Hi my name is Jane, I'll be your glorified waitress today!

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Hi all,

Anyone else hate nursing and feel that your a glorified waitress wherever you work?

I have been a nurse for all of 2.5 years in an ER and I have discovered that I hate being a nurse!

1) I get verbally abused by both medical and psych patients every shift... no matter how nice I try to be.

2) I feel like I spend more time getting patient's pillows, blankets, sandwiches, and drinks more than I actually need to use my brain to critically think.

3) I just love having to hunt down an ER doc to ASK if the patient can get some releif from their pain, nausea, or whatever else ails them.. they've only been waiting 5+ hours!

4) Cooworkers are not happy for you when you get employee of the month, nope, instead they tell the new grad or new ER nurse you are about to precept that you stink, but management loves you and thats how you got on the wall of nursing, oh and thats why you were made a preceptor.

5) I have no weapon or any way to protect myself and no training in self defence, but guess who gets sued when the psych patient runs out of the ER and I refuse to go after them.

6) I get to inflict more pain on dying patients when their families cannot come to terms that they are dying and feel that they shoudl be given antibiotics, feeding tubes, folys etc along with their multiple IV/blood sticks, becuase thats gonna make them all better or more comfortable, as comfortable as dragging them out of their bed and into the cold so they can sit in an ER hallway bed for hours waiting to be seen.

7) I get to triage 21 year olds that have viral gastroenteritis symptoms for a whole 2 hours and then when they realize that diarrhea and vomiting are even less fun in an ER waiting room I get to re-triage them when they demmand they be taken ahead of other patients who have been waiting 4+ hours, oh and they came in by ambulance so that must mean they get seen faster than everyone else because its an emergency!

8) I get to see psych patients taking up 5 or more of our beds, and who get taken back right away because they play the "I am suicial" game every other week so they can continue to receive their disability benefits while legitament medical patients wait in the waiting room for hours waiting for a bed.

9) I get to see parents bring their kids in for a whopping fever of 102.0 and they are trying tell you what an emergency it is while there trying to catch the kid in the waiting room, becuase the kid is so deathly ill they are running around playing.

10) I get to see patients with toe pain come in by ambulance only to be sent to triage and patients with heart attacks come in by private vehicle through the waiting room only to be rushed back to a bed.

11) I get to see nurses run away from the patients they are afraid to take care of, instead of embrasing the new challenge ahead. The ER is not the place to run away, if you run away, you should continue right back to the floor where you were comfortable working on.

12) I listen to doctors that feel the need to degrate you or be nasty to you in front of your colleagues or worse, patients because they think they are god and I should bow down to them.

13) I go up to codes only to find a bunch of chickens with their heads cut off running around with chaos and no direction which as you all no is equal to nothing being done for the patient.

14) Applying for 1.5 years for a new nursing job and not getting anywhere... sending resumes, preparing for interviews, investing 6+ hours between interviews and shadowing.. only to get no where!

14) Getting turned down for jobs because oh you don't have BSN after your name, you must be a stupid nurse despite the 6 years of experience as an EMT, the 5 years of experience as a paramedic, and the almost three years of experience as an ER nurse. Nope sorry, we would rather hire the new grad who has BSN afte their name, you know that will help us with our Magnet Status.

15) Hearing "oh Dr. so and so sent told me to come RIGHT in after I talked to him on the phone about the abdominal pain I have been having for two weeks now" "he said I should be seen right away and that he would arrange that, he talked to the ER physicians". Uh yeah, sorry mam/sir you will have to wait just like every other patient here. Heres your urine cup and have a nice wait. "Oh but Dr. So and So said they would get me right in a direct admit me"...

16) Trying to call report to a floor and getting "I am going to lunch/dinner, do you mind if I call you right back when I am done eating". Meanwhile my CBS is 50 because its 5 pm and I haven't eaten since breakfast.... Oh wait you work in the ER you can't pick and choose when new patients come to you. Oh and wait, you only work 8-12 hours you don't need a break, do you?

17) Getting bashed when you share with other nurses how much and why you hate being a nurse!

Sweetooth

Soooooooooooo looooooooooooooooooon nursing, its been real, but I truly hate you!

Specializes in med-surg, step-down, ICU/CCU, ED.

You must be working at my ED!!!!!! I get that crap all the time, every day. It can be depressing and demoralizing, but I don't think all EDs are like that. I'm looking to get out of my ED too, lol.

The key to staying sane in an insane environment like that is to #1)not take anything personally, especially when it comes to dealing with patients and to #2) always, ALWAYS protect and defend your boundaries. In other words don't let anyone make you do anything that you aren't comfortable doing. Do not chase down psych patients, that is what security is for! And if you're not getting enough help from the nursing staff, call them on it. Don't just suck it up and deal.

#3) get certified in EVERYTHING while you're still working there(CCRN, CEN, take the TNCC course). That will fluff your resume nicely while you're still looking for another job.

Keep your chin up. Nursing is not all bad. The environment you're working in just doesn't suit you.

Good luck in your job search!

Alem

Specializes in Med/Surg, Acute Rehab.

you poor thing. i think you'll take the gold medal this year for venting! i read the post below that you wrote back in november, 2008. .

hi all,

i just need to vent. i am currently an rn in the er and am rather miserable. i do not like being a nurse at all, at least in the er i guess, but unfortunatly playing paramedic doesn't pay the bills. i feel bad because i also have a new grad to precept and i am just miserable most of the time. i hate going to work, actually i dred going to work. i tried to transfer to l&d at my hospital, but they wont hire me without experience, i tried to transfer to special care and they some how managed to fill a position they only had posted for three days. grrrrr.. needless to say i am depressed and aggravated, gone are the days when i did not mind going to work.

to make matters worse i had a five year old the other day in the er with a mother who i am sure is related to satan, so that did not help things. i understand you come across difficult parents, but this woman was worse than most, she had the attitude of a 10 year old, and would not speak to any staff after a while, and that was only because we couldnt get an iv on the first try in her five year old that weighed more than a five year old should.

i hate psych patients and we get many of those, hate needy patients, yup we get lots of those, hate taking care of elderly (i do beleive they deserve wonderful care), but i would rather not be the one giving them that wonderful care. i prefer pedi patients, but in order to specialize in just pedi critical care i would need to find a job in boston, which is almost impossible.

so has anyone else gone through this type of thing and things worked out???

you sound so angry and beaten down. maybe this is coming across as you interview for other jobs. just a thought. i hope you find something soon as this is no way to live. if not, maybe you can take some sort of break from nursing; one that would still have some income for you. good luck.:heartbeat

Specializes in LTC, Subacute Rehab.

Glorified waitress? Hell, waitresses get tips for good service! Nurses get b**ched at no matter what we do. :devil:

I've never felt like a glorified waitress. I feel like a glorified pill passer.

I worked a year in ER and HATED it. Liked the comraderie I felt with my coworkers and docs, and felt truly priveleged to work with the docs, who were the nicest and smartest I've ever had a chance to meet. But the drama! The druggies! The rude jerks in triage who think it's all about them! Never again.

I know you mentioned having a hard time finding another job but if you get the chance you might consider Rehab or Oncology. In rehab the patients get better and are usually very pleasant. In oncology you deal with very challenging and sick patients but they are grateful to be alive and they don't ***** about little things. They really put life in perspective.

Oh, and I hate being a nurse too. Only one year to retirement.

Specializes in Army Medic.

If you find yourself miserable every day you get up and go to work - it may be time to consider a new line of work.

I've landed jobs in areas that I thought I would absolutely love, how couldn't I? They're everything I enjoy doing in my spare time!

You'd be surprised how fast the little things can break a spirit - if you really can't find anything you appreciate about your job besides a paycheck, it's time to re-evaluate your career.

Specializes in ER, ICU, Education.

It sounds like you went into nursing for the wrong reasons, and as a result you are unhappy.

I am sure your sour attitude is carrying over into other things like job interviews, so no they won't hire you, why should they?

It might be time to re think the whole nurse thing. What do you like to do? What are you good at? Is there any way you can take the skills you've learned in nursing and turn it into a different job?

Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

I understand and empathize with your pains. Have you tried taking a break from nursing, or perhaps, counseling/therapy? It might help you. Burn out in nursing (and other high stress jobs) is very common, demoralizing and health-sapping. Give yourself a much-needed stress break, even if it is for a few days and do something really nice for yourself, like a day at a spa, massage, mini vacation, a movie-watching marathon at home where all the movies make you laugh and smile. A day out on the town with a dear friend.

But whatever you do, do it soon! You are at the breaking point and need some TLC ASAP.

Every job has its negatives. Maybe you should consider another hospital or speciality where you have more autonomy and are using your skills more? I know some hospitals give the nurses more autonomy to use thier skills. do some research and see which hospital could be good for you. You got into it for a reason. try and go back and see where that what that reason is..

Specializes in ED, Pedi Vasc access, Paramedic serving 6 towns.

Thanks all for the posts....

Nursing is not my thing I dont think; However I do not know for sure, and may never know for sure since I cannot find a new job in the feild.

Yes I know I am at the breaking point of burn out, hell, lets be honest I am well done.

I have made the very difficult choice financially to go back to working as a paramedic instead of a nurse. I tried cutting the nursing hours to 28 hours a week and working as a paramedic 24 hours a week, but obviously it didn't do me any good. I am going to hate it whether I have to do it 36 hours a week or whether or not its 28 hours a week.

Unless something miraculous happens, like I get a new job and enjoy working as a nurse, I will NEVER go to school for my BSN!

I enjoy critical care and would never stay awake working in a rehab or oncology unit (thanks for the suggestion though) and I know those oncology patients appreciate anything you do for them.

I don't think therapy or a coucelors going to help unless they are going to give me a million dollars so I can never work in nursing again and can go to medical school, but lets face it thats not going to happen.

Sweetooth

Sorry to hear that you are leaving nursing, but hope that the change back to the EMT field allows you to be happy. I remember meeting an RN who was working with EMTs. She came on a call. I got to talk to her awhile and she said she was very pleased with her job. Like she got the best of both worlds. If you could work as an RN on an emergency team, I could see you being happy and getting paid as an RN at the same time. Worth exploring.

Specializes in Psych, Onco, ED, Tele, Med/Surg.

When I'm being asked to fetch, I usually state that as soon as I'm done with all that silly clinical nursing stuff, I am happy to attend to their thirst, hunger, etc.... That seems to help those find the line between need and wish list.

grass isn't always greener on the other side..

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