I'm taking A&P II and there's a girl in my class who basically won't leave me alone, she constantly wants me to study with her and explain everything the prof says in the middle of lecture! So I be missing things that the prof says because I would have to stop listening and turn next to her and basically repeat something to her or explain it to her. She could easily ask me for the material after the class and not during. I tell her this but she doesn't care.
Also I do not do group study when only thing I have to do is memorize the material, but she keeps bugging and trying to meet up with me so I basically can teach her the information. I barely have time to do that since I taking 5 other major pre-nursing class.
But really made me think if I should be her friend is when she told me that we can cheat off each others lecture exams today in class!!! She said the teacher won't notice and we just need to be casual about it. But I think she's just trying to be my friend for that sole reason to use me for a grade.
I don't know if I should continue being friends with her or not because she is very needy and honestly I feel like she's trying to be my friend for all the wrong reasons. She seems desperate to get an A in the class and I think that I'm a easy target for her to manipulate because I'm nice and have a 4.0 GPA.
Edit: Also during the exam, she kept glancing over my arm to see what I wrote down but I tried to cover it the best I can without being noticeable. And when I was done with my exam before her, she told me to just wait a second.
you can still be a nice person (which is a great, dying trait these days lol) without being walk over and allowing yourself to be associated with something that could end your nursing career before it even begins. I used to think that since I was a nice person it meant I could never stand up for myself or tell the someone the hard truth, but it doesn't, it just makes you easily taken advantage of. Tell her, in plain terms, your no longer interested in associating with her and purposefully sit far across the class from her. You come first, not some freeloader trying to get an easy ride.
Short answer: Heck no you shouldn't continue to be friends with her!
If she was actually your friend she wouldn't jeopardize your future at that school by asking you to cheat off of her. If you're caught cheating the school can choose to dismiss you. I had a similar situation and I told the girl I couldn't risk getting kicked out of school and she still tried to cheat off of me. I couldn't move my seat because it was a lab class so after it happened again I just had to email the teacher what was going on and she actually told me several other students had already reported her for the same thing and she had her eye on her. So if your teacher already has an inkling this girl is cheating off you and you allow it to happen you can get in trouble too, so just be careful.
Update: She texted me back saying she doesn't know what I'm talking about and that she never cheated off me.
But I know she's lying. I have the text messages to prove her wanting me to cheat off me in the first place!
Quick tip: avoid verbally, or in any future texts or emails, accusing her of cheating, regardless of whether you're correct. That just gives her ammunition, and it's subjective anyway (as demonstrated by her response). Stick to " I work better alone" or "I can't concentrate when you ask questions in class" or "I prefer to work independently". Then, if she goes against what you have requested (which is perfectly reasonable) you can be direct with your response to that, rather than getting in to a "yes you are cheating", "no I'm not..." type scenario.
Update: She texted me back saying she doesn't know what I'm talking about and that she never cheated off me.
But I know she's lying. I have the text messages to prove her wanting me to cheat off me in the first place!
I'd leave it at that. Hopefully there has been no more communication between the two of you. Focus on your studies! You owe that to yourself and no one else! :)
djh123
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That is not a friend, but a parasite.