Dream job--Bad timing--Take it or leave it?

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OK, I don't have the job yet but here goes.

I have had my eye on a certain position at a certain hospital for a while. I am working PT elsewhere. This position has not had a vacancy in 2 years (I have been watching). It is Mon-Fri day shift (although I would only work 2-3 days)-it's part time. It's in an OR. I have done OR nursing for 7 years BUT I have NOT been in the OR for 4.5 years. So, I feel very lucky to have an interview. If I went back to the OR, I would only want to at this place. I don't want to work at a big trauma centre. As I said, postings rarely come up at this place. I didnt even think I would get an interview.

Here is the problem, in my personal life, it's a bad time to start a new job because my mom has cancer and likely only has a few months left. This shouldnt be a huge problem but I will need to take a few days off to be with her at the very end and a few days for the funeral. Plus I probably will be a mess mentally. However, work may be a good distraction.

I know my dh went back to work immediately after his dad died.

The thing is if I pass this job up, my OR experience will be very stale and likely I won't be able to return.

However, there are other good places in nursing to work.

Advice??

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Specializes in rehab.

Nursing will be there forever...your mom won't. These are the last few precious moments you have with her. Use it wisley.

Your OR experience may be stale..but hey its been 4.5 years since you worked OR and still got an interview!! it could happen again. Plus you could join a new grad OR program and retrain for the OR in the future.

Trust me, be with your mom.

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Take the job. You can't predict the future. Maybe a miracle will happen and your mother will be spared of the dreaded cancer. Worry about today and be happy. I've learned the hard way to not let a good opportuntie past you by. You'll never know when they will come around again!

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Specializes in AA&I, research,peds, radiation oncology.

I'm so sorry to here about your mother and there may be a miracle ready to happen for her!! I'd talk to my mom and let her know about this opportunity-parents really understand that their children must make decisions at difficult times in their lives. This will ease your mind and she'll know you'll be okay w/o her...

I've been there-my mon was dx with lung cancer 9 months before we-DH, DD and I were moving to Dallas. She gave me her blessing and I went home every other weekend along with several calls daily, until she passed. She was happy that we had the opportunity to better our lives. Your mom will be proud!!:redbeathe

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Nursing will be there forever...your mom won't. These are the last few precious moments you have with her. Use it wisley.

Your OR experience may be stale..but hey its been 4.5 years since you worked OR and still got an interview!! it could happen again. Plus you could join a new grad OR program and retrain for the OR in the future.

Trust me, be with your mom.

I would probably visit the same b/c I only see her on weekends as it is. I WILL be there with her at the end (whether I get fired or not).

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Take the job. You can't predict the future. Maybe a miracle will happen and your mother will be spared of the dreaded cancer. Worry about today and be happy. I've learned the hard way to not let a good opportuntie past you by. You'll never know when they will come around again!

For 2 years now I have stayed in a mediocre job b/c of her illness. We don't know WHEN she will pass.

I didn't take excellent jobs in the last 2 years for this reason and looking back, I could have.

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Take the job if it doesn't impact when you get to see her. I imagine your mother would want you to do something that makes you happy. Worry about what will happen when she passes when the time comes. I've found most jobs to be at least somewhat understanding when family members die.

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Specializes in CCU & CTICU.

When that time comes, you should be allowed family medical leave for this stuff, right? Ask about it!

And go for it! :D

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I would take the job. You need a few days off a week for her, and with this job, you'd have 4 days off a week.

Since you've wanted the job all this time and not had any opportunities to work there, this could be one thing to make you happier while all of the other sad things are going on.

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Specializes in med-surg.

Take the job!

Of course I'm biased because I've been looking for work for two months now; but like other posters said, when the time comes your job will be understanding, or they won't, either way you'll go and be with your mom and see what happens then...

You can't predict the future and can't put your life on hold any longer, go for it!

:up:

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My dad died ten years ago. I gave a up a good opportunity to help him the last several years of his life. He would certainly have understood no matter what I choose and encouraged me to do waht was best for me- cause he loved me.

But, I have never regreted for a day my decisions and as the years pass I am only more glad that I did it. Those years were very precious and he is the only daddy I will ever have.

But, I was very close to my dad and everyone's relationship with a parent or child for that matter is different. For me, jobs, even good jobs,come and go, but I probably have a different out look because i myself got very sick at a young age and lost of dream job and - was not the end of the world. In fact openned up my eyes. My family is my everything.

Good luck whatver you decide

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Specializes in Psych, Skilled Nursing.
For 2 years now I have stayed in a mediocre job b/c of her illness. We don't know WHEN she will pass.

I didn't take excellent jobs in the last 2 years for this reason and looking back, I could have.

If that is the case then take the job and just spend time with your mom when you can.

I hope she is feeling well.

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