dating in nursing school

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there's a guy in my nursing class who asked me out from the very beginning of the semester. i explaind that i was interested but i really didnt have time and that wasnt fair to him. i really wanted to concentrate on school. throughout the entire semester he kept asking me if i was ready to date yet. it became pretty annoying. i finally gave in a little bit because i really do like this person. but now im realizing that as much as i like him, i cant have a relationship while in nursing school, ESPECIALLY because he is also in the class with me. i dont see anything wrong with this but now of course he's upset, and kind of pressuring me to go out with him. im confused at this point. i think all i want is to be friends right now, because i like where things are. but hes not happy with that. what do i do? am i wrong for not pursuing this relationship at this moment?

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Specializes in Orthopedics.

That is a tough spot to be in! I know if it were me, If I really liked him, I would go for it. That is just me. That is most people. That tells me you are not really into him. I have to say, having a broken heart makes it really hard to concentrate. So, if you are not 100%, don't do it. I have a broken heart and am trying to study for finals. My ex came in made me love him again and then told me he is seeing someone else. UGH! I don't need this while I am studying. If you like him, go for it. Why not? I am not convinced you like him all that much and I caution you.

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I agree with the first post. You kind of have to be careful with dating during nursing school because you already have so much on your plate and a boyfriend could be distracting....especially if the relationship doesn't work out. Then you have to deal with that. You have your whole life to date. I'm already married and I'm worried about how my marriage will be affected when and if I get accepted to nursing school. The pre-req's alone are stressing us out! Like FA2NS said, just be careful

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Specializes in Med/Surg, ICU, educator.

that is too near to being a work situation.....I would tell him sorry, maybe after graduation. If he pushes it further, then mention the word harrassment, and follow up if necessary

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Specializes in Orthopedics.

Yeah, he seems a bit much. Too pushy makes me a little leery!

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I wouldn't date anyone I was in school with for the simple fact of distractions, unless he just wants a "study/distraction buddy", but that is just me. Anyways, I am married, and it is hard enough to find time for my husband, who I love and am obligated to. Everyone else in my life waits, and if this guy isn't willing to be put on the back-burner (like, if your study habits don't match up, or if your clinicals are on different schedules) then he needs to step back and leave you alone. My priorities: school, husband, work, everyone else. Husband knows his place, does this guy?

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Dating in nursing school is very hard. There is just simply not enough time. My friend's husband who was in nursing school before me told me that nursing school is a sentence for both the student and the loved ones. BOY WAS HE RIGHT!

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Specializes in L&D/Maternity nursing.

having relationships outside of school is healthy, IMO.

that said, this particular guy sounds like he is making you uncomfortable, so you need to speak up and tell him to lay off. You can do it nicely, but be firm and mean it at the same time. And if he doesnt, then you need to go report him for harassment like another person said.

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Specializes in Chiropractic assistant, CNA in LTC, RN.

I separated from my husband during my first semester of nursing school. I later started dating someone else. The new relationship (he has issues) and the financial strains of being on my own almost caused me to fail out of nursing school. If I was single I would STAY single while in schoool. Nursing school was actually easy for me; it was the rest of my life that almost drove me crazy. Unless you meet "Mr. Wonderful" I'd not date anyone. If he IS truly "Mr. Wonderful" he'll still be there when you graduate. Just my two cents.

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I'm a single guy in my first semester of an ASN program (one more week!!). I've been pondering the same dilemma, though maybe a bit more generally. I have a lot of smart and attractive classmates, and with school killing my social life it's not likely I'll meet someone outside of school. I've been very tempted to ask out classmates, but the prospect of navigating a new relationship (or dealing with a break-up) when we'll be in an intensive program together for another year and a half is pretty scary. I think you are right to wait and see, and your reasons seem pretty obvious and reasonable to me. If he really likes you, he should respect your feelings and just get to know you.

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Specializes in ER/Acute Care.

I had just started dating someone when school first started and I had to cut things off a few weeks in because the time commitment of school and my job was entirely too much to continue with a new relationship, in my opinion. Of course I'm sure my motivation would have been higher if I really was in love with the person, but it was just too new and uncertain to risk my success in school.

I've also sworn off dating anyone in class. I agree with one of the previous posters, I just think its too risky to date anyone in the work setting. Nursing school is very comparable to the work setting. If things don't work out, you have to coexist with that person until graduation. So if you do it, be sure the guy is worth the risk! :loveya:

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I'm a single guy in my first semester of an ASN program (one more week!!). I've been pondering the same dilemma, though maybe a bit more generally. I have a lot of smart and attractive classmates, and with school killing my social life it's not likely I'll meet someone outside of school. I've been very tempted to ask out classmates, but the prospect of navigating a new relationship (or dealing with a break-up) when we'll be in an intensive program together for another year and a half is pretty scary. I think you are right to wait and see, and your reasons seem pretty obvious and reasonable to me. If he really likes you, he should respect your feelings and just get to know you.

yea i feel the same. i always tell myself to hold off till i get my degree. or when the summer and winter vacation comes, just go wild for those months and come back to be ready for nursing school.

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