I am giving up

siby.siby · Jun 28, 2008

very well said!

Don't give up!! Don't let other people discourage you! I too haven't been in a classroom in a while and I also have two kids(2yrs. and 9mos.). I dream of being a nurse, I want it so bad. I want my kids to have a good future and to be able to go to college. I just started my first class last week and guess what?? I did awesome! I was actually helping other people understand the material. And you can too. I know you can. When other people tell me how hard nursing school is, it just puts fuel on fire. I want it even more and become even more driven to prove them wrong. You're also showing your kids that school is important and mommy's happiness is important too. You'll never regret getting an education. But you will regret not getting one. Go to a school and sign up for classes. Take as many classes online as you can. Go part time while getting your pre-req's so you can learn the material well and not get overwhelmed. Slow and steady wins the race. Figure out a plan and practice affirmations. Visualize yourself the day you pass the state board exam. I do this everyday. It works. Walt Disney went to over two hundred banks before he was approved to get a loan to build Disney World. Henry Ford went bankrupt twice before he was able to achieve his dream. Preserver and you shall win!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Acosmo27 · Jun 28, 2008

Im currently in third semester of nursing school.. Do you know how many times I've heard from people about how hard that must be? I'm pretty sure whenever I tell anybody that I'm in nursing school.. I get a crazy look along with, "wow that is really tough, that is hard work!" I'm sorry but its gotten to the point where it ****** me off. Its like, "thanks, I know it is, I should know! But thanks for reminding me!" I know they don't mean it in a mean way but it just gets old.. Please don't listen to anybody. If I did, I wouldn't be where I am today and neither would most of the people who get into nursing.

Follow your dreams, don't let others deter you from following your heart. Good luck with everything!

kmm5117 · Jun 28, 2008

"Brick walls aren't there to stop you, there to show you how badly you want something"

-Randy Pausch

mom and nurse · Jun 28, 2008

I think I am going to give up my dream of becoming a nurse. Everyone keeps telling me how hard it is. That it is the hardest thing I will do in my life. So people pretty much scared me. I haven't been in a classroom in a few years. And I am also the mother of two which is even harder. I don't know what to do. Nursing is the career I want and desire. I want to be able to provide my children with a better life. I am so lost and confused.

Seven years ago I decided to go back to school to become a nurse. I was 41. Folks couldn't understand why. I mean... I had a degree in another field which I'd never really used. It was suggested I should get my Masters instead in that field. At the time I was a full time homemaker and housewife with 5 children. All under the age of 14. We had 3 biological kids and 2 older kids, a brother and sister which we met at 6 and 7 and fostered and adopted. And I had been terrible in Chemistry in High School. My female primary care provider said I should go to school to be a Physician assistant. My neighbor, a nurse, told me not to go to school and study nursing.

But I wanted to be a nurse. So I took the first step and called a local community college and a nearby college that had a satellite program near my home. I discovered I needed science classes as prerequisites so I entered school with folks who were young enough to be my children. I'd decided to take one class at a time to obtain my prerequisites. While taking my first class, which was Chemistry, my adopted son was diagnosed as being mentally ill. I thought of dropping out of school. A mental health professional, a social worker in a behavioral health center, thought perhaps it was due to my returning to school instead of being home full time. My husband disagreed and encouraged me to stay in school. I wondered if perhaps I was hurting my family be going back to school, but I stayed in school. "See, I'd say to my 5 children"..."Mommy has her pencil, and her books, and her papers... I go to class prepared". I made an A in the Chemistry class.

I was accepted at both the community college and the 4 year college nursing schools. At 45 in 2004 I graduated with a BSN in nursing. My youngest daughter and my husband were on hand to cheer for me. I worked as an RN in a hospital for about 3 years. Stress... oh yes...it was stressful... but there were days when I absolutely loved it. I loved caring for people. One day the chaplain at the hospital said "This job fits you well" and that's pretty much the way I felt.

At 48 in 2007, I graduated with a MS in nursing as an Adult NP. My husband, my daughter and My two biological sons were home from college and attended my commencement. I'm preparing to start a job as an NP at a hospital not too far away.

Was it hard work. Oh yes. Attending nursing school had to be one of the most stressful things I ever did in my life. I literally prayed and studied my way through school. In the past 7 years both my adopted children turned out to be mentally ill, diagnosed in their teenage years. I remember having to take a test after the rest of my class after returning from court with one. Attending class after one was once again placed in a mental health facility for our safety and his. I studied in the lobby while both the children, at separate times, talked with psychiatrists and therapists.

Both the two we fostered and adopted are grown now. We have no real contact with them. I can only pray they are well as I know both are off their medications. My biological children, my youngest daughter, a high school senior now wants to have a PhD one day. She won an internship in high school and is now doing a Chemistry Internship with a lady who has a PhD in a lab for the summer. My two sons both received tuition scholarships. One's a senior in college and the other is a junior. The oldest son plans to take the MCAT for medical school in August.

Do I regret going to school. Nope. I wanted my children and husband to know they are important to me... even more so than my education. But I do not regret going back to school and getting my degree. I only live once and I feel that this is what I was meant to do at this time.

So take it slow if you are thinking about nursing school. A class here, a class there. And if you really want to be a nurse, don't give up your dream.

Fonenurse · Jun 28, 2008

"Brick walls aren't there to stop you, there to show you how badly you want something"
-Randy Pausch

:yeahthat:

My teachers said I would never amount to much at school - did I listen to them? Yes, for a while because they were supposed to know best, but eventually it dawned on me that the only person who really knows what I can do is me. I was told I couldn't make my marriage last too - I ignored the vultures hovering round.

Oh, and all of those negative folk were wrong! I have been married over 20 years, and not only did I graduate as a nurse, but I gained a master's degree too.

If you truly want this and are prepared to work hard, then you CAN do it. It doesn't have to be the way that those negative people would enjoy it being!

josoknow · Jun 28, 2008

I think I am going to give up my dream of becoming a nurse. Everyone keeps telling me how hard it is. That it is the hardest thing I will do in my life. So people pretty much scared me. I haven't been in a classroom in a few years. And I am also the mother of two which is even harder. I don't know what to do. Nursing is the career I want and desire. I want to be able to provide my children with a better life. I am so lost and confused.

Don't give up!!! The hardest job you will ever do is be a mother. I know I am a mother of 5 grown children, it is still hard even though they are grown and on their own, well some always come back for a while. I have also been an RN for a little over 20 years. I recently went back and obtained my BSN and will start in august for my masters of nursing to FNP. Nursing school is hard, but just like of it this way it is just another hoop to jump through. It takes hard work, effort and lots of study time, but nothing you can't do if you really want it just let your desire take over, put the pedal to the medal and concentrate on the future it will be there before you know it.YOU CAN DO IT!!!! We need more nurses the US is almost 1 million nurses short, a guaranteed job and future for you and your kids:heartbeat

RedhairedNurse, BSN, RN · Jun 28, 2008

I think I am going to give up my dream of becoming a nurse. Everyone keeps telling me how hard it is. That it is the hardest thing I will do in my life. So people pretty much scared me. I haven't been in a classroom in a few years. And I am also the mother of two which is even harder. I don't know what to do. Nursing is the career I want and desire. I want to be able to provide my children with a better life. I am so lost and confused.

I hate it when people do this and discourage people from pursuing their dream. I wanted to go to nursing school when I was 27 and I had the same discouragement. I didn't go because of what was said to me.

Well, when I was 41 I decided I wanted to pursue my dream of becoming a nurse....and I did. It takes more dedication than anything to be successful in nursing school. It can be stressful at times, but it's not as hard as being a mother. I hadn't been in a classroom for over 20 yrs....and if I can do it, you certainly can.

Don't let what happen to me happen to you. Even before reading your post....I tell people about how I was discouraged when I was younger. I shouldn't have listened, but I did and it was a mistake. Please.....do what your heart tells you to do and don't listen to these JERKS telling you this is too hard. Honestly, I didn't think it was that hard. Just dedication more than anything.

PurpleMyst · Jun 28, 2008

DO NOT GIVE UP! Listen to everyone here, don't hang around with people who can't support you. Sometimes people are negative because they're jealous too.

Take one step at a time, start with one class, then take another. If people give you a hard time don't tell them what you're doing.

I got laid off from the telephone company after 12 yrs, I learned a lot there so I'm grateful for the experience, but my dream has always been to work in the medical field. I am in my 40's now and I finally have someone to help me on my way (my husband). Several things kept me away from school for many years, I was always helping my parents and sister financially (still am when I can), I also had to be available to work some crazy hours sometimes. Now is my chance and I'm grabbing it with both hands.

I have a brother who is legally blind, with some other major health problems. He went to college slowly and it took him many years. After he was finished he decided he wanted to be a lawyer, his counselor told him he could not do it and would not be accepted anywhere. He was devastated at first, then he got angry and said "I'll show them!" He is now a lawyer!

Sorry for the long post, but it always makes me angry when other people irresponsibly persuade others that their dream is impossible or too difficult. Listen to your heart and follow your dream! Oh, and keep posting so that WE can support you on your journey. :yeah:

pagandeva2000, LPN · Jun 28, 2008

If your heart is telling you to become a nurse, you can't let people turn you away. As mentioned earlier, it will not be a piece of cake, it will NOT be handed to you. I was afraid as well, but I graduated the top of my LPN class. I was intimidated again when after having my license since 2006 and working in a clinic to do med-surg per diem, but I did orientation and the fear is decreasing. I remembered more than I thought I did, and now, I want to meet the challenge rather than run from it.

I do say not to walk into it blindly and believe that nursing is what is displayed on television, and that it is not hard. Also, there are the nurses that eat their young. But, again, if this is your determination, do not communicate with the naysayers. In fact, don't associate yourself with them at all. Doing so will keep you in the same place years down the road right along with them. Not good, and you may regret it.

RedhairedNurse, BSN, RN · Jun 28, 2008

DO NOT GIVE UP! Listen to everyone here, don't hang around with people who can't support you. Sometimes people are negative because they're jealous too.
Take one step at a time, start with one class, then take another. If people give you a hard time don't tell them what you're doing.

I did exactly this. I took 7 hours a semester when doing my prereqs. And I didn't tell anybody, but did tell a few of my immediate family that I was going to nursing school. My friends, church group.....I tell them I'm an RN now and they said they didn't even know I was going to school. :yeah:

Tweety, BSN, RN · Jun 28, 2008

Anything worthwhile and rewarding isn't easy.

Nursing school to date remains the hardest thing I've ever done. But it's changed my life and I have no regrets.

hisblueskies · Jun 29, 2008

Nursing and what you have to do in order to get your license is incredibly hard but if you want it bad enough you will do it. There are many positive things about nursing, good salary, job security, flexible hours, helping people in their pain, forging new friendships, considering yourself a professional, the list goes on. So if it's something you dreamed about doing it then go for it and don't let anyone elses opinion scare you off.