Boyfriend of a Nursing Student

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I'm in a very committed relationship with a nursing student at a different school about a half an hour from me. We've been dating for a little over a year and both agree that marriage is in or future, I'm extremely proud of her for her career choice and try everything to be as supportive as I can from a distance but for the past few weeks I can't get one thing off my mind. I've seen the threads about a boyfriend being upset that his girlfriend has to touch or see another man's member among other things and that isn't what this is about, at first that thought and picture really bothered me but at this point I'm honestly over that and don't really care about it, I understand it's part of the job and I'm not concerned. I'm also not worried about her being turned on by inserting a catheter or giving a bed bath but the one thing that bothers me is how a nurse can have any interest in seeing her significant other naked after seeing several men naked that day at work, I know they are "just body parts" on patients but is it really different when it's your boyfriend or husband's? I know this question will probably seem dumb to everyone on here but as a management major who has no experience in the medical field it's hard for me to imagine that she won't eventually become desensitized to the male body and anatomy and develop the "seen one, seen them all" mentality. That would just really be hard because I know the way I look at her body and like to think that it goes both ways and I would just hate to lose that. Any advice would be appreciated, if you want to tell me how immature it is or to get over it then save your time, I realize it's small and probably largely unreasonable but I'm just looking to see how other couples or husbands have dealt with this if they've had the same problem or if it really isn't a problem then I would like to hear that too. Thanks in advance

Specializes in Hospice.
Not to mention you might learn a thing or two. I'm constantly amazed how many people don't even know the rough geography of female genitals - men and women. I mean, you don't necessarily need to know what Bartholin glands do, but I know people who don't even know which order the holes go in. It's like there's a cultural cloaking device over the whole area. If one more RN calls it a "hooha" I'm going to start pelting people with anatomical models.

ETA: ... he said, digressing.

I NEVER use slang when discussing girly bits and vajayjays...

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Not to mention you might learn a thing or two. I'm constantly amazed how many people don't even know the rough geography of female genitals - men and women. I mean, you don't necessarily need to know what Bartholin glands do, but I know people who don't even know which order the holes go in. It's like there's a cultural cloaking device over the whole area. If one more RN calls it a "hooha" I'm going to start pelting people with anatomical models.

ETA: ... he said, digressing.

You carry around "anatomical models", like, on you?

That's some orificenal, D.

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Specializes in Cardiology, Cardiothoracic Surgical.

You know, out of all the amusing questions my friends (I guess in this case, husband) asks about nursing, I've never got the "Hey babe, what does my member look like compared to other patients?" :roflmao:

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Specializes in Behavioral Health.
You carry around "anatomical models", like, on you?

That's some orificenal, D.

I feel like with quotes it sounds like I have a bag of sex toys on me all the time.

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"There is Work member, and there is Recreational member. I'm sure your GF knows the difference. "

- Farawyn

That does it. THIS is what I want on my next CafePress T-shirt!!!!! :D

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Specializes in Corrections, Psych, Public Health.
The only words from the Op that register are "member", "hard", and "small".

And now some definitions:

Work member- You get paid to touch it.

Recreational member- you would gladly pay to touch it

Any questions?

OMG!! Love it!

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Specializes in Corrections, Psych, Public Health.
That does it. THIS is what I want on my next CafePress T-shirt!!!!! :D

Farawyn you better trademark this quote, I'd love a t-shirt with this quote also!!

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Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.
Not to mention you might learn a thing or two. I'm constantly amazed how many people don't even know the rough geography of female genitals - men and women. I mean, you don't necessarily need to know what Bartholin glands do, but I know people who don't even know which order the holes go in. It's like there's a cultural cloaking device over the whole area. If one more RN calls it a "hooha" I'm going to start pelting people with anatomical models.

ETA: ... he said, digressing.

One night when I was working in the ED, one of my co-workers went out to triage. He came back in, and I asked him what was wrong with the patient.

He said "She's got a problem in her 'gitchy gitchy yaya dada'."

Best. description. of. a. lady parts. problem. ever.

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
One night when I was working in the ED, one of my co-workers went out to triage. He came back in, and I asked him what was wrong with the patient.

He said "She's got a problem in her 'gitchy gitchy yaya dada'."

Best. description. of. a. lady parts. ever.

Lol! I have never heard a lady parts called that.

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Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.
Lol! I have never heard a lady parts called that.

You're probably too young to understand the reference, but it came from the song "Lady Marmelade" by LaBelle. It's a song about a hooker, which made my co-worker's reference especially apt.

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
You're probably too young to understand the reference, but it came from the song "Lady Marmelade" by LaBelle. It's a song about a hooker, which made my co-worker's reference especially apt.

I've heard of the song but I've never heard someone, in person, call a lady parts that. :p I've heard a lot of other words. Haha!

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Specializes in Pediatric Hematology/Oncology.
That does sound like a good idea, I enjoy helping her study anytime I can and I appreciate the advice. But I'm really not worried about her finding a patient sexy but concerned about all of it changing the way she thinks about me or to lose intimacy because of it, if that makes any sense. While I know it's probably not reasonable I was just wondering if anyone encountered this but now I'm realizing that I was wrong and just had a hard time thinking about it from a medical perspective.

I feel like you're still not getting this. You really need to know something: nursing is hard. A lot of times, there are WAY more serious things on a woman's mind than sex. We just don't have the convenient testosterone to push it out of the way and get ready for sexytime the way a guy can. School is stressful and there will be times, particularly after clinical, where she's just not into it. Don't you dare think it's because she looked at one too many naked dudes.

You need to study with her so you can learn what empathy means. It will be very useful to you in the very near future.

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