I am particularly chatty with one of the younger doctors. Never thought anything of it, although he has been mildly flirtatious in the past. Then today, he initiates a conversation and he is laying on the compliments really thick. Now, I really like this guy as a person and would hate to have to lose the comraderie we have built over the past six months. But, it is kind of wierd to have someone that you call by a title be that attentive.
Any of you have a similar situation and how did you deal with it.
By the way, I am married and feel as if I have not done anything to encourage this behavior. I greet nearly all the friendly doctors the same way, though this doctor is my favorite d/t his easygoing ways.
Oh how I miss those days. I adore my wife and will be with her until the day I die (likely when she a knife through my head for some stupid comment I made).
But really, is there anything better than running into the nurse you made out with in that bar the week before, and picking it up again in the employee lounge?
Man, most days I don't wish I were young again. But every once in a while . . .
Oh please! she says, rolling on the floor laughing!:bowingpur
I have found, for me the best thing to do is simply be professional with everyone. If you are in a commited relationship then let that be how you present yourself. Talking about your spouse, kids, future plans should be enough of a hint. If that fails I ignore the behavior/don't engage in flirtations(only talk to the MD when pt condition dictates it) and failing that tell them to stop. I have left one job d/t a MD not leaving me alone and I reported it to my supervisor. I have found that I now make sure the boundary is very clear, but one poster is so right in that if the behavior is allowed, it will persist.
I am getting a lot of attention from men outside of work... but at work I am too busy to notice :-) besides I only need to mention that my boyfriend is 6'5'' and a lawyer (see ya in a court doc for a sexual harassment... he he ;-)) to scare everyone away :-)
there was a doctor i worked with that kept giving me googly eyes and asking when we would "hang out".... and i was so not interested.
so i know this is horrible, but it got him to go away.... he was probably in his late 40's.... i said "sorry, i don't date people the same age as my dad." he was so mortified, he even asked me what year i was born and when i told him he turned around and walked the other way.. never to be googlied from again...
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When I was young I looked forward to it. I worked in a large inner city ED that was affiliated with two medical schools so there were always new docs on the floor. Flirting made the placed fun to work in. Since I am now 53, I can only wish that it would happen!!!!
LOL Ivanna
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Oh please! she says, rolling on the floor laughing!:bowingpur