with a number of children and attempting to make a team work. You will learn to do that in college, and I would take full advantage of any communication/team building type courses that you can.
What I would discuss with your therapist is your uncomfortable nature of touching, as well as your thoughts about people staring at you. I think it is easy to have social anxiety when you are not used to being around people, then you are put in a job where you are around any number of people. Just to throw it out there, also talk about autism spectrum--NOT giving medical advice per AN TOS, however, it is worth talking about with a therapist.
Best wishes, and remember--how you present yourself is an indicator of character. And character is something that you need to build within yourself. You are capable of doing this. Strive to do the right thing.
OP, why did you come on a nursing forum to rant about how much you hate people?
I think she is trying to figure many things out. I feel empathy for this person and hope she (?) can figure out some I sites into her self and a way forwards. So far on this thread I am disappointed in the level of disdain and disbelief. Even if she was trolling, misanthropes exist and by responding to her so poorly we reveal a bit of a contemptuous attitude ourselves.
OP I have no recommendations for you, but I am sure that there are opportunities that would be tolerable for you. It may be harder to get through nursing school with your aversion to people.
Beyond going to a psychiatrist- which I applaud your resolve- I think you should look into becoming an assistant pathologist, it will take you longer than just getting a ADN or BSN but it will satisfy your interest in organs, and it is a position in demand that does not require a lot of contact with people I wish you luck.
Exactly why I'm going to see a pyschiatrist to help me change my ways... I actually prefer the unconscious patients and night shift so I see no families.
Good luck with no families on night shift in ICU and all unconscious patients. It will not happen. Families are more permitted now more than in the past to stay with the patient if they desire to. Not all ICU patients are unconscious either.
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My whole heart as well as my dedication and integrity are put fully into my job, a job that I truly want to do warts and all, but I wouldn't say that pledge either.