My husband and I just had our fourth child and it was finally a girl! She was born last Thursday, March 30 and she weighed 6 pounds 6 ounces. She was four weeks early. We also have three boys ages 10, 6 and 3.
Anyway, my question is how many pregnancies are too many? I would love to have another baby in a few years. (All of our children are 3-4 years apart in age and I will only be 30 in September). We have also never had a miscarriage or a stillborn. Is there a point where someone should quit? I'm still a pre-nursing student, so I don't know the answer to that. My husband and I always wanted a large family (5 or 6 children), but I just wondered how often all of you maternity nurses saw that and if there were any type of problems associated if we continued to have children. As of now, I don't have any medical problems to indicate a potential problem and my husband and I are both young.
I have 6 siblings. Only 3 grew up in the same house with me. I am the oldest of them all. I ended up having to help my Mom alot because there were so many of us.
I have 2 kids (a boy and a girl) and I am done! I would rather give my 2 kids more, than my 10 kids less. JMHO
I'm the youngest of 13. I wanted to have a huge family when I got married but it's not looking like it's going to happen..I'm 25 and only working on my 2nd.
I'm the youngest of 13. I wanted to have a huge family when I got married but it's not looking like it's going to happen..I'm 25 and only working on my 2nd.
You still have a good 15 fertile years left, atleast!! Maybe you will be lucky! I only have one brother, 2.5 years older than me. You are so lucky having so many siblings! I always wanted more, but my parents had other plans.
I have two sons five years apart. Both pregnancies were very easy and I could have easily had many more. However, two is what financially and more important emotionally handle.
I have to add too that you never really know what's going to happen down the line. Our youngest son has been a handful with many, many issues. We love him very much but he has been emotionally draining many, many times.
Though you have beautiful, sweet and healthy babies, it may not always be that way. If you have family support, then that makes it much easier. However, you must always plan on being a single parent (sometimes it happens), you become financially bereft, you become ill yourself...many things can happen.
Two children, now grown, has been perfect for us. If you feel good, you can raise them financially and I know you can love them enough then it's totally up to you and your husband how many children you should have.
I have a friend who freaked when she found out she was pregnant. Her daughter was a handful when she was born and Stacy said "NEVER" again! She and her dh now have 8 wonderful beautiful children. Her oldest is now 18 and pregnant with their first grandchild and Stacy is estatic! They stopped at 8 for financial reasons but she said she definately would have had more if they could have afforded more. Stacy, knowing her since she was 10 years old has really amazed me. Go for it girl ! BTW Congratulations on your beautiful new baby girl.
Financial reasons? I can't imagine how 9 or 10 children makes that much bigger of a dent financially than 8. Economy of scale and all.... Financing college tuition can be tricky but at that age they can pitch in to finance their own dreams.
They have 15 children. They live in Springdale, AR, and they just built a house that is 7000 square feet. The family built it, with the father and the two oldest boys doing most of the work, with outside help coming in to give instruction on certain construction techniques where needed, and they also had a family friend helping them. I think it took them over 3 years to build the house.
There was a program about this family the other night on TLC...{The learning channel.}
They have 15 children. They live in Springdale, AR, and they just built a house that is 7000 square feet. The family built it, with the father and the two oldest boys doing most of the work, with outside help coming in to give instruction on certain construction techniques where needed, and they also had a family friend helping them. I think it took them over 3 years to build the house.
There was a program about this family the other night on TLC...{The learning channel.}
Amazing family.
The Duggars now have 16 kids. TLC has three hour-long specials about them: 14 Children and Pregnant Again, 16 Children and Moving In (about building their house), and Raising 16 Children. Fascinating to watch.
I have 4 children and have received that "look" that others have described. I'd love to have another one! I know there will be people who raise their eyebrows but who cares! :) I look back at all of the choices I've made in my life and I know that the best ones I made were to have my beautiful children!
I have 4 children and have received that "look" that others have described. I'd love to have another one! I know there will be people who raise their eyebrows but who cares! :) I look back at all of the choices I've made in my life and I know that the best ones I made were to have my beautiful children!
I get the same look from people all the time:uhoh3: And since we had our three boys first and just recently now our girl, I get the "well, I guess you are finally done now that you got the girl". As if we only kept having children to get a certain gender, not because of the fact that we wanted another child! Needless to say, they are surprised to hear that yes, we still want another child even after the girl.
My husband and I just had our fourth child and it was finally a girl! She was born last Thursday, March 30 and she weighed 6 pounds 6 ounces. She was four weeks early. We also have three boys ages 10, 6 and 3.
Anyway, my question is how many pregnancies are too many? I would love to have another baby in a few years. (All of our children are 3-4 years apart in age and I will only be 30 in September). We have also never had a miscarriage or a stillborn. Is there a point where someone should quit? I'm still a pre-nursing student, so I don't know the answer to that. My husband and I always wanted a large family (5 or 6 children), but I just wondered how often all of you maternity nurses saw that and if there were any type of problems associated if we continued to have children. As of now, I don't have any medical problems to indicate a potential problem and my husband and I are both young.
Any input would be appreciated.
Congratulations on your new little blessing! :balloons: I think that is a personal decision really. If you can take of them emotionally, spiritually, and financially - you should decide.
I only have one brother, 2.5 years older than me. You are so lucky having so many siblings! I always wanted more, but my parents had other plans.
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I have 6 siblings. Only 3 grew up in the same house with me. I am the oldest of them all. I ended up having to help my Mom alot because there were so many of us.
I have 2 kids (a boy and a girl) and I am done! I would rather give my 2 kids more, than my 10 kids less. JMHO