Gay labeling, is it just plain mean? Or sexual harrassment?

[CaLLaCoDe]

recently i was approaching another nurse (who happens to be effeminate and thought to be gay, but who cares really?) to give report and when beginning report was dumbfounded when a nurse in the hallway said to another nurse: "ooo! a gay nurse giving report to another gay nurse!" now, i felt hurt. i am not your typical bakersfield area macho dude, but what gives her the right to put me into any box. i am affraid to bring this to management or possibly write her up for sexual harrassment. i told my wife that i am even fearful of having conversations with men that appear flamboyantly gay for being categorized; not that i am scared of turning gay. sometimes i feel that it might be easier in the field to be gay and kind than to be heterosexual and kind. i just hate this crap. really quite irritating to have your coworker who you think is a smart nurse make such a cruel judgement call on her coworker. anyway, your thoughts on this topic...

[CaLLaCoDe, BSN, RN]

I think some women just dont like men in the Nursing profession, It being dominated by women who think they know it all. Some women think that they can get any guy they want, then when a handsome fellow like myself doesn't show any interest....their world is turned over, they then try to pretty up more for work, and when all else fails they go "he must be gay" lol. It isnt my job to kiss a$$ and tell u your hot, thats your husbands job, If i had to acknowledge a hot chick everytime I see one I'd have dry mouth. Women fish for compliments and always wants a guys opinion. I think its rude to label anyone anything. I could care less what any nurse feels of my sexual orientation. Sexuality is private and shouldnt be discussed at work. Why would anyone be worried about what i do with my member after work? Only someone who isn't sexually satisfied I guess, I don't entertain ignorance. Being the only male on the floor is fun and i like the attention, both good and bad. There's a boundary though....because married nurses like to flirt and sometimes rumors get started.

My guts tell me you have a better grasp of the diverse pitfalls we face in our field, being the minority, than I do. I have a feeling you have grown passed any irritating remarks flung at you at the work place from the opposite sex. I admire your frankness on this subject. Thanks for your contribution to this forum.

Are you serious? How old are you?

I am tempted to think this poster is grounded and serious. Age has nothing to do with it! I admire those who don't demean others point of view by stating that his/her age has someting to do with maturity level.

[FireStarterRN, BSN, RN]

I think some women just dont like men in the Nursing profession, It being dominated by women who think they know it all. Some women think that they can get any guy they want, then when a handsome fellow like myself doesn't show any interest....their world is turned over, they then try to pretty up more for work, and when all else fails they go "he must be gay" lol. It isnt my job to kiss a$$ and tell u your hot, thats your husbands job, If i had to acknowledge a hot chick everytime I see one I'd have dry mouth. Women fish for compliments and always wants a guys opinion. I think its rude to label anyone anything. I could care less what any nurse feels of my sexual orientation. Sexuality is private and shouldnt be discussed at work. Why would anyone be worried about what i do with my member after work? Only someone who isn't sexually satisfied I guess, I don't entertain ignorance. Being the only male on the floor is fun and i like the attention, both good and bad. There's a boundary though....because married nurses like to flirt and sometimes rumors get started.

I found the highlighted comments offensive. I've never seen any of this type of behavior in my workplace.

[CaLLaCoDe, BSN, RN]

I found the highlighted comments offensive. I've never seen any of this type of behavior in my workplace.

Perhaps you are offended by the terms used or the actions witnessed by this poster? I just don't see this post as being offensive. Reality based, however not offensive.

[FireStarterRN, BSN, RN]

Perhaps you are offended by the terms used or the actions witnessed by this poster? I just don't see this post as being offensive. Reality based, however not offensive.

I found the language and imagery highly offensive. The post was offensive to me, as a woman. I thought it couched in denigrating terminology and was extremely stereotyping of women.

[FireStarterRN, BSN, RN]

i snipped out some highly offensive to women, and also contradictory quotes with my responses.

"women fish for compliments and always wants a guys opinion. i think its rude to label anyone anything...."

these comments are stereotyping and contradictory

"why would anyone be worried about what i do with my member after work? only someone who isn't sexually satisfied..."

offensive language and offensive conclusions drawn that are stereotyping women

"being the only male on the floor is fun and i like the attention, both good and bad. there's a boundary though....because married nurses like to flirt and sometimes rumors get started".

this comment makes me wonder what this poster is doing to contribute to this since i've never observed anything of the sort and have worked with plenty of handsome young male nurses.

[lpnguy26]

Well Ms.

I can only speak on what i know. During nursing school last semester, a seasoned nurse grab my a$$ right in front of the clinical instructor...Do you think that was sexual harrassment? Did i or my instructor report her? No.....I laughed it off, I just thought it comes with the territory. You have worked with many male nurses, I haven't but i do see them around the hospital and they have quite a few stories of their own. My opinions are not contradictory, maybe a lil stereotypical. I have received great help and knowledge from older nurses who love that young men are joining the ranks, they also tell me what to expect from certain kinds of nurses, and they also tell me they have daughters and granddaughters who'd they love to introduce me to. Being a male in nursing has put a dent on my relationships because grils i date always think i have a girlfriend at the hospital, so untrue, but i have more female friends than i ever had.

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

this comment makes me wonder what this poster is doing to contribute to this since i've never observed anything of the sort and have worked with plenty of handsome young male nurses.

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it's o.k. to say that you are offended by a post. perhaps rather than wonder you should ask the poster directly. or state that you're offended and let it go at that.

i get a little uncomfortable when two people beging talking about a third, especially when it's not about the original poster's problem.

[BULLYDAWGRN, RN]

well if someone called me gay, i'd take strong offence and would correct them on the spot.

[donsterRN, ASN, BSN]

well if someone called me gay, i'd take strong offence and would correct them on the spot.

Strong offense? Why? Aren't there worse things?

[nursemike, ASN, RN]

I snipped out some highly offensive to women, and also contradictory quotes with my responses.

I didn't think the "member" quote was offensive or stereotypical. It seems likely to me that busybodies who spend much of their time worrying about the sexuality of others may, indeed, be unsatisfied in their own.

I prefer not to attempt to defend anything else in the aforementioned post.

I do, at times, feel obliged to notify any "hot chicks" I work with that they are in fact hot, although I rarely use the term "hot," and never--well, almost never--"chicks."

[leslie :-D]

Women fish for compliments and always wants a guys opinion. I think its rude to label anyone anything.

you don't see the irony in your words?

i'm very happy to work with nurses who act like the professionals they are.

and it is totally unacceptable (and unconscionable!!) that anyone would grab another's a$$.

leslie

[teeituptom, BSN, RN]

you don't see the irony in your words?

i'm very happy to work with nurses who act like the professionals they are.

and it is totally unacceptable (and unconscionable!!) that anyone would grab another's a$$.

leslie

Me. I never grab anything at work or elsewhere. One my wife would kill me.

two, it might interfere with my golf swing. Golf is the ONLY thing I swing at.