Can't we all just get along??

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Long time lurker, new time poster. It seems to me that there is a lot of anger and hate directed toward one another on these boards. My question is WHY? It feels like these boards are just a microcosm of how nurses are to each other in real life. Why are nurses so mean, caddy and rude to each other. Maybe this is the reason that although we clearly outnumber other healthcare professionals we can't ever get anything done, advance our profession...because we are too busy quabbling over meaningless BS and trying to put one another down. I know that this isn't everyone, and I have seen some great and supportive posts, but holy moly!

Specializes in GI,Telemetry, Trauma ICU, Endoscopy.

You're right it is. Got sucked into negative talk. Sorry. I'm not looking for "back patting", just mutual respect among professionals.

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
I agree with you that reaching out for clarification is a good thing. Your reaction to my post seemed strong which I took as defensive/attacking. My point about this whole thing is not about people's opinions, but about how in general nurses treat each other. I genuinely love nursing and my fellow nurses. It pains me to see any kind of behavior where we don't support one another, and I'm not just talking about allnurses.com.[/quote']

My point is, most people support one another in this profession; our profession wouldn't have evolved to this point if it didn't; one thing we can only control is our own reaction to another's reaction, or personality. The human condition is just that-human. It doesn't change because we are nurses; sometimes the same personalities that we see in our pts are in our peers-that's including ALL members of our healthcare team; once the realization is reached it makes life easier, and more understandable, and it's helps how to approach it.

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Specializes in Gerontology RN-BC and FNP MSN student.

An honest answer is like a warm hug.

It's awesome to come here and get truthful, honest opinions that don't line up with mine...keeping an open mind and a willingness to hear others has made me a better person and better nurse. :yes:

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Specializes in Gerontology RN-BC and FNP MSN student.

And yes, we can get along...and actually we do get along. :-D

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Specializes in critical care.
You're right it is. Got sucked into negative talk. Sorry. I'm not looking for "back patting" just mutual respect among professionals.[/quote']

I get it. Really, I do. Nursing is an extremely diverse population. You have every type of person here, at every stage of life, with every religious background and political affiliation. Things will get heated. I'm telling you...... Take the time to learn from all of the ideas shared, especially the ones you don't agree with. Your patients are as diverse as the group here, if not more so. Nurses here can help you see when your thinking on something could be wrong. This is so important if a situation is really challenging you and you just can't talk about it at work for fear of it negatively reflecting on you. These types of conversations are probably the ones where you see things going wrong. The OP asks, "is this okay?" and the responses are upsetting to them. But this is a safe place for that to happen. Maybe some feelings get hurt, but jobs aren't lost. And, knowledge is broadened if the OP opens his or her mind to it.

More often than not, the insults go flying when people aren't willing to open their minds to other ideas. You don't have to agree with others' opinions but it really does help you in the long run to take the time to understand them.

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Specializes in ICU.

If everyone agreed all of the time this would be a pretty boring website. I enjoy a lively debate. It's good for the soul.

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Academics.

7) It's the internet.

Forget about 1 through 6. Number 7 nails it.

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Forget about 1 through 6. Number 7 nails it.

See? :)

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
Long time lurker, new time poster. It seems to me that there is a lot of anger and hate directed toward one another on these boards. My question is WHY? It feels like these boards are just a microcosm of how nurses are to each other in real life. Why are nurses so mean, caddy and rude to each other. Maybe this is the reason that although we clearly outnumber other healthcare professionals we can't ever get anything done, advance our profession...because we are too busy quabbling over meaningless BS and trying to put one another down. I know that this isn't everyone, and I have seen some great and supportive posts, but holy moly!

Why can't we all get along? Because some people -- who shall remain nameless -- see fit to throw out numerous insults and then demand why we can't all get along.

(And it's "catty", not "caddy".)

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
There are plenty of viewpoints and opinions that are very mean and rude. Whether they get reported, I have no idea. If you didn't like my opinion maybe you shouldn't have read this post.

And this is one of those rude viewpoints.

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People online can be rude & disrespectful to one another. Society has become disrespectful...

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Specializes in ER.

I haven't noticed a lot of anger here. Maybe I'm not reading those threads?

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