dating in nursing school

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there's a guy in my nursing class who asked me out from the very beginning of the semester. i explaind that i was interested but i really didnt have time and that wasnt fair to him. i really wanted to concentrate on school. throughout the entire semester he kept asking me if i was ready to date yet. it became pretty annoying. i finally gave in a little bit because i really do like this person. but now im realizing that as much as i like him, i cant have a relationship while in nursing school, ESPECIALLY because he is also in the class with me. i dont see anything wrong with this but now of course he's upset, and kind of pressuring me to go out with him. im confused at this point. i think all i want is to be friends right now, because i like where things are. but hes not happy with that. what do i do? am i wrong for not pursuing this relationship at this moment?

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This guy sounds like a misogynist of the highest degree. In general I think dating can be managed in nursing school as long as expectations are clarified from the beginning. I have been in the same situation where the guy was overly pushy, demanding and made me feel guilty for not wanting to spend every moment with him. Don't do it. Just my two cents. Good luck though!

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Ugh, If he's this pushy now, Imagine how he'd be if you were actually a couple. You are definitely doing the right thing by wanting to focus on school.

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i am currently dating a guy that i met in my prereqs (2 years ago) and although i will say that the road has not always been a smooth one, i do not regret starting a relationship right before nursing school. todd (my boyfriend) is also a nursing major and we took some pre-reqs and a few pre-nursing classes together and it was a lot of fun being able to study together and have class together. he was like a security blanket for me, we were partners in group work and i always knew i had someone to walk to class with and sit with. but unfortunately our grades started to suffer because instead of quality study time we would be talking a lot. todd ended up changing majors to the 2 year program because he was not accepted into the 4 year and since then our grades are starting to improve! i think it is possible to date in nursing school and be successful but be aware of your priorities. there should never be a time when you put off studying to hang out with a boyfriend..you are in nursing school to learn, not really to socialize. if you feel that you have the self discipline to say no to a movie or dinner or time with your boyfriend because you have to study or write a paper, then go for it..if you feel like he might get in the way of your success then i think it is best to wait. todd and i also broke up for a week or so while we had class together..talk about awkward! it is hard enough to go through a break up and even harder when you are forced to see and sit beside the person who broke up with you..keep that in mind. but like i said, i don't regret my decision. each person is different so ask yourself what you think is best for you! good luck :D

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I am all for dating classmates in nursing school. Unfortunately my wife won't allow it. :chair:

On a serious note you're making the right decision. Don't fish in the company pond and the same applies to school. Too much drama if things go bad.

Lol! My husband frowns upon dating as well.

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My boyfriend and I were both accepted into the same nursing school. We have been dating 3 years as of Nov.3. We just finished up our first semester of Nursing School & our relationship is still growing strong. Everyone knows in class that we are together, but we do complete different work and make completely different grades. Outside of school we continue developing relationship. We leave school at school and our relationship at home. We know when to take time for school, work, & each other.

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if i was you i would not go for it, he is pressuring you to go out with him and he is in the same class as you i think nursing school is hard as it's and you don't want to complicate things for yourself. imagine you go out with him and things don't work out and you would be put in uncomfortable position and maybe it might affect your school work. i think you should tell him you just want to be friends and after you guys graduate you will see where things will lead. just focus on school and if you want to date don't date your classmate. let us know what u decide to do!

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i definitely appreciate all the input! i think i am deciding to remain single. school is more important to me right now and i am very happy with my life at this moment. i am young, i still have time to find a guy and im ok with that. :)

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Hey!

I'm a guy starting Nursing school this Jan. I don't plan to date either b/c what some of the ppl say on this forum appears to make sense. There is still 2 yrs left of hanging out with the same huge class of ppl and it would cause alot of drama and awkwardness and stress to have a relationship go sour or whatnot.

So maybe ill hold out till after graduation or somewhere near the finish line to start dating.

But I would be a liar if I said it is not tempting b/c there are a bunch of beautiful girls in my class, haha :cry:

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I'd say wait! There is no reason for him to be so pushy! He should be well aware of all the hours and hours it takes to study since he's doing it himself. Additionally, you don't need the drama in class. You are there to learn.

It's hard enough having a husband who is uber patient & understanding much less someone that comes off that demanding!

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