Fellow student made a nasty comment what should I do?

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I took the pharmacology ATI test for practical nursing and I was excited that I passed... well I passed with an 81% we only had to have a 40% to pass. I was talking to my friend and a fellow student came to stand with us, so my friend asked how he scored he only got a 77% and my friend told him that 77% was good. He said "Not really." My friend then told him what my score was. He got really huffy and said " Well that's just amazing... seeing as you didn't know what Lopid was." I admit when my instructor asked me what Lopid was I went totally blank... but that by no means makes me stupid when it comes to pharm. I can't stand that guy anyways he's cynical and he thinks he knows more than a lot of the other students. I didn't say anything to him even though I wanted to. That comment really ruined my whole day. What should I do in a situation like this. He's in my clinical group so I'm sure it won't be the last time this happens. Sorry for the super long post. Thanks in advance for any replies. Kandy

I wanted to thank the people that replied to my thread... I realize that he was just trying to get at me, but I guess I'm what you would call sensitive. That can both help me and hurt me in the job I chose to train for. I think I did the right thing by keeping my mouth shut... but I'm not sure if I'll be as nice the next time. I just have to keep in mind not to stoop to his level. Kandy

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I wanted to thank the people that replied to my thread... I realize that he was just trying to get at me, but I guess I'm what you would call sensitive. That can both help me and hurt me in the job I chose to train for. I think I did the right thing by keeping my mouth shut... but I'm not sure if I'll be as nice the next time. I just have to keep in mind not to stoop to his level. Kandy

Good for you! rise above it!

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I took the pharmacology ATI test for practical nursing and I was excited that I passed... well I passed with an 81% we only had to have a 40% to pass. I was talking to my friend and a fellow student came to stand with us, so my friend asked how he scored he only got a 77% and my friend told him that 77% was good. He said "Not really." My friend then told him what my score was. He got really huffy and said " Well that's just amazing... seeing as you didn't know what Lopid was." I admit when my instructor asked me what Lopid was I went totally blank... but that by no means makes me stupid when it comes to pharm. I can't stand that guy anyways he's cynical and he thinks he knows more than a lot of the other students. I didn't say anything to him even though I wanted to. That comment really ruined my whole day. What should I do in a situation like this. He's in my clinical group so I'm sure it won't be the last time this happens. Sorry for the super long post. Thanks in advance for any replies. Kandy

What's lopid?

there ya go.

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1- Congrats on your good grade!

2- Tell him to **** off!!! Ok, maybe not that far, but he is doing it because he feels bad about himself, and he figures that if he belittles you, he's better. It's just a defense mechanism. He will get put in his place, esp if he thinks he knows it all. He's going to make a bad mistake one day, and we can only pray it doesn't kill or seriously injure a patient. -Andrea

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Specializes in Cath Lab, OR, CPHN/SN, ER.
I'm rubber, you're glue

Whatever you say

bounces off of me and sticks to you! :D :D

Don't worry about the other people.

hehehe...I know you are, but what am I???

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Keep up the good work!

Even if the person says strange things to you - rise above this.

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Ww have a woman whom i have to work with who loves to make nasty remarks...comments like 'gee those shoes are ugly, i hope they are comfortable'

hmm you look tired today, is the job getting to be too much for you

i do my work and i go home...ignore people like this...if you react they are happy and feel like they have won

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Keep in mind that the guy you are talking about probably has fewer friends than an alarm clock. His behavior isn't invisible--even though its currently directed at you, other people hear & notice comments he makes, and it DOESN'T make him look any smarter. In fact, it will probably make others in the class avoid him or not want to offer him help when he needs it. Not a nice position to be in, is it?

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Great job on passing your test!

I agree with Jo Ann's quote too. Sadly, some people are insecure about themselves and feel the need to make negative comments.

I try to realize that the issue isn't even about me, and it makes me feel sorry for the person making the comments.

Take pride in your accompishments and don't worry about anyone else. We can measure our triumphs only against the work we put into acheiveing them ourselves.

If someone does better, or worse, it's themselves they have to face. Sometimes looking in that mirror can be hard to do!

Keep up the great work!:) :) :)

Hugs!

MaryRose

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There is so much back biting in nursing. Sorry to say, this will not be the first time you experience a mean or nasty comment from a fellow student or colleague. Your skin will become thicker in time and you will be able to let things much worse than this roll off your sleeve. Good job on the test, that's awesome!

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I took the pharmacology ATI test for practical nursing and I was excited that I passed... well I passed with an 81% we only had to have a 40% to pass. I was talking to my friend and a fellow student came to stand with us, so my friend asked how he scored he only got a 77% and my friend told him that 77% was good. He said "Not really." My friend then told him what my score was. He got really huffy and said " Well that's just amazing... seeing as you didn't know what Lopid was." I admit when my instructor asked me what Lopid was I went totally blank... but that by no means makes me stupid when it comes to pharm. I can't stand that guy anyways he's cynical and he thinks he knows more than a lot of the other students. I didn't say anything to him even though I wanted to. That comment really ruined my whole day. What should I do in a situation like this. He's in my clinical group so I'm sure it won't be the last time this happens. Sorry for the super long post. Thanks in advance for any replies. Kandy

He may be impressed with himself now but just wait until he gets out on the floor with other graduates. He may not feel so smart then. By the way, a good nurse looks up any drug that she is not familiar with. Don't worry that you didn't know it. When you are actually practicing, it won't matter. What WILL matter is that you always look up what you don't know.

As far as working with him...you don't have to work with him. You will have your own patient(s) and he will have his. Just worry about your own performance. Good luck.

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Take heart, everybody goes blank sometimes. I've been at this 24 years, I'm in the ED, in charge half the time: and the last time I re-upped my ACLS, I stood by the dummy at the MI section and couldn't remember the drug I wanted - NITRO!!! :rotfl: That's why we work in teams, somebody'll remember and clue you in.

This guy pickin' at ya, who's going to be willing to help him out with that kind of mouth, eh?

I like the way Mahatma Ghandi put it when a man asked, since Ghandiji didn't want him to fight, what he was supposed to do when he was insulted? Ghandi asked, "if a man gives you a present, and you refuse to accept the box, to whom does the present belong?" Answer: To the one who was giving it.

If you do not accept the insult as applying to you, then to whom does it remain with ........... :chuckle

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