feeling like I'm a loser

[nola1202]

In a nutshell. Supervisor that can't supervise. I always seem to end up covering for missing shifts

esp nights. I'm just feeling really exausted and I love the job, but don't see an end to

scheduling probs. No one calls back because they are already overworked and need the time off.

I just need to vent I guess. I haven't been there long, and I am grateful to have a job, but I got a call

for an interview, and turned it down out of loyalty to the company, now I'm wishing I hadn't.

[StrwbryblndRN]

Next time say no to your current employer for covering extra shifts and Call back to see if you can get an interview. You are not a loser just in a predicament. I know how you feel though.

It can be hard on the body and mind to be a nurse.

Wish you well. It will get better.

[TheCommuter, BSN, RN]

I got a call for an interview, and turned it down out of loyalty to the company, now I'm wishing I hadn't.

Corporations and workplaces stopped being loyal to their employees many moons ago. Previous generations could expect loyal places of employment in exchange for their labor, but these days are long gone.

Therefore, I am loyal to my personal needs. I do not ever envision myself being loyal to any corporation, hospital, present employer, or future employer.

I certainly hope that your situation improves. Good luck to you!

[netglow, ASN, RN]

You should always interview. There was a poster (I forgot who) who said that he ALWAYS interviews even though he is fine with where he is currently working. He said it made him feel good to know he was valuable to others and also to know what was available at other places.

[Sun0408, ASN, RN]

JUST SAY NO !!!!

[texan2011]

You don't seem at all like a loser to me -- rather just in a difficult situation. So sorry -- workplaces are so tough these days -- so many unhappy, out of sorts, dysfunctional people to deal with and their egos. Hang in there.

[sweetnurse63, BSN, RN]

Do not let a job stress you out or take your peace of mind; it is a miserable place to be. Sometimes many of us nurses struggle daily with the conditions at our jobs, but if management don't make the necessary changes, then we must change it by searching for other opportunities. It is not easy to leave a comfort zone and a job where you have been emloyed for several yrs, it is hard to start over, however; I can't stay at a job that constantly brings me emotional pain and takes my peace away. No job is perfect and there will always be some type of issue, but my inner peace of mind takes priority so that I can be the best that i can be for my patients, my family and myself.

[virgo,student nurse, CNA]

You should be loyal to yourself, they will use you and abuse you as long as you let them. EFF them, DO YOU.

[applewhitern, BSN, RN]

I agree with the poster who said "just say no."

[debRN0417]

I used to bargin...I will come in for whatever night I wanted off...or I would say I would work a half shift or something. If they say no and are not willing to accomodate you, then why should you accomodate them? I understand your feelings, all of us have felt guilt about leaving our residents, but there comes a time when your needs must take a priority. Your employer is not gonna be so happy when you are run down to the core and sick and have to call in because you are beyond exhausted because of all the extra that you have done for them. They will think nothing of writing you up for absences...soooo...set limits on the amout of time you are "reasonably" (think about your needs, health and rest) willing to give them, but make sure you get something in return.

[79Tango]

If I am understanding this correctly-- You are a supervisor that is having to cover for people calling out or not showing up to work? Yes, that is extremely frustrating! I used to get Pis*** when this happened. Especially because it was always the usual suspects.. Talk about resentment. I still get angry when I bump into these people!

[tyvin, BSN, RN]

United we stand blah blah ... loyalty went out decades ago. You're romanticizing the idea of loyalty and it's not reality. I understand how you want to be loyal but it's killing you. I know how you feel when you must cover (people she has no other options!). And yes, it's usually the same sweet darling nurses calling in. The phone rings 20 minutes prior to shift, you're praying they are just calling in to say they will be a little late ... bam, they will never disappoint you; ultimately they don't show.

Are you really surprised. Yes, I know in the beginning you wonder how anyone could call in that much and really be sincere. You'ld think their conscious would get the better of them ... then you start realizing that you are the ultimate scapegoat, the sacrificial lamb they serve daily. And don't forget management ... they know this is happening and don't support you. I know what it's like looking at the schedule just posted and see the names. You can stand there and plan your week by estimating how many call ins you'll have, and you'll be right. They will not disappoint you.

The BS I put up with when I was a charge in that position should be against the law and I'm sure some of it is. Go back to the other place and put another offer on the table. Things will not change, I guarantee you that.

It's survival of the fittest and loyal to one; that's you. I know because you're just like me ... oh maybe it will change ... listen; you have a better chance of winning the lottery. Do what's best for you. I here ya sister, I here ya.