This far I have never even had the thought of crossing a boundary with a patient or family member. However, I have grown very fond of a family of a patient that I have been taking care of this past week. The patient's sister gave me her business card, and since I did not see her today I sent her an email thanking her for allowing me, as a student to take care of her brother while in the ICU. I also told her that since I did not have the son's contact information, to please thank him for me. She responded with his phone number and told me that he would be excited to hear from me. What do I do? I have a crush on the son, and have been pondering crossing that boundary. Has anyone ever been put in this situation? If so, what did you do? This afterall is not the patient, but the son of the patient...Thanks everyone in advance for your input.
llg, PhD, RN 13,469 Posts Specializes in Nursing Professional Development. Has 46 years experience. Jul 20, 2010 Do NOT cross the boundary. It's there for a reason.Let it go. Let him alone. To pursue him would be a serious violation of your professional role and highly improper. Don't jeopardize your career over a crush. (A crush is not a relationship.)
healthstar, BSN, RN 1 Article; 944 Posts Jul 20, 2010 I wouldn't cross the boundary. If you do, it's going to ruin your future.
ShantheRN, BSN, RN 646 Posts Specializes in Pediatric Hem/Onc. Has 4 years experience. Jul 21, 2010 Walk away from this one. Honestly I wouldn't even email the sister anymore.
kbm318 262 Posts Specializes in Med Surg/MICU/Pediatrics/PCICU. Has 1 years experience. Jul 21, 2010 do not cross the boundary under any circumstances
That Guy, BSN, RN, EMT-B 3,421 Posts Specializes in Emergency/Cath Lab. Has 6 years experience. Jul 21, 2010 you better get over that **** real fast or your career will be short lived.
KB24 200 Posts Jul 21, 2010 You better hope the hospital and your school does not find out about this because you can get in trouble.You should never mix business with pleasure.
DolceVita, ADN, BSN, RN 1,564 Posts Specializes in IMCU. Has 12 years experience. Jul 21, 2010 Walk away from this one. Honestly I wouldn't even email the sister anymore.Exactly.I think you know you shouldn't do this or you would not have posted about it on a message board.
Ambitious-Girl 62 Posts Jul 21, 2010 you better get over that **** real fast or your career will be short lived.lol, Just the right words.I agree w/ everyone else..Maybe in the next lifetime my love or maybe, in the FUTURE if it's meant to be you'll see him again...OUTSIDE of work!
Tricia76 291 Posts Specializes in CNA. Has 5 years experience. Jul 21, 2010 Exactly what they said. Don't jeopardize your nursing career over a crush..Isn't worth it..but on the outside..its a go.
kayty2339 171 Posts Jul 21, 2010 Personally, I think the boundary line was already crossed just by emailing the lady. The only way I think it would be okay to have anything to do with this guy is if you ran in to him in the future and hit it off, outside of the hospital.
