Friend asked to cheat off me from exam?

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I'm taking A&P II and there's a girl in my class who basically won't leave me alone, she constantly wants me to study with her and explain everything the prof says in the middle of lecture! So I be missing things that the prof says because I would have to stop listening and turn next to her and basically repeat something to her or explain it to her. She could easily ask me for the material after the class and not during. I tell her this but she doesn't care.

Also I do not do group study when only thing I have to do is memorize the material, but she keeps bugging and trying to meet up with me so I basically can teach her the information. I barely have time to do that since I taking 5 other major pre-nursing class.

But really made me think if I should be her friend is when she told me that we can cheat off each others lecture exams today in class!!! She said the teacher won't notice and we just need to be casual about it. But I think she's just trying to be my friend for that sole reason to use me for a grade.

I don't know if I should continue being friends with her or not because she is very needy and honestly I feel like she's trying to be my friend for all the wrong reasons. She seems desperate to get an A in the class and I think that I'm a easy target for her to manipulate because I'm nice and have a 4.0 GPA.

Edit: Also during the exam, she kept glancing over my arm to see what I wrote down but I tried to cover it the best I can without being noticeable. And when I was done with my exam before her, she told me to just wait a second.

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Ditch her, or your career as a nursing student will be over before it starts.

That may sound harsh, but you are just as guilty as she as if you allow her to cheat off of you, and I guarantee that's how your instructors will see it.

Friends don't use friends like that.

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Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.

I have a hard time understanding why "should I remain friends with her" should even be a question.

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I have a hard time understanding why "should I remain friends with her" should even be a question.

Well because I'm very passive aggressive and very nice when it comes to people. So it's very hard for me to "confront her". I tried to give her all the cues of not answering her text messages or moving my seat and used my eyesight as an excuse so I don't have to sit next with her. Or I tell her a lot of excuses so we can't meet up. And when she ask me questions I'm very clip with them.

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho, ASC.

Sit in the front row in lecture. If she dares to sit next to you there, surely she won't be so bold as to keep talking thru the lecture.

You owe this person absolutely nothing. Keep as far from her as you can. If she persists, go to an advisor for advice.

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
Well because I'm very passive aggressive and very nice when it comes to people. So it's very hard for me to "confront her". I tried to give her all the cues of not answering her text messages or moving my seat and used my eyesight as an excuse so I don't have to sit next with her. Or I tell her a lot of excuses so we can't meet up. And when she ask me questions I'm very clip with them.

"Passive aggressive" is not very nice. Grow a backbone and learn to stand up for yourself. Advocating for your patient is a big part of nursing, and you cannot do that if you cannot stand up for yourself.

You already know you shouldn't be friends with this person. Cheating is wrong, and if you let her "cheat off you", you're just as guilty of cheating as she is. Cut it out already.

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Sit in the front row in lecture. If she dares to sit next to you there, surely she won't be so bold as to keep talking thru the lecture.

You owe this person absolutely nothing. Keep as far from her as you can. If she persists, go to an advisor for advice.

If necessary, go to the instructor with this problem. Tell the instructor all the steps you have taken to disengage from the dishonest student.

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Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

I don't know if I should continue being friends with her or not

You don't know??? If you truly "don't know," then you are not half as intelligent as you think you are. Of course you should not continue to be her friend in class. As all of the previous posters have said, you should stop supporting her cheating. If you continue to support her cheating, you are just as guilty as she is. Yes, you are supporting her. If she hadn't been able to read your test answers, she would not have asked you to stay a little longer at the recent test.)

You should report her cheating to the professor. If you want to be a "doormat" and spoon feed the lectures to her, that's sad, but it's your decision. If you want to be taken advantage of, then go ahead and let her take advantage of you. But don't let her get away with cheating. That is beneath the dignity of the nursing profession.

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Well because I'm very passive aggressive and very nice when it comes to people. So it's very hard for me to "confront her". I tried to give her all the cues of not answering her text messages or moving my seat and used my eyesight as an excuse so I don't have to sit next with her. Or I tell her a lot of excuses so we can't meet up. And when she ask me questions I'm very clip with them.

You're not describing "passive-aggressive" behavior, you're describing "passive" behavior. "Passive -aggressive" could involve something like agreeing to her request to cheat, and then deliberately giving her the wrong answers ...or "accidentally" mentioning her intention to cheat in front of an instructor.

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.

Either grow a back bone or keep her as your "friend" & let her cheat off of you.

I was taking a science course with a "friend" I made though my LVN program. In that class she would always come in late, sit next to me & use her phone or step outside to talk on the phone. I told her straight up that I didn't like her sitting next to me & using her phone. The final straw came when she wanted to copy my extra credit. This science course was over the summer & I busted my butt to do the review (extra credit) by myself. Had she had asked to split it up, of course I would've given her my half if I got her half. I told her no, she got pissed & stopped talking to me.

You will not get anywhere in life if you keep acting like this. Nursing school & your career will be short lived because you will burn out so fast.

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Specializes in critical care, ER,ICU, CVSURG, CCU.

!"hit the road Jack"....there are toxic people we encounter, can you change where you sit in class so she / he will not be distracting...?

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Specializes in MCH,NICU,NNsy,Educ,Village Nursing.

Report this person to the professor. There are ethical concerns regarding her cheating,and even if you don't allow her to, once you've been made aware that she cheats it is reportable. What does your student handbook say about academic integrity? You should have been given one, along with the policy regarding cheating. At the very least, a statement should have been in your course syllabus about cheating. You owe her nothing.

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