Boyfriend of a Nursing Student

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I'm in a very committed relationship with a nursing student at a different school about a half an hour from me. We've been dating for a little over a year and both agree that marriage is in or future, I'm extremely proud of her for her career choice and try everything to be as supportive as I can from a distance but for the past few weeks I can't get one thing off my mind. I've seen the threads about a boyfriend being upset that his girlfriend has to touch or see another man's member among other things and that isn't what this is about, at first that thought and picture really bothered me but at this point I'm honestly over that and don't really care about it, I understand it's part of the job and I'm not concerned. I'm also not worried about her being turned on by inserting a catheter or giving a bed bath but the one thing that bothers me is how a nurse can have any interest in seeing her significant other naked after seeing several men naked that day at work, I know they are "just body parts" on patients but is it really different when it's your boyfriend or husband's? I know this question will probably seem dumb to everyone on here but as a management major who has no experience in the medical field it's hard for me to imagine that she won't eventually become desensitized to the male body and anatomy and develop the "seen one, seen them all" mentality. That would just really be hard because I know the way I look at her body and like to think that it goes both ways and I would just hate to lose that. Any advice would be appreciated, if you want to tell me how immature it is or to get over it then save your time, I realize it's small and probably largely unreasonable but I'm just looking to see how other couples or husbands have dealt with this if they've had the same problem or if it really isn't a problem then I would like to hear that too. Thanks in advance

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It's different seeing your SO's body parts vs. caring for patients. When caring for a pt, it's just that. You're caring for them as a whole, including the body parts. There's nothing sexual about it. If she becomes detached and shows no interest in physical contact with you, it probably has more to do with how she feels about you rather than being desensitized to male parts.

I LOL about being turned on by inserting a catheter. Thanks for that.

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"There is Work member, and there is Recreational member. I'm sure your GF knows the difference. "

- Farawyn

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"There is Work member, and there is Recreational member. I'm sure your GF knows the difference. "

- Farawyn

Far, you have such a way with words. Can I use this quote in the future? I'm not sure what situation will require it, but I'd like to use it if an occasion should call for it.

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Far, you have such a way with words. Can I use this quote in the future? I'm not sure what situation will require it, but I'd like to use it if an occasion should call for it.

As long as you give me creds.

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When I finally get my membership I may use that as my signature...

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When I finally get my membership I may use that as my signature...

You should probably put it in context haha.

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Context is in the eye of the beholder.

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As a heterosexual female, I can tell you that catheterized memberes are not sexy memberes. I have never ever ever paused sexy time and thought, "Wow, this guy is nothing compared to the patient in room 202." Not once.

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
As a heterosexual female, I can tell you that catheterized memberes are not sexy memberes. I have never ever ever paused sexy time and thought, "Wow, this guy is nothing compared to the patient in room 202." Not once.

Ditto. After working in corrections & having guys pull out their memberes all day, every day, you really don't think "Oh my, what a lovely member you have there!". Honestly, the first time an inmate pulled his out & stuck it through the food slot I was so pissed off.

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Ditto. After working in corrections & having guys pull out their memberes all day, every day, you really don't think "Oh my, what a lovely member you have there!". Honestly, the first time an inmate pulled his out & stuck it through the food slot I was so pissed off.

That would have made me so mad! I've got a bit of Irish in me and man oh man, a prison inmate is no match for the Irish side of Purple_roses. No no. How long did you last at that job?

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Oncology.

I appreciate you coming here and trying to gain some understanding of what your girlfriend is studying and pursuing. That's wonderful. I can only speak from individual experience, but let me just say that as a heterosexual female, when I see a man's naked body in a clinical setting, there is absolutely no connection being formed between that and significant other. I see my boyfriend as completely separate and having been exposed to more naked men has not at all changed my appreciation for him. From what I've observed, nurses and nursing students are usually able to compartmentalize this very well.

Also, I'm sorry, but I think it's hilarious that you would even entertain the notion that inserting a urinary catheter could be arousing. Thank you for a good laugh.

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