dating in nursing school

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there's a guy in my nursing class who asked me out from the very beginning of the semester. i explaind that i was interested but i really didnt have time and that wasnt fair to him. i really wanted to concentrate on school. throughout the entire semester he kept asking me if i was ready to date yet. it became pretty annoying. i finally gave in a little bit because i really do like this person. but now im realizing that as much as i like him, i cant have a relationship while in nursing school, ESPECIALLY because he is also in the class with me. i dont see anything wrong with this but now of course he's upset, and kind of pressuring me to go out with him. im confused at this point. i think all i want is to be friends right now, because i like where things are. but hes not happy with that. what do i do? am i wrong for not pursuing this relationship at this moment?

Dating takes up a lot of time and energy, and that can be used getting through school... also he seems a little pushy.. to the point of being uncomfortable pushy... he needs to take no for an answer, until you are ready to say yes, . if not that is a red flag. Be careful!

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I would just tell him straight up that I can't. I don't know, maybe it's just me, but considering that Nursing is stressful emotionally, and physically, I'd rather just finish before engaging in a relationship. I'm sure he'll understand if you tell him how you feel. Besides, you have no life for the next so so years.. =P he wont lose you haha.

I'd definitely be distracted with a boyfriend ><.. esp if he were in my classes lol.>

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thanks for all the advice! it feels like such a dilemma...i like him a lot but this is becoming annoying and frustrating. i cant do anything with anyone else without him getting mad at me for not spending time with him. i have a life, and im allowed to do things with other people right? he IS being too pushy and we're not even dating! i think i've decided i can't do this because it's not worth the stupid drama. school is most important to me right now, as well as my family and friends.

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i am currently in a very serious realtionship, and was when i started school. let me just tell you it is very difficult. already in your first semester you are not the same person you were. you dont have the time to do the things you could before or the time to give to the relationship that you did before. i am very lucky in that my guy is very laid back and extremely understanding and supportive. i only hope that he continues to be, as i know at times he must feel neglected. I would be very cautious...especially bc if things do not work out you will still have to see this person every day due to the fact that he is also a fellow student.

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Specializes in NICU.

Honestly, nursing school aside, the fact that this person is being pushy even though you already said 'no' and tries to make you feel guilty for hanging out with other people raises some HUGE red flags for me. Years ago I dated a guy with control 'issues' similar to that. The last straw was when he dislocated my shoulder. Like him or not if he is already making you uncomfortable I would be very leary of pursuing anything further.

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Specializes in I've done LTC, MedSurg, and Dialysis..

You're making the right move by staying single. No one needs the added stress of a brand new relationship in nursing school. I started dating a pushy guy toward the end of LPN school... and he had to go!! My grades suffered and it was so not worth it.

Now I'm married (6 yrs later, different man) and back for my RN. My hubby is wonderful and it can still be hard at times.

There's time for dating when you're done!!

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This guy is being a real nerd for pressuring you and it doesn't seem like he is as commited to nursing school as you are. You're making the right choice.

I started seeing a girl I had a crush on for a long time this past summer. We went on a huge road trip together and she turned out to be a huge, raging, dramatic, mega b-tch. There were ridiculous fights every day over the most meaningless crap and it ended with me needing to take a bus home from south dakota to michigan. All in all, I felt so blessed to be released from that relationship before school started. It would have been horrable if I mixed a relationship with nursing school.

This guy is already showing that he is not really worth the trouble... he's more concerned about what is good for him rather then what is good for you... or the both of you for that matter.

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The question you should ask yourself is what if it doesn't work out. You would have to finish the rest of the school year or semester with this guy. It's better to wait it out. If he still feels the same great...if not, good thing you didn't pursue the relationship further.

Good luck

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hmmmmm dating was the last thing on my mind when I was attending nursing school,just was too stressed out,too busy etc..however life likes surprises and during my last semester of nursing school I met my current boyfriend-at a hospital where I was doing one of my last clinical rotations!! No he was not a patient there,he was/is an employee there,but of course I told him the situation and was hesistant at first with having such heave course load yet I guess attraction was stronger than my doubts so I took a chance..and even though he waited sometime three weeks to see me he sticked it out (damn I must have looked cute the day he met all tired,wearing scrubs,you know the drill haha,at least I keep telling that myself ,LOL)

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I wouldn't do that. What if you guys break up before you graduate and you'll still have to see each other everyday until the end of the program. wouldn't that be awkward?

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I am all for dating classmates in nursing school. Unfortunately my wife won’t allow it. :chair:

On a serious note you’re making the right decision. Don’t fish in the company pond and the same applies to school. Too much drama if things go bad.

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Specializes in ICU.

I wouldn't recommend you dating this guy even if you weren't in nursing school and had all the time in the world. You two are not even a couple yet and he thinks he gets some kind of special treatment or bigger slice of your time pie than anyone else? If it's that bad now, it will only get worse. If he's really as pushy as you are describing, then run, don't walk, from this guy :down:

Take it from a married gal, waaayyy too many fish in the sea to put up with that! Finish on nursing school and then go diving :D

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