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I Hate People (my rant)

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My whole heart as well as my dedication and integrity are put fully into my job, a job that I truly want to do warts and all, but I wouldn't say that pledge either.

So let's pretend you actually care for a moment.

Florence nightingale is the founder of modern nursing basically.

We quote that we "solemnly pledge myself before God and in the presence of this assembly to pass my life in purity and to practise my profession faithfully." BECAUSE nursing is a healing practice. We don't just shove pills down people's throats, start IVs and have sex with doctors like in the soap operas. We let love guide our practice. We let our hearts and guts react when needed, we understand that God is above all, and ultimately it is up to Him to determine if our patients live or die. Even the most appropriate medical care can be foiled but some unknown reason.

You must accept this, or you will most likely fail as a nurse.

It's true some may use the introverted personality to become the best nurse, ever. But this is hardly ever the case. If you are perceived as the callus nurse, U won't be a friend to management.

I've seen other nurses run people like u off the job, using your bad social skills against U to seem incompetent.

Trust me when I tell u, to search your heart and soul and make sure nursing is what God is leading you to. You will most likely have to fight for the right to be respected, if u don't have good social skills.

Plus there's schools sn clinical a to get through, and trust me, professors pick the runt of the litter and will attempt to fail them, if ur the runt, good luck.

If your trolling, shame on you. I (and most everyone here) understand that we must practice faithfully.

Yes I work at a catholic hospital, but even with my rant; guess what? I don't go to church. My faith lies in My HEART so don't tell me ur not Christian. You are HUMAN and I think u missed the most fundamental gene: empathy.

No, no, no. Just no. That's your philosophy, not everyone else's. Not everybody believes in God.

I don't feel good about the way I think or my actions and that is why I'm going to see a psychiatrist because maybe I have a personality disorder and I don't even know it. And the worst thing is I have a little sister and she's showing the same symptoms and dispositions I always try to hide from people. So I feel it's better to stop the problem in it's tracks now before it becomes too great. I know my kindness can be the fakest thing ever and I don't feel bad about pretending to like people.

And I don't know if it's a thing on here or not to troll on Allnurses but I didn't make this thread to provide entertainment to you all.

My whole heart as well as my dedication and integrity are put fully into my job, a job that I truly want to do warts and all, but I wouldn't say that pledge either.

I have previously been unaware of this feeling by people toward the pledge. I accept not all people believe in God, but just leave out the word God and say

"I solemnly pledge myself before (examples) "the sun god, the moon, my partner etc" and in the presence of this assembly to pass my life in purity and to practise my profession faithfully."

I break it down as meaning I will perform my job to the best of my ability, and care about my patients.

Yes I may be a southern girl, I'm not exposed to other beliefs much, nor cultures.

You basically have to do and say what you think is right, for you. My example is just that the nurses pledge represents a mindset that is the most beneficial to our culturally diverse ill patients.

No, no, no. Just no. That's your philosophy, not everyone else's. Not everybody believes in God.

I am aware.

I don't want to come off as forcing a belief, we all have ours. Whether it's belief or not; it's our choice.

My goal is to share the nursing oath, I didn't come up with it, but we say it where I come from. It's just words to some.

What I'm trying to get at is you must have some compassion in your work, to be successful and assert a caring nature.

Hating people comes off as no compassion.

You may burn me at the stake in your mind if you like, we all have opinions.

Personally I would NOT want a nurse that is secretly cussing and belittling me in her mind. Nope.

MECO28, BSN, RN

Specializes in Float Pool-Med-Surg, Telemetry.

Our school used the updated Nightingale Oath that doesn't have all the God stuff in it nor the sexist "serve the doctor in his profession" line. (barf.)

Rest assured, you can be a nurse without thinking it's some kind of "calling" from God. I'm an atheist and I'm pretty sure it doesn't hinder me in my career.

You might want to find something to like about people, though. You'll deal with a lot of them no matter which unit you end up on.

I don't feel good about the way I think or my actions and that is why I'm going to see a psychiatrist because maybe I have a personality disorder and I don't even know it. And the worst thing is I have a little sister and she's showing the same symptoms and dispositions I always try to hide from people. So I feel it's better to stop the problem in it's tracks now before it becomes too great. I know my kindness can be the fakest thing ever and I don't feel bad about pretending to like people.

And I don't know if it's a thing on here or not to troll on Allnurses but I didn't make this thread to provide entertainment to you all.

Then you are taking a step in the right direction, I commend you for that. Just remember that it takes time for change.

TriciaJ, RN

Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.

OP, I'm wondering if a surgical scrub tech program would be more up your alley than nursing school. I think they're generally a nine-month community college program and then you could assist with surgeries. Maximum inner organ exposure; minimal human interaction.

Just a thought. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

dream'n, BSN, RN

Specializes in UR/PA, Hematology/Oncology, Med Surg, Psych.

Do you really hate people, or are you just an introvert? I like people just fine, but I need my alone time after a shift to rejuvenate sometimes. Although I do admit that I don't like everyone, I will have a real reason for it.

If you really do just generally hate people, therapy is a great step. I find that people that are immediately irritated at strangers for no reason tend to be projecting their dislike/anger away from someone or something else. They do it as a self protective measure.

Someone is trolling us. Maybe it's a slow night over at "Student Doctor."

Lol, believe what you want, but at least I know the truth. I see no specific reason to lie when I can be anonymous and just vent. And yes I would like to see as little as possible of family members that I can because I wouldn't know how to speak to them. And I see nothing wrong with that.

Ok, OP NOW we are getting somewhere.

First off, don't ever use the word "hate". It is just ignorant.

Secondly, to not be a people person, and not KNOW how to communicate with people are 2 entirely different things.

It is good that you are realizing you have an issue, and you are seeking help for the same.

Personal life is personal life, and if you engage in any sort of friendships, you are communicating with people.

In nursing life, there is a commitment to active and successful communication. However, with scripting and such you will have a guideline. You do not necessarily have to engage with other nurses beyond a team oriented approach--but being a team and working together is of essence to a successful unit.

Because you were homeschooled, you really don't have a basis on working with a number of children and attempting to make a team work. You will learn to do that in college, and I would take full advantage of any communication/team building type courses that you can.

What I would discuss with your therapist is your uncomfortable nature of touching, as well as your thoughts about people staring at you. I think it is easy to have social anxiety when you are not used to being around people, then you are put in a job where you are around any number of people. Just to throw it out there, also talk about autism spectrum--NOT giving medical advice per AN TOS, however, it is worth talking about with a therapist.

Best wishes, and remember--how you present yourself is an indicator of character. And character is something that you need to build within yourself. You are capable of doing this. Strive to do the right thing.

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OP, why did you come on a nursing forum to rant about how much you hate people?

I think she is trying to figure many things out. I feel empathy for this person and hope she (?) can figure out some I sites into her self and a way forwards. So far on this thread I am disappointed in the level of disdain and disbelief. Even if she was trolling, misanthropes exist and by responding to her so poorly we reveal a bit of a contemptuous attitude ourselves.

OP I have no recommendations for you, but I am sure that there are opportunities that would be tolerable for you. It may be harder to get through nursing school with your aversion to people.

Beyond going to a psychiatrist- which I applaud your resolve- I think you should look into becoming an assistant pathologist, it will take you longer than just getting a ADN or BSN but it will satisfy your interest in organs, and it is a position in demand that does not require a lot of contact with people I wish you luck.

nrsang97, BSN, RN

Specializes in Neuro ICU and Med Surg.

Exactly why I'm going to see a pyschiatrist to help me change my ways... I actually prefer the unconscious patients and night shift so I see no families.

Good luck with no families on night shift in ICU and all unconscious patients. It will not happen. Families are more permitted now more than in the past to stay with the patient if they desire to. Not all ICU patients are unconscious either.

As for the OP I truly have no words.

No, no, no. Just no. That's your philosophy, not everyone else's. Not everybody believes in God.

Thank You!

FolksBtrippin, BSN, RN

Specializes in Psychiatry, Pediatrics, Public Health.

OP, sounds like you are strongly introverted, which is fine. Nothing wrong with that.

You will find your niche in nursing and you will do fine.

My mom and two of my aunts are introverted nurses with very successful careers. My one aunt, who is probably as introverted as you, did very well in the ER during her youth, then moved into occupational health as she got older.

randomhero

Specializes in Nephrology, LTC, Clinical Management.

You nailed it mvm2! Being a mortician seems appropriate for AlyaMF. I don't see any role for you in nursing. Hate to be rude, but that's just not going to work out for you!

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"And I don't know if it's a thing on here or not to troll on Allnurses but I didn't make this thread to provide entertainment to you all."

Haven't read very many threads here, have you?

CrunchRN, ADN, RN

Specializes in Clinical Research, Outpt Women's Health.

If you are a good nurse that gives effective care to me or mine I wouldn't care that you may not exactly love love love us LOL. Night shift probably the best option.

klone, MSN, RN

Specializes in Women's Health/OB Leadership.

It's the Florence Nightingale pledge...every nurse pledges it when they graduate. It's actually pretty disrespectful if you don't pledge it when you graduate.

No they don't.

Rocknurse, MSN, APRN, NP

Specializes in Critical Care and ED.

So let's pretend you actually care for a moment.

Florence nightingale is the founder of modern nursing basically.

We quote that we "solemnly pledge myself before God and in the presence of this assembly to pass my life in purity and to practise my profession faithfully." BECAUSE nursing is a healing practice. We don't just shove pills down people's throats, start IVs and have sex with doctors like in the soap operas. We let love guide our practice. We let our hearts and guts react when needed, we understand that God is above all, and ultimately it is up to Him to determine if our patients live or die. Even the most appropriate medical care can be foiled but some unknown reason.

You must accept this, or you will most likely fail as a nurse.

It's true some may use the introverted personality to become the best nurse, ever. But this is hardly ever the case. If you are perceived as the callus nurse, U won't be a friend to management.

I've seen other nurses run people like u off the job, using your bad social skills against U to seem incompetent.

Trust me when I tell u, to search your heart and soul and make sure nursing is what God is leading you to. You will most likely have to fight for the right to be respected, if u don't have good social skills.

Plus there's schools sn clinical a to get through, and trust me, professors pick the runt of the litter and will attempt to fail them, if ur the runt, good luck.

If your trolling, shame on you. I (and most everyone here) understand that we must practice faithfully.

Yes I work at a catholic hospital, but even with my rant; guess what? I don't go to church. My faith lies in My HEART so don't tell me ur not Christian. You are HUMAN and I think u missed the most fundamental gene: empathy.

No. Just no. I've nursed quite successfully without god for over 23 years now. Do what works for you, but don't project it on to others who don't want it.

klone, MSN, RN

Specializes in Women's Health/OB Leadership.

It's a tradition.

Do you disagree with "one nation, under God" in the pledge of allegiance too?

I do. I'm an atheist.

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