I am giving up

rn-jane · Jun 29, 2008

Don't give up because some negative people have you scared. Yes, it is hard but anything worthwhile in life is and if you have committment, and a true desire then go for it. I did it with 3 children with one with special needs. I knew I had to do it for my family, but mostly for myself because it was a calling for me. It was not the hardest thing I ever done but it was difficult with all the studying, preparation for clinicals and the financial burden it placed on my family. I have never regretted my decision.

essy752002 · Jun 29, 2008

Just a few lines to cheer you up. When I did my LPN program I had 2 children and pregnant with one. After nine years, I decided to go back to school. This time I had 5 children, my husband had left and my mom who came to visit me found out she had stage 4 breast cancer. I also had to work full-time. I graduated in April 2008 with my ASN. Honey if I could do it, anyone can do it. If I listened to those who told me it could not be done, or that it was too hard, I would not be here to tell you. I was told everything to make me stop and give up. When I took off the summer, a nurse educator at my job told me, "I knew you couldn't make it" but I have proven them wrong:yeah:

It is your dream, make it your reality. I'm cheering for you

LPNDebbie · Jun 29, 2008

I too have had the same idea as you from time to time and then I get to thinking "what will I do if I don't become a nurse?" I think of other careers but they will just turn out to be "jobs" and nothing that will come close to fulfilling my dream like nursing will. I am a single mom with no support and am determined to start classes this year no matter what people tell me. This is my dream, not theirs. Do not let people persude you. :no:Besides, they may have struggled and you may not struggle as much as they did. Everyone has different learning techniques. You never know until you try!

DebanamRN, MSN, RN · Jun 29, 2008

If I had listened to everyone who said you can't, I'd be a welfare mother. I stopped listening to "people." Lots of "people" who say YOU can't, can't themselves. :banghead:

I got my LPN. I'm halfway thru my RN. I got ACLS certified. I'm going for PALS in August. I work in an ER. I wouldn't have any of these things if I listened to "People."

(PS ACLS and PALS are advanced cpr courses.)

"People" said I couldn't.:angryfire I said I could. So can you. :redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe

CYoungLPN, LPN · Jul 31, 2008

:loveya:aww dont give up but it is alot of hard work and it isnt for everyone but if its something that you really do want dont give up on it

Virgo_RN, BSN, RN · Jul 31, 2008

I think I am going to give up my dream of becoming a nurse. Everyone keeps telling me how hard it is. That it is the hardest thing I will do in my life. So people pretty much scared me. I haven't been in a classroom in a few years. And I am also the mother of two which is even harder. I don't know what to do. Nursing is the career I want and desire. I want to be able to provide my children with a better life. I am so lost and confused.

So if it's hard, that makes it not worth doing?

rita359 · Jul 31, 2008

Sounds like you need to stop reading all the negative posts and concentrate on the positive. As others said, nursing school is hard but so is any other school. Some people don't even make it through high school! If nursing is really what you want you will make it. You may have to take more time to do it with children but then again I've seen people with kids work a job and go to school and be successful so it is not like it cannot be done. Depends on how much you want to put into it.

allnurses Guide · Jul 31, 2008

At the risk of sounding cliche, its the hard that makes it great. Yep. Its hard. Which means every little step toward success I take feels awfully good.

I am a mother of three, one of whom had a brain tumor and lived, one of whom had leukemia and died and one of whom is neurotic as all get out due to being sandwiched between the other two:chuckle

I work full time, own a home and go to school. I am 37 years of age, I have one degree in liberal arts, 3/4 of a business degree finished and have changed directions to pursue my ADN. If things go according to plan and I get in when I hope I will, I will graduate from nursing school in May of 2011, which is when my child who died would have graduated from high school. And I will be 40 years old.

Yes, its hard. Don't let the concept of hard intimidate you to the point of giving up before you start. You can be whatever you want to be, as the old addage goes. It doesn't follow, however, that it will come easy or that everyone will step aside and just let you have it. Its competitive. Even if it were not competitive, the subject matter is challenging. Yep, you might try and fail. But you also might try and make it. Are you willing to give up the chance of success based on the chance of failure??? No way! Go for it.

allthingsbright · Jul 31, 2008

Becoming a nurse takes determination and you do have to WANT IT really bad and WORK really HARD! If you are persistent enough you can do this--dont let people scare you off because of their experience. Try it and see for yourself! :)

myty23 · Jul 31, 2008

I agree with everyone else here. I am not a nurse yet, not even in the program yet. I also have had people try to discourage me about nursing. About a year ago is when I decided I wanted to be a nurse again, so I started telling people my plans. My husbands family were the most discouraging. When I would tell them I was going to school to be a nurse, they would either say how hard it was or that I shouldn't do it, etc. But when he said he was thinking about going himself, they were all about it and saying how wonderful he would be as a nurse (since then he has decided not to because he finally got hired on as a paid firefighter--different story!) But I just hated how unsupportive they all were for me. I also had some nurses tell me how hard it was and made me feel like I won't be able to do it because I'm a mother and work and they wen't to school before they had kids, etc....Anyways, I've decided not to talk to certain people about my plans and if anybody does offer their negativity, I'm just going to ignore it and try as hard as I can to prove everybody wrong. I've always been the type of person that when somebody tells me I can't do something, all it does is light my fire and make me want to try that much harder to prove them wrong. I do think some of them are jealous at the thought of me being a nurse and being educated because I would be doing more than they have. Some people don't like to see others succeed because it makes them feel incompetent. Others are just being honest at how hard it is and want to make us aware, but they don't realize that they may be scaring people away as well. Anyways, right now I'm taking classes part time until I get all of my pre and co-requisite classes done and then hopefully can start the nursing program next fall. I don't even know how the work situation is going to pan out yet. Everything is still up in the air, but I'm going for it anyways. I am so ready!!! I hope you don't let others bring you down and change your mind. Forget them and keep on following your dream!!!

Ang_RN · Jul 31, 2008

Don't give up just because of what other people say. It might be hard, but if you love nursing, it can't be terrible.

Please don't give up on your dreams, based on other's opinions.

Raising kids is hard, probably the hardest thing you will ever do. But the rewards.. WOW.. You aren't going to ever give up on that.. so why give up on your dreams?

tryingtobecome · Jul 31, 2008

Thanks to all for all the kind words. I did post another thread in which I stated I was gonna do it. I will not let anyone take my dreams from me. People kept giving me negative responses that it scared me. But then all you kind people here at allnurses gave me courage and hope to follow my dream. I am actually so looking foward and excited about getting back into school. I have to this for me and my family. They are very supportive of my goals. And that gives me courage to do it. I know it my be a long hard road. But I know I can do it. Why not? If others have so can I. Hopefully I will begin the nursing program in spring of 2010 it seems so far away. But I know it is not time goes by fast. Thanks to all for your words I owe it to you guys for keeping my dream alive. Thank you all and I wish everyone the best of luck to the already nurses, to the new grades, to the students in nursing already, to the pre nursing students, and to the ones that just need little steps to get in the door. We shall achieve greatness and the best to all.