how have you dealt with flirting doctors.

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Doctors flirting with nurses? Thoughts?

I am particularly chatty with one of the younger doctors. Never thought anything of it, although he has been mildly flirtatious in the past. Then today, he initiates a conversation and he is laying on the compliments really thick. Now, I really like this guy as a person and would hate to have to lose the comraderie we have built over the past six months. But, it is kind of wierd to have someone that you call by a title be that attentive.

Any of you have a similar situation and how did you deal with it.

By the way, I am married and feel as if I have not done anything to encourage this behavior. I greet nearly all the friendly doctors the same way, though this doctor is my favorite d/t his easygoing ways.

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There was this one doctor who got really hot and heavy with me.

Only clue I could come up with was to marry her :)

Dave, husband of Dr. Jessica

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It's easy to give/receive compliments and lay them on heavy when you are around a person at work for an extended period of time. Often we are with our co-workers greater amounts of time than we are with our own spouses/significant others. After a while we begin to cross the boundary of professionalism. My advice is to speak up and be totally honest. ...."I noticed that you are laying the compliments on pretty thick lately"....May as well air it out and clear it up before it gets too thick.

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if you are married start making apoint of saying something about your "sweetie" whenever you are around this doc. nothing to over the top but just mentioning him and mnaking it known that you are happily married (regardless of if you are or not) might do the trick.

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There was this one doctor who got really hot and heavy with me.

Only clue I could come up with was to marry her

Dave, husband of Dr. Jessica

Dave, you're full of c**p! I like that in a person! :chuckle

I had one tell my how nice my ass was. Finally had to tell him I wasn't interested! :D

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Specializes in ccu cardiovascular.

There is this doc at work that is always commenting how beautiful my eyes are and my blonde hair is so gorgeous, has anyone told me this? i finally said my husband tells me all the time, and be interested to know that someone else noticed too. Well that ended that, the marriage bit always works!

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Specializes in Oncology/Haemetology/HIV.

As I am single:

If they are attractive, personable and single, say "Thank You" - and ocasionally flirt back.

If they are married, and/or jerks, tell them about "Bruno" the jealous weight lifting boyfriend and/or the 24 year old child (my niece that I held guardianship of) that I raised having just had her first baby - and show pictures. Or my 3 cats. Those usually scare most men away. (as I work alot of teaching hospitals, most of the MDs flirting are younger than my 39 years).

Basically, I treat MDs like any other male that I am or am not interested in, that I spend time around.

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Specializes in ER, ICU, L&D, OR.

Ive always been too married for anyone to flirt with me.

Or Im too dense to notice, thats a possibilty also.

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Specializes in ER, PACU.

If your married, than I would set thier butts straight..

Luckily for me, I am single and I work with a LOT of HOT doctors and I love it! Some flirt, some dont, but the eye candy is definitely an incentive to go to work! :D

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Specializes in Clinical Risk Management.

There was this one doc...

I was at a small hospital & new to the area. The doc & I had actually lived on the same street & rented houses from the same landlord. The doc was married & had been trying to get one of my friends to go out with him for ages. Even went out with her to her car in the morning...I don't know if he ever got the hint that she wasn't interested until she & her husband had a baby. He chatted me up a good bit, too. Kept getting too close to me, violating my personal space. The only way I could prevent him from doing this was to keep a table between us while I was charting on the post-op patient who was in our ICU, recovering.

He was a real creep, definitely not an imitation one.:p

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I had this problem with 2 docs recently. Never game them a reason to view me in this way. Couldn't understand it. Then I started to pay more attention to the interactions between other nurses and these docs and the NURSES were initiating sexual comments and jokes. Now I know why these guys think this type of thing is ok. Wonder if your doc got the idea from another nurse that this type of verbal interaction is welcome. Just a thought.

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I once had a doctor [resident] leave a note in my locked "locker". How he got it in there remains a mystery still. He didn't sign it, all he did was right "you're hot" on it. It took me about two weeks to figure out which one it was. At this particular hospital most of the residents we called by name - not title and we had a great working relationship between them and the nurses.

Once I found out which one it was [was single] we went out once and then I told him I wasn't interested..... he was a little strange.

I agree with everyone else though... if you're married make it known -- even if it is just in dropping hints about your significant other....

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