Do you experience jealousy from friends/family members?

Bree124, BSN, RN · Jan 23, 2009

Nope - most of my friends and family have college degrees. I agree with what was stated before, being jealous of a nursing degree might reflect on some deeper issues in the relationship...

JB2007, ASN, RN · Jan 23, 2009

Most of the people in my life are happy and proud of my accomplishments. Everyone saw how hard I worked to take care of my family, work nearly full time, and make good grades while going to school full time. However, my sister is always quick to point out how terrible she has it and that is the reason she was not able to finish her degree. I just shrug it off.

RNmom08 · Jan 23, 2009

Yes, definitely. In fact, I'm quite hurt by it - but I have to ignore it. I used to cry all the time because of this particular family members antics. We used to talk ALL the time. Do things together, talk about things, etc. This person turned vile toward me about a semester before I graduated. Then 6 months after I got a job, we bought a house and it got even worse. To the point that she went to my mom's house, tried to prove to mom on paper that we couldn't afford to buy a house (even though she has no clue what our monthly bills are), and then proceeded to tell my mom that I shouldn't bother to have any holiday's for the family at my new house because no one would show up.

She is a very jealous person who says some very mean things about people behind their backs and then is very nicey nice to their face. In the end, I'm glad this happened because now I know what she is really like - her true colors have shown. I do miss what I thought we once had and am still hurt by how things have ended up. It's been a yr and 1/2 now. Point is, there is just some people who cannot be happy for other. I really think she might have some mental problems - but I'm only a nurse, I don't know anything. (according to her)

**sigh**

lpnflorida, LPN · Jan 23, 2009

No, I have not ever experienced this. My family is proud of my own individual accomplishment. I have brother who is computer engineer and a sister who has a high position for a well known health insurance company another sister who also works in the medical field, a daughter who is currently CNA. We all are proud of each other.

island40 · Jan 23, 2009

I am the only college graduate in a long line of Detroit auto factory workers. They have always made more money than me (single mom with an MSN) and have often told me what a waste of time my schooling was. Now they are getting laid off with no other prospects; makes my clean license and the ability to get a job almost anywhere in the world look a whole like better!

My 43 year old sister who recently retired from the Army after 22 years of service has "gone back" to college to finish her accounting degree. It is sometimes hard for me to listen to her complain about the difficulty of school and the cost when I was so harassed.

ToxicShock · Jan 23, 2009

I wish. My family thinks I'm too stupid to even get into nursing school. Apparently changing your major a few times and having tattoos makes you a moron. Who knew!

You can bet that I'll be sure to bring some barbeque sauce for when they eat their words

DLS_PMHNP, MSN, RN, NP · Jan 24, 2009

I wish. My family thinks I'm too stupid to even get into nursing school. Apparently changing your major a few times and having tattoos makes you a moron. Who knew!
You can bet that I'll be sure to bring some barbeque sauce for when they eat their words

You go, girl! :yeah:

Rock on!!!

daisydoll · Jan 24, 2009

Nobody is jealous of me because they have heard plenty of stories from me and none of them would want my job. Only thing I can say ppl are jealous of is that I get more days off, but they are hard earned. :onbch:

CathyLew · Jan 24, 2009

to any rn/lpns do you experience jealousy from friends/family members or even co-workers over the fact that you actually accomplished a diploma/adn/bachelors degree or higher in nursing? if so, what do they say and how do you react to it?

not really that, but i have *friends* i have worked for in my hospital for years that are jealous of where i am now in my career. if they arn't truely happy for you, then they are not your true friends.

you will come across people like that in all areas of your life. not just your job or career. some will be jealous of your lifestyle, some of your relationships, some of your material possessions. i hear it all the time, i am an rn, my hubby a correction officer, no kids. people say....with what you guys make...etc, etc.... i shoot back, yea and with the taxes we pay! (and want to say, the taxes we pay go to pay for your kids to go to school, or for your dead-beat-husband on unenployment....) arrrrggggghhhh! but i keep thinking, anyone who has those comments and thoughts.... it is because they do envy what you have.

if it's family that are jelouse...that is hard. the knee jerk reaction cure for this is to not talk about your job at all. but if you are proud of your job, why shouldn't you be able to talk about it? your job may not be your whole life, but it is a big part of your life.

one thing to remember, what other people say about you means more to you than it does to them. it is a cheap, shallow comment to them. and if they make that one, they are making many more. to you it cuts deep. don't let it fester. brush it off. that will disarm them.

pagandeva2000, LPN · Jan 24, 2009

I can't really say that anyone has been envious of me, but I have had my old peers who were CNA/PCAs not comprehend why I have changed. At this point, I have a license, and am more responsible than before. I've explained to them, some understand, others don't.

I have witnessed, however, some LPNs being extremely jealous and comparing themselves to RNs and have tried to talk some of their LPN friends from going on to become RNs...I guess they didn't want their peer to become their boss. But again, as mentioned previously, they are not really friends if they don't want to encourage growth.

Scrubby · Jan 24, 2009

I haven't experienced any jealously from anyone because I have a university degree. My family and friends know how hard I worked to earn my Bachelor of nursing and supported me through the whole process.

I think anyone who would feel that way would be a very sad person.

lovehospital · Jan 24, 2009

hmmm,my immediate family is proud and supportive of me...

Some of my friends are jealous,they cant stand the fact that I will earn more then them,pathetic,mind you they have husbands who makes good living,beautiful houses,furniture and cars...