I'm not sure if this belongs under the Bullying category, but I am starting to feel bullied. I
t all started when I informed the director of our unit the reason for the delays in getting patients admitted from the psych ER to our inpatient unit was because the patient assessments had not been done earlier while the patients were waiting for available beds, some 12 or more hours previously.
I did not seek out the director and say, "hey look, So-and-So wasn't doing their job for the previous 5 hours before I came to work". However, this nurse was spoken to about the delays. This nurse now believes that I "tattle-tailed" on her and has demanded an apology!
I do not feel I owe her any apology and have told her so. I have also told her that I did not seek out to get her in any trouble, just stated the facts of our delay in treating patients.
Since this time....over a month now....she refuses to talk to me except for the bare minimal required of us in order to do our work (it's a small admissions office). And she never lets an opportunity go by where she points out an error that I have made. I respond each time by saying, "Thank you for pointing that out to me!"
In addition, she will inform me when I come in for my shift that all assessments were done, will roll her eyes at me, and state "so there's no reason to tell on me!" I ignore these remarks.
I do not wish to escalate this drama any further. I think the whole thing is so juvenile. My purpose in posting about this incident is to gain feedback. Thanks.
If the OP sucks up as you suggest, she is writing "sucker" on her forehead.
I don't see it that way. To me, the ability to set aside the need to be right for the sake of maintaining a good working relationship is a mark of maturity, not a sign of weakness.
I don't see it that way. To me, the ability to set aside the need to be right for the sake of maintaining a good working relationship is a mark of maturity, not a sign of weakness.
that is a nice thought, for the most part, won't work. I know, been there down that.
Sounds like bullying to me. I agree with the others; continue to maintain your professionalism regardless of her attitude. In the event, it becomes intolerable, then you need to bring it to the attention of your manager. I maintain this sense of obligation/insight: you are not going to work to have your emotional cup filled, but rather your financial cup... you can't pay bills with "friendship." This is not me being cynical, but helping you to keep things in prospective...
No this doesn't rise to the level of lateral violence. Lateral violence is the guy who put sugar in my gas tank when a supervisor made me write him up when she caught him sleeping.
No this doesn't rise to the level of lateral violence. Lateral violence is the guy who put sugar in my gas tank when a supervisor made me write him up when she caught him sleeping.
actually that isn't lateral violence, i am not sure which law was broken, but it goes WAY past lateral violence. destruction of personal property comes to mind, with malicious intent.
I agree -- the coworker is acting in a juvenile and immature fashion. But the OP did go over her head without informing her first of the problem and giving her an opportunity to improve so I think there's fault on both sides.
Without commenting on the specifics on this incident - confronting a co-worker directly is not always the best or appropriate solution to an interpersonal conflict. It depends on the problem, unit, and dynamics of the organization.
she refuses to talk to me except for the bare minimal required of us in order to do our work (it's a small admissions office). And she never lets an opportunity go by where she points out an error that I have made. I respond each time by saying, "Thank you for pointing that out to me!"
In addition, she will inform me when I come in for my shift that all assessments were done, will roll her eyes at me, and state "so there's no reason to tell on me!" I ignore these remarks.
I do not wish to escalate this drama any further.
Maybe it's my male perspective or my personality but:
Sounds like things are running perfectly right now.
Anna Flaxis, BSN, RN
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I don't see it that way. To me, the ability to set aside the need to be right for the sake of maintaining a good working relationship is a mark of maturity, not a sign of weakness.